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Friday, August 31, 2012

READERS MAIL: How Men Drug And Abuse Ladies (A Must Read)


I apologise for the last reader’s mail. I promise I won’t post such again.

Hi, Ladun

I am Ify, a girl like you who also has fears, beliefs, reservations and just your regular typical Nigerian girl. This past few weeks has been one hell of a game for me. I have really been unsettled and I thought I share this story with you. When Cynthia (the lady killed in the hotel room in Festac) surfaced the internet and various new media, I was scared and it brought back a whole lot of memories to me and also served as an eye opener. Many people castigated and criticized Cynthia (may her gentle soul rest in peace). But my point is, it could be any body, anybody at all. We have met people through various social media, some have ended up well, and some have not with painful memories. To cut the long story short, let me kindly share with you my encounter with social media especially the very popular Blackberry Messenger BBM.  Click to continue reading…


I am a graduate and currently serving in Kaduna, I could have runced it, but I needed somewhere to clear my head and forget about my ugly encounter.

Here is my story, I happened to have a married man as contact on my BBM. He had been asking me out for over six months and I refused to date him. As time went on, he invited me clubbing when his wife was outside the country. I went with him all night. We spent most of the night at a popular club on the Island. I also met his click of friends, married as well. Majority of them married with their various mistresses and we had mad fun. After all the clubbing and drinking, he lodged me in a hotel somewhere at obalende, I felt kindda safe with him. We did not have sex. He touched me in places I had never ever imagined, he kissed me so passionately but guess what? He did not have sex with me. We did all sorts but there was no penetration, so to an extent I trusted he was a good person to be around. I did not know that it was all part of the plan, he gave me N10,000 and put me in a cab to go home the next morning,

 We kept talking and chatting and sending naked pictures to each other and he told me nutty things how he wanted to whisper things in my ear, I blushed. We didn't see for two weeks and that is because of his wife just came back from Turkey. One faithful evening, he pinged me that he was organising a beach party/boat cruise and he would love for me to be his date. He also told me that he wanted to open a BBM chat, as a medium for his friends and my friends to interact. I was excited; I just wanted to have fun. I was able to get five of my very hot friends. The BBM group opened and we got chatting. I also realised that majority of them were married and working in reputable firm. It was fun; we didn't mind if they were married, we just wanted to have fun, as well as some other girls apart from my friends in the group. We chatted exclusively, sent pictures to the BBM group to introduce ourselves, and we had opened group conversations pending the beach party, and as excited as we were we went shopping for nice sexy beach wears.

The D-day finally arrived. We all assembled at the boat club. I was wowed; this was a high class party. We were cruising in a boat loaded with goodies. Drinks and hot babes and as well "MARRIED MEN".I did not care, I just said in my mind that I would not roll with married men anymore after this. But for now all I wanted to do was catch some fun after all, I aint paying bills. It was a private beach resort. Most of the beach facilities I got to know where owned by multinational companies. We got out of the boat, and went to where we were partying. It was a duplex made outta wood very nice setting, I felt comfortable because it even had a fence around it, separating it from other beach house around, so there was privacy and of course bouncers (heavy looking guys) guarding the place. I said to myself, this must be heaven am I dreaming. Anyways, we felt free with each other because we had been chatting, it was 5:30pm and the party just started.

We had drinks flowing from the private bar tender which happens to be one of the men in the group. Reality struck when I realised I was feeling dizzy and feeling really funny and light headed, not only me but other girls around me. There was something strange about it. I was also feeling HORNY as hell! I had been drugged. They monitored us and when they knew the drug had really gone dip in our system, they moved us up into the main beach house. I could still see face but was too weak and horny to react. Mr B, the man who took me clubbing carried me in his hands like a sacrifice. He put me down on the floor and other men also carried each girl to themselves. We were eight in number. 8 girls and 8 guys and they all stripped us down and had sex with us. I enjoyed it a bit cos I was horny. It was mixed feeling because I cried, I moaned, I do not know how many times he came into me, he pounded me hard, I was dizzy he grabbed me with force, all I could notice was the wedding ring on his hand. How wicked and miserable married me can be. How inhuman and heartless. All of them took turns in switching partners and slept with all of us. I passed out, that is the last thing I could remember. I felt water poured on me. I noticed all the other girls around me too were half naked and some totally naked. We spent the night at the beach; the men were nowhere to be found. I looked around me all I saw was packs of used condoms and I ran to pick my clothes and possibly raise an alarm. I got dressed, found my phone with and envelope, it contained N16,000 and a note asking us to take N2000 each for transport. 

Tears of anger and rage filled my eyes and the girls around me as well. We were drugged and used like tissue paper. I grabbed my phone and noticed a ping came in. I checked my fone, I noticed the group had been deleted, and a message via BBM from MR B came in. He threatened me that if I say a word to anyone I would regret it. I told him he was a bastard, and he said try it. A picture came in, several pictures of us naked on the floor. Pictures of them humiliating us but they blurred the faces of the men. In total I got 20 pictures. I was not myself for a month. I went back to school, I had no one to talk to, and the rest of the semester was hell for me. My CGPA dropped drastically. It was the worst out of the worst result I have ever had. Till today I and my friends have not discussed this with anyone. But all I could do when I heard Cynthias story was to narrate my own ordeal anonymously and spread the news, spread the words, and pray they see it and changed their ways. I am now born again. I have given my life to Christ. I fear men so much I cannot even move close to them. I still have night mares, but with time God will strengthen me and I will move on. My advice to single ladies out there, do not be desperate for fun, pray to God to open your eyes of understanding. Pray hard. He who kneels before God, will stand before kings and queens, to all married women, pray hard for God to intervene in your marriages and turn your husbands from bad habits and bad friends. As for me, I do not think I ever want to get married or date again. That chapter has been closed for good in my life.

Dear Ladun, please do not ignore my mail. Please post it. There are a lot of things we ladies need to learn including you. Please post it on your blog and save a soul. It could be your friend, sister, cousin, and neighbour. God bless you as you pass it on. To all readers, I do not care if you insult me or rain abuses at me; my job is to share this encounter with you and save you from any mishap. God bless you all.

139 comments:

  1. Young lady, I don't mean to be harsh but I think you were very gullible. You said he was asking you out and you refused. If you were really serious about him, you would have deleted him off your bb. It is because somewhere in your mind (if you are truthful to yourself0 you thought you could gain a thing or two from him. I'm sorry but you have yourself to blame. Bad company corrupts good manners! If you really don't want trouble in this life, don't court it. Stay as far away from it as you can manage. I'm sorry for what you went through but God will give you the strength to get through.

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    1. Will you shut up! Doesn't she know it already? Now is not the time to apportion blame. Or you think you can blame her more than she has blamed herself? Do you know how many potential victims she has saved by doing this even with the threat of her nude pictures being exposed hanging over her head. Let's thank God for her life and pass the message accross to our loved ones. My dear, may God be your refuge and strength. I will keep praying for you.

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  2. Young lady, I don't mean to be harsh but I think you were very gullible. You said he was asking you out and you refused. If you were really serious about him, you would have deleted him off your bb. It is because somewhere in your mind (if you are truthful to yourself0 you thought you could gain a thing or two from him. I'm sorry but you have yourself to blame. Bad company corrupts good manners! If you really don't want trouble in this life, don't court it. Stay as far away from it as you can manage. I'm sorry for what you went through but God will give you the strength to get through.

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  3. traffic jam go dey for this post o!
    social media don kill Nigerians and Nigerian marriages.

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    1. Ify,u might v to go for deliverance. Der r different types of jazz. Its nt untill dey remove ur body parts,dey cld v cleaned ur privates wt white handkerchiefs or any of dose ritually kinda things. Cos dey rily went out of deir way to carry out dis dastardly act.dey may v not planned d whole thing for fun. Just pray,u mite not see d effect of what dey v done now.

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  4. God bless you my dear and thank you for sharing this. It could happen to anybody... Girls be very careful whom you date or hang out with.. both married men and single men do the same. I remember going out with a guy once.. he drugged my drink and I didn't know, all I remember was waking up in his bed naked.

    All these men that commit such atrocities should be named and shamed. Seriously.

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  5. I really feel sorry for you. This kind of horrible stories are very common around Nigeria nowadays.

    This is also what happens to women who're too immature and shameless to be hooking up or going to parties or talking to married men via BBM Groups.

    How can the writer go to a beach party with married men? What do you think was going to happen? You guys were just going to eat and drink? You were just chewed by 8 men like chewing gum and dump in the trash. What a pity.

    This should serve as a warning and eye-opener to women (in general) and hopefully some of them learn something or two from your story. I still believe there are a lot of women out there still doing these types of things.

    Women are there own worst enemy. Single women find married men to sleep with hurting the wife (their fellow woman) in the process.

    I bet this is not the first time the writer has been sleeping around. This is what runz girls do. It explains how the writer was able to get 5 of her friends to willingly send nude pics to each other via BBM Group and then go to a beach party with married men.

    This is what happens when people make stupid decisions, and I hope the writer and many women will learn from this story. I doubt some will learn from it though.

    What a pity.

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  6. Wow! Just wow!!! Will write more when I get myself back.

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  7. Excuse me I might be ignorant and what not. From what I read what's paining you is the #2000 they gave each of you, instead of probably #500,000 u were expecting. How would you go out with a married man, hook his friends up with ur friends and not expect sex please. The only people I pity when it comes to this been drugged issue are situations that couldn't have been avoidable. This ur situation was totally avoidable, so don't be sitting here talking about you been drugged and abused, you asked for it and you got it. Exchanging nude pictures with a married man, bought sexy bikini to go to the beach with him, got a beach house sef, and u expected to just drink and go, is the man your father?

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  8. *catches breath* 2000naira each? 2000naira each??? I'll come back after I get over that.

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    1. Lwkm..I stl can't get over dat part and I hav d feeling d writer was incensed at d amount dey dropped,if to say dem pay 'big money'..maybe she wlda gotten over it and said 'its one of those things'..she 4 no come here..I kinda find it hard to sympathise wt gals dat 'play' with married men..after u go dey kabash wen u marry..and of cos she go say na only dat one single married man she for do 4 ds life *yimu*..sorry sha..make pple learn,dats if dey like o..nowadays dem no too dey beg person again...NEKS

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    2. Of course if they paid big money she woulda gotten over it. See her talking about "married men are wicked and heartless".. Lool. Writer, thank God you're alive. Thank God you're now born again. But 2000naira??? I will get over this next year.

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  9. The most this girl can do is reveal their names cos I know quite a number of all these foolish married men on the island, looking for loose girls to prey on.
    Oniru estate girls can give u loads of stories!

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    1. I was going to say the same thing but I realised he probably gave her a fake name. In all if they released the pics we that KNOW them can easily identify them cause beach boys are a rather small circle and I can only think of one group that would be as callous and CHEAP as 2k and obalende hotel??? Infact maybe they are just "friends of" the real click as I can't imagine any so grungy as to go and lay his body down in obalende..unless they are from Dolphin. That's all I will say before I chew moth

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  10. Issoriat......God is watching all the perpetrators of evil, no sinner would go unpunished, ladies try stick to your single lovers and be careful the type of places you visit, ensure someelses knows the partner in question and in case of eventualities he is traceable. In all fairness anyone can fall victim buh if then being careful and prayerful is the watch word.# Atar says so thru asalablacberry#

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  11. God Bless You Ify! You can move on!
    Ekposblog.blogspot.com

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  12. at least they used condoms. i hope none of the CD burst/

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  13. Issoriat......God is watching all the perpetrators of evil, no sinner would go unpunished, ladies try stick to your single lovers and be careful the type of places you visit, ensure someone else knows the partner in question and in case of eventualities he is traceable. In all fairness anyone can fall victim buh then being careful and prayerful is the watch word.# Atar says so thru asalablackberry#

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  14. So you would have died for 2000naira? 2000naira??? I still can't get over this.

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    1. I tire... The story no give me 'talking mouth'. With all the stories I have been hearing, I must be a saint.

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    2. Correction. She would have died over a negative balance. The 2k was for transport. Factor in the cost of the bikini she bought, she operated at a loss

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  15. anon 11:46, leave Oniru estate girls o!
    There stories are too much. i wonder what the STD and HIV rate in that estate is?
    Those girls are what my SA peeps call bauws.

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  16. IFY in as mch as i feel 4 u n ur frnds,i stil tink d fault came 4rm u,u said u didn't wnt any tin to do wit a married man bt u went clubbing wit him al nite,n even allowed him 2 do "unimaginable" tins 2 u(witout being drugged) al 4 10k? u stil encouraged him n even invited ur frnds 2 join d page n even d party,wat were u expectng? dat they wil spend dat kind of moni on a beach party n nt get any tin bck in return?.....i pray God give u d grace 2 luv again ....bt i tink we gurls shld be more careful wit d kind of pple we go out wit...tnk IFY 4 sharing dis

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  17. naija girls and sending nude pics through FB and BBM.
    you all will never learn your lessons.

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  18. When he was bbing u that if u tell ppl he will expose u, did u take screen grabs of the msg?

    Did u keep the condoms u found on the floor as proof of his dna?

    Are at least 2 of the 8 girls willing to talk?

    Have u been to the police to seek advice how how u can approach this suitation?

    I dnt think he will expose ur naked pics cos he has more to loose than u do. He scared u with the threat and cos u r gullible u belived by him exposing the pics he exposes himself too cos u will be forced to talk then. He will loose his job and his marriage and his reputation

    If he does release the pics well than a price u av to pay for the greater reward of seeing him behind bars. You are not the only person he has done this too but they too got scared and did nothing!

    Go to a senior police officer to seek advice

    The choice is urs. U can choose to av a pity party by being victim or punish him for what he did by saving another gullible girl

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  19. Gbam @ Anon 11:43. Gbosa for you.

    Some women don't learn and are just too gullible. They make ridiculous decisions and then complain when shit happens to them. You should lucky they didn't kill you there. But trust me, those pics of you and your friends are going to see the light of day one day. Can you imagine your children seeing those pics? Their mother was banged by 8 married men because she was a prostitute? Can you imagine your future husband (if ever you get married) seeing those pics? Instant divorce. Just stupid stupid stupid.

    Why the hell will you be hanging out with a bunch of married men??? You should definitely partly blame yourself for this horrible thing that happened to you. I'm probably 99.9% certain you and your friends are runz girls. How in the hell will a bunch of single girls hang out at a beach party with a bunch of married men??? 8 women to 8 men!!! What the hell did you think was going to happen???

    I'm so mad this happened to you because it's a horrible thing regardless. But I'm so upset at you for putting yourself into such a situation. For what? For money? You lose your self respect and self worth for money?

    It beats me. It just beats me!

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    1. Nne mechie onu! You cannot cry more than the bereaved. Why are you 'raking her through hot coal' all over again when am sure she has gone thru that several times. Just read thru what you wrote and tell me if that is how to help a depressed person or someone going thru psychological trauma. Its pple like you that will say a raped victim was at fault because of the way she dressed or acted. Sex without consent is illega"n fullstop! What did you gain by reminding her her picture will be exposed. Or you want her to kill herself? The deed has been done, the wise thing to do now is to prevent future occurrences. The time u wasted writing all you wrote should have been used to pass the message across to your friends, cousins, children, neices and neighbours. Thanks.

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  20. Listen all you Illiterates.. the girl is sharing her story with y'all so you can learn and not be a victim. She is not asking 4 your god-damn advice. What you should be praying for is that your so called boyfriend or husband is not a rapist.
    Most of you are married to monsters and you do not know cos you believe your holier than thou.

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  21. Lagos-is-my-home31 August, 2012 18:16

    Pause first: Sending naked pictures to a married man (its hard 4 me to recover from that) ……… where do I even start this comment. You lead him on all through and now crying woof. I mean exchanging naked pictures, going clubbing with him and to the hotel ,kissing him passionately, allowing him to touch you ……... knowing fully well he is married .

    and you said “we didn't mind if they were married, we just wanted to have fun”………………isokay sha. God is watching all you all.

    No one deserves to be abused but for this one you bear a 99% responsibility to what happened. I am sure without the drugs you girls would have slept with them all …… na wah ooo, see what our generation has turned to . SMH

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    1. I totally agree wit u! Wat were u thinkn sendn naked pics 2 a married man! Me, I dnt feel sorry 4 u, Ify 1 bit! U willin put urself in d@ position? Wat were u xpectn? Abi u 1td 2 catch ur fun? Issokay

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  22. A won oloriburuku omo , a won omo oshisco , when your long throat will not let you leave married men alone , useless children not that you are starvingoooh but cos you want to wear the latest clothes ,use the latest phone wear shoes your poor parents cannot afford , good for you ,useless children they will not let married men be ,once they see any married man with a good car ,good job , dressing well na wahala. Serves you right .
    Try and get born again and get close to Christ , tomorrow if they give you ticket to Dubai or London you will forget your ordeal .
    Thank your stars one baba did not say they needed body parts .my advice 2015 is around the corner from next year these politicians would start needing money if you are not careful , you and your friends would be used as pounds and dollars a won ole omo .

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  23. A won oloriburuku omo , a won omo oshisco , when your long throat will not let you leave married men alone , useless children not that you are starvingoooh but cos you want to wear the latest clothes ,use the latest phone wear shoes your poor parents cannot afford , good for you ,useless children they will not let married men be ,once they see any married man with a good car ,good job , dressing well na wahala. Serves you right .
    Try and get born again and get close to Christ , tomorrow if they give you ticket to Dubai or London you will forget your ordeal .
    Thank your stars one baba did not say they needed body parts .my advice 2015 is around the corner from next year these politicians would start needing money if you are not careful , you and your friends would be used as pounds and dollars a won ole omo .

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  24. Keep telling yourself tales. Date rape drugs don't make people horny, they make people drowsy, you might have been horny because of the effects of alcohol on your system, but that's about it. Either way, when you lay with dogs you catch fleas, and that's what you did (if this is a true story, which I doubt it is)

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    1. Try afrodasiac in lots of alchohol..U will be high,drrunk and horny

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  25. Ignorance is a disease.lack of character and discipline is suicidal.Ify if truly u have turned a new leaf, may the good Lord forgive you. But wait oo na we woman go find trouble! When they kill us now una go scream foul play! The way u make ur bed is the way u lie on it.

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  26. NNE...I AM SORRY THAT IT HAD TO HAPPEN TO YOU.


    BUT sweety, it cannot happen to anybody....people still saying it can should face facts.

    In life, THINGS DONT JUST HAPPEN TO PEOPLE....NEVER....they happen based on the choices and decisions we make.


    YOU CAN IGNORE SOMEONE ON FACEBOOK, BBM, TWITTER ETC..THE SAME WAY YOU CAN AGREE TO MEET UP WITH SOMEONE FROM FB, TWITTER OR BBM.





    I PRAY GOD GIVES US ALL WISDOM TO LEARN FROM THE MISTAKES THAT OTHERS MADE, INSTEAD OF US SAYING THEY ARENT MISTAKES AND THAT 'IT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE'



    BECAUSE IT CANT.

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  27. YOU SEE WHAT I MEAN????????????????...BY HIS GRACE....



    "Here is my story, I happened to have a married man as contact on my BBM. He had been asking me out for over six months and I refused to date him. As time went on, he invited me clubbing when his wife was outside the country. I went with him all night. We spent most of the night at a popular club on the Island. I also met his click of friends, married as well. Majority of them married with their various mistresses and we had mad fun. After all the clubbing and drinking, he lodged me in a hotel somewhere at obalende, I felt kindda safe with him. We did not have sex. He touched me in places I had never ever imagined, he kissed me so passionately but guess what?""




    THIS SHORT PART CAN NEVER EVER HAPPEN TO ME.

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    1. Never say never. You don't have to be so self righteous we have all done things we are not proud. I think its quite brave of her to voice this all out,still expecting heavy criticism from hypocrites like u.

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  28. The more I read about Cynthia story and now this story, the more I am convinced that this can never happen to me and to most well brought up girls…. The signs of immorality is obvious, which lead to what unfortunately happened. I mean , please digest all what she did with A MARRIED MAN …….. its sad what happened that night but I can bet without the drugs, all the girls would have done the same that night .

    We have lost our way as a society sha. I mean what will make a girl enter road from Abuja to lagos to meet a stranger, even allowing him pay for her flight . Its same reason , why did this girls go for the party, knowing all the men there are married . I feel the writer is more annoyed about the 2k than what happened. I mean sending him NUDE PICTURES ……………. Common na

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  29. JUST FINISHED READING THE STORY


    ALL I CAN SAY IS I AM SORRY...BUT BAE, WHAT WERE YOU DOING WITH A MARRIED MAN????


    HIS INTENTIONS CAN NEVER EVER BE GOOD FOR YOU...


    WITH THAT SAID....THERE ARE SOOOO MANY GOOD GUYS OUT THERE.


    YOU ARE STILL A QUEEN AND DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE ONE...

    WE ALL HAVE OUR PASTS, (I DO TOO) BUT THE GREATEST KEY TO SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS IS TO NEVER EVER LET IT DEFINE YOUR LIFE AND FUTURE.

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  30. Anonymous 12.19, 12.21.
    Shut the fuck up. You sound like a really bitter woman. Can promise your husband is sleeping around and spending all his money on small small girls and its really paining you.
    Learn how to fuck well and your man might probably stay with you.
    Guess he married you out of pity or you used jazz and its backfired.

    Ugly ass yoruba ninja. Oloshi Oloriburuku Oniranmu Ode.

    Pepeye Iranu.

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  31. Anon 12:30, this must be a true story. befriend on of these Oniru girls and you will hear worse.
    You no dey go club? half of lagos girls are into runz.

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  32. Ivory Chi, it can not happen to you?ok,we have heard. pls drop the mic and move on.

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  33. In as much as we can all blame this girls please let us look at the bigger picture.a bunch of men (rapist) are on the lose and we have to try and educate ourselves. Please do not be righteous right now. The harsh comments can make her commit suicide as u can see she is already in the north.
    My dear Ify, I thank God for your life. I thank God that non of your friends died from the drug effect. I know you have flashes and it is really hard to deal with this. U probably feel used and abused. Please keep ur head up. I believe in are work and as someone said here living according to ur means, the money these men offered you guys is really nothing. Ask yourself is it worth AIDs? Or any sexually transmitted infections. Do you know how long you were all passed out for? What if the bouncers raped yu too. Please go and check that you are ok. Do tests. 8 men passing you all around is bad
    Ladies please learn from this.
    End times

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    1. Ezigbo mmadu, chineke gozie gi! What she did was wrong but we can't make her commit suicide because of it. We can only learn from it and thank God for her and her friends lives. If we keep attacking pple that share their experiences like this, how are we going to keep learning? Pls the poor girl is already suffering, let's encourage her and pray for her.

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  34. I agree with both Anon 12:36 & Anon 12:42. I also think the writer is more annoyed about the 2k than what happened.

    She and her friends would have slept with each of the married men anyways, but I think the men drugged them so they wouldn't pay the amount of money they all agreed on. This was a deal gone bad.

    Now that you have said your story. The only way to make sure it doesn't happen to other women is to expose those bastards! You obviously said you have the BBM Pins of some of them, and you all shared pics of each other. Why don't you send those information to Ladun so she can post them and we all can help you expose them via social media? This is the only way your story will help others and also teach these men a lesson.

    You have to be willing to sacrifice to make this happen..., even if they expose your pics. These men have more to lose than you. They are married with good jobs. The police will definitely prosecute them and put them in jail once we help you expose them on social media.

    You have to expose them. May God grant you the courage to expose these men. What they did was horrible.

    The only reason why I think you might not be willing to expose these men is if your story has a question mark somewhere or if it's not the whole true story.

    May God grant you strength.

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  35. Is this the same Ify that posted her BBM Pin on Ladun a while back? Asking for married men to contact her if they wanted to have fun?

    It this is the same Ify, then you got what you wanted. Now go spend your 2K and buzz off.

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  36. My God. All sorts of atrocities are happening everywhere and especially in Lagos and Abuja. I would like to thank God on your behaves that you were not killed. May Cynthia's soul rest in peace. People are been killed for less. Pray you haven't got any disease and also shame these men by telling their wives and employers. You might save a life and also if only we watch out for each other. Enough of the judging. Well, they were stupid and did it for so many reasons, pray that the guilty bastards are shamed. They have sisters, wives, daughters, nieces and mothers. May they receive a thousand heartaches for their actions. Raping is worse and to drug them is almost boarding on killing. What if one reacted to the drugs ?,with no medical aid in sight. I would urge the police to please look into these and go after the private club owners on these danger islands. That should stop them for a while until they find another avenue. Please , law enforcements agents, step up and raid such parties. A private club or house does not mean you can't bust in there and arrest them as you know it has now become crime scenes. Sorry ladies. I hope you have learnt your lessons. Please people who know these girls should not mention their names, or the forum will not learn and help other innocent and gullible persons. Thank you.

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  37. 90% of girls living in Oniru estate (esp the Bungalow section) are into fulltime runz!

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  38. you have absolutely no moral grounds,to start recriminations kinda...first off, knowing that the man was married you continued to go out with him and at a point would have had sex with him in the hotel room if he wanted.
    the only regrets you have for posting this is your hurt pride and dignity at a man who outplayed you at a game you though you were a genius at.

    stop these hungry, long throat,my money no dey there attitude common to naija girls or else you might very well be poisoned or worse used for rituals the next time.this is what happens when one has a misplaced sense of entitlement.no man owes you anything and there is dignity in paying your own way!!

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    1. She now quickly added I'm born again and prayer at the end so the bashing will be lighter.mshewww stupid story for airheads,NEXT!

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  39. this is not about been gullible , its about been so immoral.......

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  40. na wa o, this story is very pathetic.

    my own experience was with facebook. i met a guy (a popular family from Osun State) dat claimed he had divorced his wife and is in a little problem at his place of work. i thought i was God's sent, so i helped him financially (almost N200k) with the promise that he would pay me back as soon as his case was setteled. he duped me of my money and of my body. when my money wasn't forth coming then i realised have been duped. what else, i moved on with my life and closed the chapter (have falled once praying never to fall again). 3 years later the son of a bitch called to appologies that he was only going through a difficult time at that period and he is back on his feet now ready to marry me. marry me? am single but never pray to marry such a silly soul, instead of him talking on how to give me back my money, he called telling me story of marriage. even though am still very single and searching, my hope still lies in God to provide a man that he sees HIS HEART.

    my sisters please be wise, i never dated him for money, instead, i gave him all i had cos i thought i was God sent. but truly, God has blessed me beyond human comprehension and can afford to give the bitch double of what he took from me (but won't fall for such again deffinately) lol!

    life is a lesson, learn from others experience so u don't fall victim. i remain blessed.

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  41. anon 13:05,you know those girls well. many of them even squat there temporarily. met one in the club and she was asking for 50k for an all nighter. she came from uniben and was in town for a week.

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  42. Ify thanks for the advice and I sympathize with u, but I apologize really cos in ur case u had it coming, d man cld as well have raped u d night u guys 'did everything without penetration' it was just a matter of time, unfortunately u got more than u bargained for.. Pls if u really want to save other ladies, give out all their names let it be published on blogs, internet and newspapers, they will either be prosecuted or the shame of it with make them stop their dastardly act.All that one of using ur pics na lie. We re really in end times and need to be really careful

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  43. Trust Runz gals to come back like a boomerang..wouldn't lie to you 9ja is hard and gals use what they have..to get what they want..unfortunatyely most are just vain..brazilain hair..BB..Range..so can't really feel sorry for them..a beg..Oniru babes..i can testify to their ways!!..

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  44. Ladun make sure you post their names when the girl sends it ooo dont be a hypocrite.you posted it 4 us to learn so post their names so they can stop.

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  45. Gbosa for you, lucabracee. Exactly!

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  46. Ify, publish their pictures and bbm pin. They are probably doing this to someone else as we speak. Let's get these bastards!! I'm ready to flood all the social media outlets with their pics and this story. Let's do this!! I'm super ready! Don't dull. All these posting your pics na yans. Post their pics!! C'mon, Ify!

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  47. CGPA ko! I won't be surprised if you graduated with an ordinary Pass. Is that what you went to University for? Pimping yourself and your equally crazy friends. Look at your appalling English sef.

    Just face your born again life squarely but something tells me if the pay is good, you will do the same beach thing all over again. You are lucky you are alive. LEARN

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  48. @ Anon 13:26, I agree. And I'm a guy.

    Ladun, pls don't dull us abeg once Ify send you those pics. You need to gather the courage to post all them. Let's go to business with all these bastards! I can't wait to see their faces on TV. Focking bastards.

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  49. I really don't blame ppl who have spewed shit here,ppl dat said nothin but abusive words 2 d sender of d story.
    They don't knw dat an 'innocent' girl can start loving and there4 sleep wit a married man just bcos of stories d man told her about his life eg how he's being maltreated by his wife, hw his business is failing,hw his bro tried 2 kill him etc. We women are generally soft-hearted, we naturally have that milk of human kindness, as in we wnt 2 reach out, we always want 2 help but we do that in d wrongest ways.
    U guys dat have nuffin but shit 2 say bout her, I tell u most solemnly, she is way wiser than u peeps,she learnt something abt married men, evn much more cos she deduced a lot of things 4rm wat happened 2 her.

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  50. All these useless married men should be named and shamed. Maybe that way they'll watch their actions. Ify I'm really sorry you had to experience what you did. Time is a healer and as long as you have turned a new leaf you will get over it. There are good men out there and hopefully you will find one to settle down and have a family with. God bless.

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  51. leave married men alone and let their wives enjoy them!!there is absolutely no justification in this world for a girl to leave her school and be following married men because of awoof..she was probably not born when the woman was suffering with her husband to make the money.
    why can't girls just curtail their lifestyle to how much their parents are able to give them for goodness sakes??
    this is why ritual killing cannot end,because there will always be a greedy girl somewhere who is looking to rinse men for money and follow them anywhere

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    1. And u luca, am sure Ur past is squeaky clean, rubbish!

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    2. Like seriously? The moral of this story is "leave married men alone"?! I don't condone what this chic did but the fact remains that there are 8 blackmailing rapists on the loose! I guess the story would have sounded a lot different if the guys were single?!

      Fine, she might have had the intention of sleeping with the dude eventually but she was GANG RAPED! How this fact eludes you guys is beyond me! The vibe I keep getting is that 'if she's a runs girl, then this isn't an offence'.

      Those cursing her and what not, have you stopped to wonder what YOUR husbands do when you travel to Turkey or when he goes out 'clubbing'?

      So sad this story is totally lost on you guys! Jesus! You pple are unbelievable!

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  52. Ify pls publish their names, place of work and abode as well as their bb pins!
    Trust me, some girl is somewhere being deceived by these motherfuckers!
    As for Oniru girls, I dnt need to mention names!

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  53. Hmmmm, we humans could be so judgemental. Thank God God is God and no man else.... anyway this lady shared a story that could be beneficial if not to u, to your friend, sister or whoever. let's not turn ourselves to God. it's immaterial if the guy was married or single. it could have happened in a different scenario. let's just learn and spread it out.

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  54. You know what? I'm not gonna scold Ify right now cos dis not d rite time to. She f**ked up n who hasn't by d way. most girls dont c any problem wt dating married men yet they'll complain most about their husbands when they r married. And Guess what?
    Many girls reading this r into married men n r nt ready to stop it till such happens to dem. smh these girls. The world's so rotten diz days. if we can only c 1/1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000th of wat god sees, our eyes will shed sputum!

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  55. Lagos-is-my-home31 August, 2012 21:21

    God bless you Luca. .... tell them ooo, me i didnt follow any married men so please leave my husband for me to eat and enjoy alone...

    Ladun , we have to blog about how we can find our way back as a society. All our moral values are lost, yet we claim to be the most religious . Gone are the days when young girls are content with what they have...its a pity .

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  56. Dear writer, I am really sorry for what happened to you.You wrote about this cos you wanted to warn others but of course humans would always be judge you no matter the number of skeletons they have in their closets. I guess sometimes they just want to fell better about themselves. We all make mistakes in life. Some of them we never imagined we could but bad things happen.I thank you you found Jesus. He loves you more than you know and I promise you He will help you heal and will give you the right person. Your story gave me the creeps. Thanks and may God comfort you. *barbie*

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  57. This girl na thief and runs girl period! She is just bitter because of the N2k. You followed a man that housed you in a hotel in OBALENDE! ROTFLMAO. Duh!!! I bet its a Yoruba guy. Those guys will screw you senseless before dropping a dime. Did u expect N100k from an average working joe with responsibilities who can party on the island but afford Obalende hotel. I bet if your dreams had come true, this story would have been one of your secret fantasies come true. If you are truly remoreseful you will expose them. They will be arrested and lose all they have! If they post the pics, the pics can be unblurred and everyone will be jointly disgraced. Most of those guys will never recover. I wonder why these kids keep getting married! These married men are young men that have no business being married!

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  58. Ladun's biggest fan31 August, 2012 21:32

    #team Lucabracee!

    The village illiterate won't come and read some sense here in what you have posted!! KMT!!!

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    1. Kwakwakwakwa u rove me too much kwakwakwakwa I don't rove u back so as dey will be sayin 'fukk off mate'

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  59. Ladun, I noticed the first line. Apology accepted. I was very angry with you after that reader's mail but now all is well. *BIG HUG*.

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  60. Ladun, I noticed the first line. Apology accepted. I was very angry with you after that reader's mail but now all is well. *BIG HUG*.

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  61. Exactly. Spanish fly in alcohol is meant to make people feel horny.

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    1. U re so right. Correct!

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  62. D only word I have for you is to expose them, if you have their facebook I'd, drop it let's personall attack dem via facebook, let send friend request to them. All d hot babes commenting in dis blog go with force dey will see fine profile pictures and accept you, the n you bash dem abuse and disgrace dem, also send friend request to their frieends and family, dose dat ave similar surname with dem on facebook so that wen u are bashing dem, dey as well are seeing it

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  63. Lol @ "he carried me like a sacrifice"

    Seriously girls need to stop runs and let married men be, it's like some of them derive pleasure n screwing these guys Nd I I'll refer to them as 'dirty agbayas'

    But d problem wt our babes s MONEY, una too like moneyyyy, stop before ts too late!

    I overhead some guys d other time saying they like to keep their wives @ home and experience all d dirty nd crazy stuffs they cannot try wt madams @ home, girls be wise, how much r they giving? F they give u 50k, they given their wives half a million Biko nnu

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  64. expose what,,,,, to every story there is the other side. i am sure if u sit the guy down, his version of event will be completely different. he might say they were all willing participants thinking it was 100k each and when he gave them 2k the story changed

    Moral of the story: dont put urself in this kind of situation, look at all d signal she first sent him. naked picures, bikini, passionate kissess and what not ....

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  65. I can't believ d nonsense comin out frm u most readers mouth,am sure most ppl condemnin d poor girl r very much gulliable and even worse than she s, d girl s just sharin her story n trust more 1guy sleepin wit u @ once knowinly or unknowinly s really a BAD experience, Ify d most important tin s dat u r Alive and u ve d Lord almighty 2 tank 4 dat, pls dear go report 2 d necessary authority @ Alausa, der s an office dat handles such. Please dear 4get wat ppl will say d most important tin s dat u will be savin sum orda naïve girls frm dis same men

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  66. 'Having fun' with married men. Trust me,the heads of his kid(s) and wife have automatically cursed u! U were feelin very sharp and clever,gathered ur suffer frnds u call hot to go and enjoy boat cruise! Oh no! They should have fucked ur anus too! Nothing goes for nothing,haven't u heard! Thank ur stars they dint use u 4 ritual. U should laminate d 2k they gave u sha,abi u spent those ones ni?? Ur fuck moni! Ode!

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  67. let he who is without sin cast the first stone....u all stoned this lady like u have no sin or have not sinned b4....
    She has repented...have u?
    Thank God man is not God and God is God.
    Bcos of God's mercies...we are not consumed...

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  68. I applaud you for your honesty to share this testimony with us.
    Yes! you will be insulted, but am happy it did not deter you from speaking out. He that has no sin, let him cast the first stone.

    I sincerely hope we, both males and females will learn from this.

    Thank you once more.
    God will continue to strengthen you.

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  69. Ladun, remember Tola who sent a mail to you about her promiscuous husband and their RELOADED group on bbm? Her story readily came to mind as I read Ify's story.

    Check out these highlighted parts from Tola's mail:
    [b]He and his group of friends
    (married men)have a BBM group
    called "RELOADED" where they
    organise weekend get aways.
    Organise the latest chick to lay in
    cheap hotels, plan get together,
    where they have numerous
    vulnerable chicks to Bleep, party
    all night with their concubines,
    organize random bbm group with
    many university chicks (married
    men for that matter)they hook up
    with this girls, giving silly excuse
    that they are travelling for
    business trips.[/b]

    [b]One of his friends a senior
    manager in a company on the
    island recently travelled to kenya
    with one of his concubines and
    posts pictures of them having a
    sex rump, I see this through the
    bbm group der organised, my
    husband has no remourse, he
    lives his fone open and knows I
    go through it but he doesn't care.
    [/b]

    [b]they organise private boat
    cruise trips with a maximum of
    12 girls so dat they are surplus.
    They lodge on a private beach
    and Bleep the living day light out
    of them.
    [/b]

    [b]This men cannot get their eyes
    off anything in skirts. I noticed
    his chat with my neighbours
    daughter, I can’t confront her, he
    Is sleeping with her and recently
    took her clubbing.
    [/b]

    Zinnia

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  70. Ify I am so sorry for what u went thru.dis is rily sad.as for dose women saying leave my husband alone,u guys are real sick.so u don't mind if one of dose men is ur husband.Jeez,una get wahala.or do u think d wives of dose men wud eva tink dat deir husbands r capable of such things.God forbid 4 una.abeg show us d pics ify make I kno weda my sista husband go dey among.my sista acts all self righteous bt I dnt trust her man.ewww!!!!!

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  71. U SHA WANTED TO HAVE FUN AND U HAD FUN DON'T BLAME ANYONE ONE BUT URSELF. stop point at the married men sure what they did was bad but u made a decision to roll with them. ps i always tell my friends and sisters never chat a man up via social media.

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  72. Don't know why pple are judging her cos am sure dat we all have done one thing or Anoda that we are not proud of. If u think Ur past is sooooo clean, how abt that of Ur hubby or bf? those men can be anybody's hubby o! It's well

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  73. y cant gurls b satisfied with wat dier parents give 'em? D pressure to keep up with d current trends is wat is pushing most gurls to this shameful act.colour blocking,brazillian hair,bbporshe or torch......c'mon gurls....u can live ur life without all these,ur dignity is priceless...ify i'm sure u'v bin into this for a long tym. If these batch of men did'nt ruin u,u wuld av continued...smh,all d same,tnx 4 sharing ur experience

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  74. ok these girls did a looooot of wrong but did the guys do good either? first they stepped out on their wives, then they raped. these girls could have also died from overdose.

    let's abuse both parties. it's this one sided blame game that makes men do what they do.

    and for the wives cursing the young girls, no you should curse your husbands because when the spiritual and physical consequences surface, ara o ro okun, ara o ro adiye. And also who do they bring diseases back to? you.

    If there is no crack in the wall, the lizard will not crawl in. Stop exonerating the men please

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  75. ok these girls did a looooot of wrong but did the guys do good either? first they stepped out on their wives, then they raped. these girls could have also died from overdose.

    let's abuse both parties. it's this one sided blame game that makes men do what they do.

    and for the wives cursing the young girls, no you should curse your husbands because when the spiritual and physical consequences surface, ara o ro okun, ara o ro ediye. And also who do they bring diseases back to? you.

    If there is no crack in the wall, the lizard will not crawl in. Stop exonerating the men please

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  76. U and ur friends are lucky. assuming they wanted to use u all for rituals, una head for don de boil inside pot by now. girls!!!!!!!!!!! learn from all these stores o! other people's experiece should be ur best teacher. dont say "i am sharper than that, it can never happen to me"
    a word is enough...

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  77. Lucabracee is always on point. The problem with this girls is greediness. Why should you b collecting gifts from someone u know u can't marry especially married man. I don't know if its poverty or greediness disturbing this girls

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  78. Lucabracee is always on point. The problem with this girls is greediness. Why should you b collecting gifts from someone u know u can't marry especially married man. I don't know if its poverty or greediness disturbing this girls

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  79. Frm your story it was a boat ride to d beach house,after they finished chopping u bitches they dropped z
    2k each for transportation......

    It does not make up, why? How did u get back to town without a boat? I've bn to private beach house and I know why I'm saying....

    This story is not real....

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    1. Babes v u eva heard of what they call vex money? Lol pls when u went to d private beach house, you never held private cash for 'just in case?' Jero

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  80. honestly,she was just unfortunate.i'v had some madt fun in d past with married men,even strange men my friends introduced me too and i sure enjoyed myself,toured dubai,london,SA,paris & some oda countries.even went on boat cruise with dem.she was simply unfortunate!chikena.

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    1. Gboko gboko alert! Olojukokoro omo!

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    2. U na grace of God u chop!!!! God love u xtra. Abi ur mama na. prayer worrior....if no b God u 4 b IFY 2day!...Just shey ope ti e

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  81. Umm so what did you think was going to happen at the beach party? Bible study? Abeg, its unfortunate you were "drugged" but you were open to sex by accepting that sort of invitation. If it really were just about "having fun" at the beach, there'd be no reason for BB groups and photo exchanges to be made. You know it was a sex party at the beach.
    In any case go and see your doctor, not everyone might have used a condom.

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  82. I'm sorry such thing happened to the writer. But the story is as a result of sheer greed. Cos the only reason girls date married men is for money,then when the man is giving them money they will now say they are inlove with the man... Forgeting he has a wife @home and if he's giving u 500k,he's wife is travelling abroad and shopping every month.. Why should she post the names of the man and there pictures when this happened as the result of her own greed.. She followed him to club,allowed him do umimaginable things to her,went shopping for biki wears and followed married men to there beach house,what the hell did u think was gonna happen there? They party went wild and they drugged u all so that they will sleep with you people.. The truth is they were not gonna give u people the expected money u desired that's why u were drugged.. So that they will leave before u wake up,cos even if they hadn't drug them,they will still sleep with them and take turns but will give u what u desired.. So I see no reason why they should post there pix at all,the men just outsmarted them... Even if the publish there pix,they won't loose anything,there wives will forgive them,most of them might be business men or work in good companies where there boses too mess around.. So girl just stay born again and other single greedy gals,learn and stay clear married men.. Stick with your parents and your BFs

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    1. Guy u dey beg us ni? U dey part of dem guy ni?...I suspect u fah!

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  83. @ d lady who wrote about RELOADED bbm group, I wouldn't know if they are the same guys, Ladun I pray you see this comment, I wish you had paid emphasis to the "reloaded" bbm group when drafting the head topic for that story or use my story to refer bcak to this so we can expose such persons, I am working on getting the pins of those bastards, I deleted some of dem dat added me personnally to run tinz aside d bbm group, so I am personaly going through the "ignores" list on my bbm to fish them out. Ladun pls one more favour, kindly change the topic of the mail I sent to you on your blog to "Note to ladies who hook up with men via BBM open group chats" (a must read) it passes the message across better, thanks ladun for uploading my story, THE WRITTER!!!

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  84. Thanks for apologizing about the last mail..it was totally off point...this is the kinda mail we should be readn

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  85. @lagos is my home,i tire o i finally run down for naija the dy my dad who is in his late 70s said a young girl was trying to chat him up just imagine old man with grey hair!!naija girls!!

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  86. @ladun'sbiggestfan
    lol,at least they r not aving a go at you guys for being tribalist again lol

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  87. @ammie
    my past is not clean in fact i v been up to some rough stuffs,but the diff is
    1.i am a man
    2.i have never been in a situation where i will beg a girl for money
    3.i have ner and won't ever date a girl if i know she is in a relationship never talk less of married
    i have always followed these 3 policies since i enter town till now

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  88. @lanrayikotun
    what these girls don't realise is that most of those wives know the inner secrets of the husbands,and what they had to overcome and what they are dealing with as a result of the money.

    i know a friend of mine who is a girl,her mum left her dad and picked race to london. no one knows why the woman ran to london but the secret is that the man used a 16 yrs old virgin for money ritual and wanted to use the wife for another ritual to renew his money and she discovered,when she refused to come back the man married a young girl who thinks she is living the life.meanwhile the man has cut the wife off totally and she is suffering in london,the luck she has is that the man likes her daughter my friend so she is in charge of his houses in london and europe and he gives her enough money which she shares with the mum,yet the woman has vowed not to go back and sacrifice her life in naija

    if the young wife dies tomorrow they won't know what happened to her,but her greed led her to the lions den but she has no idea yet the man even bought her a jeep and they r living it up in asokoro

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  89. Ladun's biggest fan01 September, 2012 11:15

    Village illiterate o ti de o, sod off and go back into your hut. Okuko!
    Lucabracee; spooky. I think i know who you just typed about re-running to London.

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  90. I strongly disagree with the person that said the lady should only be blamed. The blame should go both ways; male and female are to blame in this disgusting acts.

    A single lady will be minding her own business jejely, a married man will come disturbing her. If she isn't PRINCIPLED and the greedy type, she will give in to him.

    A married man that is minding his own matter jejely will be pestered by "I gasts to show off and belong", greedy and wanton ladies who don't care if he looks like Prof Wole Soyinka or younger. If the man too is an UNSERIOUS, PROMISCUOUS, UNGODLY and UNPRINCIPLED man, he will fall for her.

    So it goes both ways. I remember asking my Dad about his view on cheating and he concluded by saying any man who is unfaithful to his spouse should be ready for the CONSEQUENCES of his action.

    This world is vanity and a passing phase; this world that is making people do unimaginary and immoral stuffs will end one day.

    After our years on Earth, we shall all be judged. So I implore those doing good to keep doing good and vice versa. Starting preparing what you will say to your creator for the things you've done when JUDGEMENT DAY comes.

    Zinnia

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  91. Aunty Biko, I thought you said you were now born again? Clearly if they runs had gone down well, I doubt if you will be here sharing. Both you and your friends and the married men are all to blame. The greedy girls and the greedy men. You aren't advising girls to stay off married men, you are specifically advising against BBM runs because your BBM runs went awry. Sorry o, but please let's call a spade a spade. This world is so coming to an end. We wanted to "have fun"? No more fear of God again. Abi if they die, they'll explain to God that they were just "having fun". My dear, please advice your friends. Fear God and keep his commandments. Thank you. I do hope you look beyond the 2k. I have a friend who "rich" married men are practically worshipping every second to just have her attention. Immediately she adds to BBM, she deletes them. If they call, she doesn't pick. They are rich, young and handsome. But she doesn't give a damn. She knows what she wants in life, she fears God, and she's not greedy. She's not from a rich home. No one gives her money like that. Even if she's broke, she doesn't care. All that glitters isn't gold. But girls these days think otherwise. Such a pity.

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    1. Gosh! Your comment is so similar to mine;great minds think alike innit?

      It's so good to know we still have ladies that fear God in their conducts.

      Zinnia

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    2. I am not claiming to be self righteous but i never gave a listening ear to married men(i was a head turner) even though i was poor as a single girl and could use my looks to get anybody i wanted but i remained a vigin till i got married. I had always condemned my friend for dating married men(she always claimed for them to be coming after her the wives are doing something wrong)
      Fastfoward 8yrs later,she hasnt done anytin meaningful in her life by the grace of God i have a very good job a good,faithful,godfearing husband and four beautiful kids and can afford all those things i couldnt get as a single girl.
      Single chics: be content with the little you have,God sees your efforts and would bless you for all the sacrifices you have made, but if you decide to tow the line of being mistresses,believe me the law of karma will always catch up with you
      And married men: Go and face your families and leave these girls alone.

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    3. Thank you Zinia. Indeed great minds think alike. God bless you Anon 13:41 for sharing. People are short sighted these days. They have no plans for their future. Time will tell.

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  92. isorait ooooooo. oya let's hear from the other party (the man)

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  93. OK. I am so shocked at a lot of the comments I have been reading.Well you guys are right In that she should not have started this relationship (talking in the fist place) but women and men like you are the reasons why people who have been abused will not surface so that these men would be arraigned. We blame her and chastise her like judges. So Id say what Jesus said. "If any one of you is without sin cast the first stone" (Especially sexual sin). To the poster. God Bless you and this is your platform to reach out to young people who might find themselves in the same predicament someday because of their ways. Whom Christ has set free is fee indeed. Don't be scared of that man and his wickedness, he will only have himself to blame. He has placed an irreversible curse on himself and his innocent family. God bless y'all.

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  94. These men are on the loose!!!If they did this horrendous thing to these girls, the next person might be a 16 yr old girl who is naive. They are RAPISTS. They have done this way too many times and will keep doing it. And to all of you saying if she was not drugged she would still have done the same thing, HELLO!!! She was drugged that means the dynamics has changed. They took her right to say yes or no to them into their own hands.

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  95. ONOME says........
    My only comment is "go test yourself for HIV,STI and hepatitis.

    I really have nothing else to say.

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  96. @ladunsbiggestfan
    hmmmn no be small thing o,the man's young new wifey is like in her twenties doing lady of the manor in abuja she no kuku know what is generating the money for jeep and mansion ,dubai trips(d man get house for dubai too)
    the woman that ran to london sef she is still having spiritual attacks o talk less of the one in naija i pray she will realise before they use her for suya

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  97. Ladun's biggest fan01 September, 2012 23:54

    Lucabracee; if she lasts, she may be in the same coven with the man.

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  98. God have mercy on all of us....especially we, the men.

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  99. She willingly followed this man. Even hooked her friends up, wat was she thinking. Free food, and drinks,they all had their agenda,s its just that the men outsmrted them. Comon she sends him naked pictures.so she should tak responsibility for her actions, and getover it!! Crazy world we live in and may God be wit u

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  100. I honestly believe her story. Some men are just terrible. I mean married guys. I have met several married guys even before I got married and i can tell you that they are just palin stupid and sex-crazed.

    I met one not quite long. That was like a month to my wedding. I went to GTB to do some transactions and I just saw this guy (not too handsome just on the average side) walked up to me and started chatting me up. You needed to see me that day. I was not looking my best at all. The marriage planning stress was written over me and I was just trying to apply for leave. To cut the long story short, he gave me his card and I collected it. Yes I did.

    He's an expatriate in one of the leading companies in Nigeria and He's married with four children ( igot to know later). He kept calling me and all that and I told him I was not in Lagos that I had travelled for my wedding. You would think that will put him off. No way. he kept calling still. So after my wedding, I got back to Lagos and He still kept calling and asked that I should just see him and maybe hear him out. Naturally, I don't wear both rings on my fingers bur I had to use the two rings that very day so that he will see it and probably just back off. I was so wrong. He saw my wedding rings, complimented it and even congratulated me. He came over to my office on the Island and we both went to Mega Plaza. There is this chinese restuart there so we wnet there sat down and just talked about nothing. Now, I was getting really annoyed with the boring gist and I asked him plainly, Mr. X, what exactly do you want from me. Seeingg that we are both married and the last thing I wille ver do si to cheat on my husband, Can you just tell me what you want from me. You know he smiled and said he just want friendship. I asked about his wife, cos i was really confused and i tot he had issues at home.

    So after the lunch, he took me back to my office, and that was how his messages increased. I neither respond or call him and yet, he will still call me for crazy stuffs. He started coming to my office often, He call to ask what i eat for lunch and have it deliverd to me, He will come around and asked that i travel with him, Just crazy stuff. I knew what he wanted and I also knew he had money so I was ready to help him spend it. (crazy guy). I made sure I never followed him out after the first Mega Plaza lunch so he delivered my lunch tomy office. He come around to my office alomost every day and I made it a point of duty to see him at the entrance of the office right infront of the security men. No entering of car, no whatever. He even wanted to get a car for me. stupid man. He travelled once and came back with clothes and all sort and i took them from him. I gave the clothes out and One funny thing was that I never ate out of the lunch's he brought. My colleagues are always waiting to devour it. This guy spent money to a fault and he never had more than a handshake from me. I guesssed his sense came back one day and he disappered. We still get to laugh over it in my office till today.

    I beg, I get plenty story. One even paid 1million into my account for vacation. As in a married man paying money into a single lady account. a alady you have never even kissed. One paid for my flat in Magodo.

    Guess they never get to come back after months when they sense that I'm not ready to bulge.

    all the same, they were things we enjoy as babes.....Besides, i don't need your preaching o. I'm so married to my lover of 10years and I'm so happy. yes, he knew about them all. I call them MAGA

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  101. Guys enuf of the bashing, der are about 8 rapists on the loose, God forbid it could be our sister, friend, neighbour, colleague neice, save a soul, share this story, share the link via bbm, email.n share it on twitter and on facebook, ladun do something u ave a popular twitter handle, u can share it on facebbook, all commentators take d bold step and share this story

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  102. If every single girl/guy declined every married man or woman that approached them we wouldn't ave these issues . The matter is of loose morals on the girls and the mens part, we have 8 rapist n the loose and I believe they should be named and shamed but we also have 8 homewrekers on the loose who didn't care that they were further destroying a home. Even If a married man approaches you must you say yes????
    My male friends say this will never end till women are ready to stand up for one another and do what's right but you will always have the girls that will break rank and go and do what she's not to do. God help us all sha

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  103. @ anon 12.41 I cldnt agree with you more my sister is always using her looks as an excuse that married men chase her. She dated a guy that claimed did heaven n earth only to find out they were all lies. 4 years later I hv started my own biz n she is still wre she I hv a beta life, car etc she is still jumping from one man to anoda to keep up the charade.

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