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Friday, September 28, 2012

Help My Husband Won’t Go Through Any Test with Me

Hi Ladun, Please I want to be extremely anonymous. I have been married for about 2 years and I have been TTC (trying to conceive), I have done all tests which shows that I'm perfectly alright. My doctor keeps saying something that bothers me though; 'we need to probe your husband, 5 out of 10 men you see nowadays can’t make a woman pregnant'. The issue here is, my husband has refused to get tested for some reasons, he says we should wait for God's time and he doesn't trust his semen to the labs e.t.c.

How can I convince him to get his semen tested? I love him so much and i'd still love and be faithful to him if the problem is from him. Our families have been concerned but we haven't told them that my husband has not been tested. WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT MY HUSBAND? I NEED TO GET HIM TESTED.

55 comments:

  1. give him badass blow job, wen he comes, go to the bathroom and spit it in a container. you have ur sample for test

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    1. Lol... Waa se re!

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    2. Yoruba people would say Ma je ko ko oriburuku ba e,u beta report him to ur families, Remember ur d woman its u people wld keep pointing fingers @, wait on d lord my foot,that doesn't mean he shouldn't get tested,Smh

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    3. Lmfao@ Amara

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  2. Tell his family if he refused this last time, simple as that no biggy.

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  3. most nigerian men are d same. well, if u have tried and he still refuses to go for any test then u can persuade him to try takin some vitamins like vitamin c, e, and zinc, it will help boost his sperm mortility and count over a oeriod of 2 to 3 months or just google vutamins that boost male fertility. no harm in takin it even though he doesnt want to know what the problem is. and u should look into getting a HSG test done to check for scar tissues or fibroids and ur fallopian tubes. track ur ovulation too. Prayin for u.

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  4. You need to figure out a way to get his sperm ! Wear a female condom, I don't know (that might work in keeping his sperm) Freeze it and take it to a lab. (I suggest googling ways 2 preserve sperm so those little fuckers don't die b4 they get to the lab). Hell, he might even know why you can't have kids and is keeping it from you. Figure it out lady, GET HIS SPERM ! And that is all *exits left*

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    1. Using condoms will disturb d result!!! It has 2 b directly poured in2 d container

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  5. Sweetheart since you are in so much of a hurry , and since you have decided that you cannot listen to your hubby who says wait on the lord , kindly put sleeping medicine in his drink when he is dead beat , tie him up carry him and dump him inside the lab in the hospital only the problem would be how to get him to ejaculate inside the semen tube .
    All the best .

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    1. Is this a joke or wat?u r very silly

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    2. Is this a joke or wat?u r very silly

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    3. WONU:@Buks u had me dis nite OMG! Buhahahahah! Laff wan make I choke on my food.

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    4. @Buks, she should keep on waiting there. What kind of advice is that? If she were the one with the problem am sure you will advise the man not to wait. This is even grounds for divorce because the man knows he can't conceive and kept it from her. You are a wicked person! This babe better find out quick and figure out the next step

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    5. Serzly,I had never laughed over a comment ds much since I started visitin blogs. Jeeezzzz,Buks,wot on earth were u thinkin??? Sliikky..........

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    6. @Buhahahahahahah@Buks

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  6. Testing auto comment.....lol! Let her try the maiguard first

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  7. C'mon gurl, u don't need a prophet 2 tell u dat ur hubby is impotent.

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  8. I'm not giving any free advice to all you wahala people again.

    He's your husband. You know him. I don't. Deal with him. Tufia!

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  9. Your hubby probably knows he has a problem,I think u should confide in his folks, ur pastor or anybody u know he listens to, u have to handle it with care so it doesn't result to other things.

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  10. The handwriting is on the wall. You closed your eyes to it, preferring to run to LLBers with your story. You want me to be the one to tell you that your husband can't father a child and he knows it?

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    1. Lmafao! Abi o! The man has fertility problem and he's keeping it from his wife...some men sha! God help us. If reverse was the case, he probably would have sent that woman packing by now.

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  11. Only 2 years in marriage and you can't get your husband to do your bidding? Na wa

    Testing him is even the least of your problems. Better start looking for a sperm donor now in case his sperm cells are dead, since worrying is your hobby.

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  12. Its now his turn to get checked n all of a sudden he wants to wait on d Lord?yeah right!honey,how clear can d situation be for u to understand he's .....

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  13. Lol . Idiot lomo buks yii. See comment

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  14. WONU: just follow Amarachuku or Buks advice. God will help u

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  15. Lagos-is-my-home29 September, 2012 00:20

    Men and their pride .. that's how some men are. Hiss. Their brains become like thick brick.

    My friend tried for 5 years, she kept worrying and begging her husband to go for test. He blatantly refused due to pride but luckily on their 6th year of marriage she had a baby girl and now have 2 kids. You just have to find a way to get to him and if you cant then go on your Knees.

    ***God answers prayers and will hear your cry . Best of Luck

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    1. *Yimu* Are you sure your friend didn't step out?

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  16. I agree with Amarachukwu.
    OR,
    Ask the doctor for a female condom, which you will remove immediately after sex,OR quickly go to the bathroom and let the semen run down your legs and use a plastic spoon to scoop it and place in a plastic container, and refrigerate.

    I am always wary of a man who uses the name of GOD to evade an issue.

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  17. I'm reading some of the comments & I'm like WTF! People already concluding the young man has fertility issues, some saying she should report him to family/pastor already...are u guys 4 real? How about: It's all about his ego? Men are innately proud creatures. Dude could be afraid
    that something might be wrong with him & that's
    why he won't do it.

    Sit him down & tell him that if there's sth wrong with his sperm, it would
    be better to know than not know; & that it could be something that
    could be cured. Knowing is really
    everything!
    Keep on trying to convince him, till he eventually budges. Try convincing him either by Gentle persuasion, OR a lil' Nagging/Sulking/Scowling and/or Mumbling. Yes, nagging/sulking etc could just help (as long as u know him quite well as to do that tactfully without offending him). Sometimes you gotta be a little mean about it :-). All the Best
    in ur quest
    (that actually rhymed lol) to TTC. x

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    1. So a young wife doesn't know all these?

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  18. I'm reading some of the comments & I'm like WTF! People already concluding the young man has fertility issues, some saying she should report him to family/pastor already...are u guys 4 real? How about: It's all about his ego? Men are innately proud creatures. Dude could be afraid that something might be wrong with him & that's why he won't do it.
    Sit him down & tell him that if there's sth wrong with his sperm, it would be better to know than not know; & that it could be something that could be cured. Knowing is really everything! Keep on trying to convince him, till he eventually budges. Try convincing him either by Gentle persuasion, OR a lil' Nagging/Sulking/Scowling and/or Mumbling. Yes, nagging/sulking etc could just help (as long as u know him quite well as to do that tactfully without offending him). Sometimes you gotta be a little mean about it :-). All the Best
    in ur quest
    (that actually rhymed lol) to TTC. x

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  19. @buks 22.02 you are a very insensitive person. You probably don't know what it feels like looking for a child,how dare you say that she's in a hurry after two years? Do u know the pain and anguish experienced in marriages without children? Try to be more human it will help.

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  20. Men that Buks chic is a certified bitch,Kai how heartless.

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  21. GOOD SAMARITAN....
    one day wen he gets back from work,,or he is watching man_united match knack frying pan on his head and when he looses consciousness bundle him to d lab,,give him a bad ass blowjob and take his semen,,and if the test shows dat he is IMPOTENT,,knack anoda frying pan on his head,,b4 he wakes up u are out of his house,,SHIKENA..goodluck..

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    1. Lololololololol my stomach! Ahh joker!!!!!!!!!!

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  22. Most men don't like hospitals. He won't go until he is ready and you can't force him. Semen for analysis should reach the hospital within 30mins - 1hr of production, so you can't freeze or anything. If he's not willing, he can't also produce. My advise is pray, be patient and cajole. Speak to a young male doctor who is like is age/peer mate who can make the discussion lighter and for him to see reason. Like someone suggested like him take sperm boosting vitamins. He should also lose the weight (if he has has), eat healthy. Blended coconut and wheat works well.

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  23. Thank you for posting this Ladun,
    Anonymous28 September, 2012 21:49, Thank you for your advice, I've done HSG and it says my tubes are bilaterally patent, which means there is no blockage or scarring, I've done several scans and there is absolutely no trace of fibroid.

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    1. Just cry unto God and he will do it for you. There have been cases where nothing is wrong with both couple and yet they still can't conceive . Buy a good ovulation test and be testing, try reduce having sex only when u are ovulating so his sperm count can be very high. Lastly take ur mind off it and stop worrying (I knw it is hard but try) . Some people say when u worry that when it won't happen. Stop focusing on babybaby baby and it migth just happen naturally.

      Have faith and remember in God's time he makes everything beautiful .

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  24. Lol lol lol y'all can call me whatever names you like and who says I never waited before I had my kids , I believe two years is just too soon to worry yourself , why do you all think the man has a problem , aaaabeg unna with unna Sabi Sabi , where is God in all this worrying sef might just be part of the problem she should chill , enjoy what she loves doing be it traveling , well I did and the lord will hear and very soon all this would be past her , she should be glad the man is not mounting pressure on her .
    Aaaaaabeg am off to sleep again another raining sanitation day .

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    1. Ur still an insensitive bitch! No matter how u want to justify it

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  25. yuck at 1st anon..however i think 2 yrs is too early to be worried

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  26. Stay there, you hear? Instead of you to run to your mum, a trusted Aunt or Sister, you are hear confiding in total strangers who don't care one way or the other.

    Draw your two ears and start confiding in real people within your family. Your mama will teach you one or two tricks

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  27. Hi dear pls plead with him that its better both of u handle this together without informing 3rd parties. It could just be a little problem that science can easily handle and there he is dilidialing. But if he refuses let him be but remember d biological clock of d woman ticks faster. Also pray so God gives u wisdom on how to handle this problem. We all hv crosses in life we carry and this could be yours so pray 4 d cross to pass u by. Good luck

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  28. Like seriously why would you listen to our advice? What approach do u take from different opinions? Majority carries the vote??? Hisssss

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  29. So I heard about this manual test you and your husband can try out at home since he doesn't want to get tested.

    Put his sperm in a glass, and fill it up with water. If it floats, then his sperm count is good. If it sinks, there's a problem and if it's in the middle, then..-_-


    Not sure if it is totally correct so as not to mislead anyone.
    All the best.

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  30. hahahhahhah@ amarachukwu.

    www.relationship4rum.blogspot.com

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  31. Honey, take time and enjoy your marriage. You don't have to have a child immediately.

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  32. Life is a bitch . Daaaaaaaaaaah.

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  33. Chika abeg talk beta thing,I know u r single,so I nor blame you,make a dinner on friday,tell him how much you love him,make him get so drunk,give him a blow job and that's the semen you need. Go collect the test tube from d dr 1st, do like warri gal joor,be sharp .

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  34. Yes a blow job wuld do the trick but make sure you store it in a cold pls so bacteria does not grow or tell he;s parents or close friends or send a letter to the house open it and let him know that its compulsory you both have to go if he refuses then say you are leaving and mean it and see he;s reaction
    half of the time mos men have weak sperm its nothing to be ashamed of you need to educate him and say if you guys cant have children then you want to adopt

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  35. Babes its easy to get his sperm all u do is wen u guys re done making love tell him to pour d sperm on ur body get a little cup wit a lid and pour d sperm in into d little cup without him knowing cos I know wen he is done pouring his mind will be somewhere else. Goodluck.

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  36. simple. Wear a female condom and remove it when he is done.

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