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Saturday, September 29, 2012

I’m Scared of Going into Another Relationship...What do i do?

Hi guys this is real. I am not saying other mails aren’t real, but most of them are sent with anonymous mails. Only few are sent with real names. The lady in question sent the mail with her real names. She must really need the relationship tips. Please let us help her out. I wish her luck though. The mail when you continue.


Sis Ladun I am one of your fans and I constantly read and contribute to your blog but I have a problem I am 23yrs old and I am already a barrister, I am a Yoruba lady and my problem is that I am not in any relationship. Considering that I've had only 2 serious affairs and it all ended because I felt drained and exhausted, I am currently lonely and I need advice from all LLB readers

 All my previous relationship ended because:

1. I usually do the spending in the relationship.

2. All my ex guys seems to care less about how I feel. I mean they are usually indifferent about me.

3. As soon as I see the signals I move on and don't was my time though I go home and cry my eyes out.

Another problem is that my parents want to know who I am dating since I am the last child and I really need a sincere, loving, and comfortable guy who would treat me like the lady I am supposed to be. I am scared of going into any relationship in fact I am confused. I need relationship tips.

Thanks a bunch.

56 comments:

  1. Lonely you said. You have no problems. take up a sport. It will take all your time! From now on only date rich guys so they can spend on you.

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  2. Since you are a barrister, you must have had an LLB, guess that's why you need advice from LLB readers. LMAO!
    When you are ready you will date, in the mean time you have no problem. So go and sleep.

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    1. Very dry sweetie. Very dry.

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  3. The problem is in ur message. Cut down on the spending & it seems you aint patient enof. Those signals @ times might not be what it seems to look like hence stop assuming things & face your fear. Communication matters as well. Mayb am not making any sense sha bur am sure this will go a long way. Deal with ur past & start afresh. Dier's a man out Τ̣̣ђёre for you.
    ....@Seglon

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  4. Ladun, I'm finally convinced you are not alright!

    With all the bogus introduction, this is all about relationship tips? Madam, writer, have you heard about Google? There are a billion relationship tips there.

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  5. From the helplessness you have displayed here, I'm not surprised men flee from you

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  6. Eleke egg roll, go and take several seats biko. You and these your needy Readers.

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  7. www.blackgirlsareeasy.com...Learn a hun'ed thangz! ENJOY!

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  8. Eya, sorry sweet gurl, but you are still young and need not worry about relationship now, I have one in my office that is 40 yrs now that is the time to worry.you know what learn not to spend money on who u dating and make sure u find working ones who are not hungry or take you for a fool. Also don't go on a bf finding mission, the right one will surely come. I need a good lawyer for my buiz sha. lol
    God will help you

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  9. Dear writer, u don't get what u want if u don't work hard for it. I used to be like u, bailing out once i see any sign i hate. But d current one, i said it must work and i have been five years in it now and still counting. Men are like babies, u raise them the way u that suits u with wisdom, else; u'll be lonely for life

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  10. KMT... Grow up Ladun!!

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    1. Stupid song, Stupid production and a stupid way of promoting it.

      For you to have put up your song on the comment segment of a mere blog show's that you are wack, cheap ass and a frustrated wanabe!

      1st thing, there's a need to repackage your brain before your art. Why not just try being a lastma official than attempting rap till you'll succumb to robbery at a latter age.

      Bentley D'torrent!

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    2. E be like say you son kolo finish... Idiota....

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    3. Bros Bentley, I swear u nor go kill pesin fr here. U don tear me belle kpata kpata Lmao

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  12. WONU: seriously! Just buy punch or tribune news paper dere is a colume for pple like u dere. Any good bachelor on dis blog shud sign in o.

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  13. Wait until the right man comes cos if you rush into another relation out of desperation you might not like the outcome so be patience. I had similarly experience too after which, i have decided to wait until i met a that lady that is mine.

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    1. I think I know why the girls run from you. I would run too.

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    2. @anon 7:54 abi oh. Before one is assasinated by the oral bullets. I'm sure na pashie brother

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    3. Nna, I'm guessing you are a trader, I hope you are stinkingly rich. That is the only condition that can make you find that lady that is yours within civilization.

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    4. Kai! Una go burst person belle wit laff oooo.

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      Ol boy una nor go finish me wit laff dis sunday

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  14. Take a break for a while,and enjoy your ME-time.
    Then let things play out naturally, and STOP spending on the men! Expect gifts to mark an event.

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  15. You are still young...wait for the right one!!

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  16. Go to Rhythm FM, ask for IK. He has plenty relationship tips. Or go after Ruggedman, Bimbo Akintola and Foluke Daramola. They all have relationship tips for you

    Ladun, I'm sorry for you.

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  17. Hmmmm,what is happenin 2u,almost happen 2 all young peeps...It happened 2me to an xtent my frnds tot I v a spiritual problem that I v never had any successful relationship before cos of dat I became that gal that doesn't care bot relationship or guyz cos I tot I v spiritual issue.Any guy dt means me will like me n will want to v a rltship with me,cos I'm fun to be wid and yes I'm pretty wid nice figure..Sum tot am a lesbian..So last year started prayn,first I got that guy who any woman dream 2v and I v my dream job..they came same year 4me,one year and stil countn..jst take ur tym nuttin is wrong wid u..btw I'm 23 too..God perfects evrytin @ his own tym.

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  18. My kid brother wants someone like you oooh , I can guarantee he will be faithful , loyal , loving , and end up marrying you dats if you gentle yourself .he is 26 years old , fine guy has the swag and he is a Christian , he is read too no be just any how , but you must be able to cope with his laziness , Kai dat is why I his sister cannot stand him but you fit each other .
    Laden knows me very well she will ping me if you are game .

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    1. Why do you want to put your 26yr old brother in this kind of trouble?

      Does he have Mouth/Body odour? Is he physically challenged? Pls free the poor boy jare.

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  19. Left to me u av no problem...besides u are still quite young!

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    1. Haba, very funny comments, I can't help but laugh, common d lady needs advice cos she tot there were reasonables peeps on dis blog. But some people sha can just type anyfing d fink........ My dear I would advive you to be patient... And pray, the right guy would come.

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  20. Sweetie, follow @lovecurriculum on twitter and sign up for her relationship course. I promise you, it will make a whole lotta difference.
    Take your sexy time meanwhile. Cut yourself some slack.

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  21. Ehmmm...buh is dis a problem?? I don't think so!

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  22. Hmm it happened to a friend of mine..we actually tot it was a spiritual problem..she had been wooed twice or thrice in her life and the girl is dark n pretty o..until last year dis girl jst called Me to tell Me she was getting married..I was so surprised o n. I asked her why so sudden n she said she had met her dream man and he was crazy for her cos she was a virgin ,he wanted to get married to her fast..they had their honeymoon in dubai..Me wey ße say all men dey toast sef and I'm in a serious relationship I neva marry so girl chillax.when the ryt tym comes ur man will locate u

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  23. N I forgot to mention she is 23

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  24. Naija girls in Nigeria will never cease to amaze me!!! She is 23!! For pete's sake!! Not 50!
    U are too young to be thinking of having a successful relationship as u so put it! No relationship is successful becoz 2 pple are involved in ti and keep working to better themselves together.
    I see what all u girls in Naija know is Man this..Man that!! Don't go and face ur life! Be looking for man up and down becoz ur friends have men. U too want to join. I see una no dey read about all these girls their bfs dey stab up and down! Nonsense! ladun u too sef..I tire oh!

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    1. So she should be 50 before she gets worried? Some people can so fink with der anus

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  25. Babes just relax. I've been where u are before. Like someone said don't bail out once u notice any little sign u don't like. Take ur time to figure out the reasons for them and also make sure there's strong Communication. Sweetie ur still quite young so don't let it bother u so much. Also do not underestimate the power of prayer.
    Valerie.

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  26. A very big thank you to all those who said somefing reasonable and to others I fink you should not comment if you have no good words to offer (you negative words may be causing more harm than you can imagine)...... I sent this mail to LLB because I felt I needed help as this issue was weighing me down and preventing me from concentrating as I am currently doing my masters.it was getting depressing and my mum is fond of telling how as a young lady I should be planning to settle down and that men would run from me If I study too much:
    - I don't bail out of affairs except the hand writing is clearly written on the wall.
    -i would take to the reasonable advises given and for those with notfing to offer I wud just laugh over it.
    - I really wanna apprecaite all those that have helped me there suggestion.....I fell relieved. And better

    Thank sis Ladun and keep up the good work, I appreciate.

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    1. More harm! wat else were u expectin asin LL readers are nt relatnship expert so carry ur tiny 23yrs body en face ur studies d rite man will come at d rite time buh in d meantime YOLO

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  27. Dearie, learn to love yourself be4 loving someone else. Be comfortable wit who u r, dts when u wld b able to get d best 4 ur self. N FYI neva ever ever spend on a guy except on rare occasions. Love

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  28. KAD sharrap and go and sleep! Focus on ur masters and stop worrying why man no dey toast u! Once again u are 23! Not 50! U have 7 years to find a man! So ignore ya mother and tell her to chill biko! Na she dey blow fire under ur ass not LLB readers!
    Other people have serious problem wey bother them..people that have husbands and fiances performing for only 5 minutes or cheating on them That's serious issue NOT this ur stupid cry for stupid help! Gosh I'm so upset right now! Kids of nowadays! Hiss!

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    1. Ooooops. Am really shocked here. Kilode? Wots ur own problem??? U should be the one to STFU!!!

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    2. Frustrated dude or babe go fuck ur mama @Android free d girl

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  29. Kad I can really see why you are in this shit , you just want attention , cos some of us are not feeling sorry for you , you want to insult us abi , no bi you carry yourself come blog dey ask question aaabeg go and sit down in dorti , just 23 years old you have been spending for men , your mum is mounting pressure on you , can you see yourself really coping if you marry now ??????? .
    When you are all matured and can handle people then you can start a relationship , in fact you have vexed me I am taking back my brother's offer . Kmt .

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    1. Hey BUKs she never said she wanted to get married and wats gives u d impression she would be interested in your lazy bro? If you aint got any fing to say u can vex n hit ur head for train. Yeye lady

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  30. read my blog seriously and am not promoting either. Www.pullyourpantup.blogspot.com or just click on my name.

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  31. i think i understand wherez shez coming from, shez 23 and shez human its normal for her to be worried,she doesnt have to be 50 before she starts thinking,kad i will say u shd worry less,pray more u will locate ur own man soon,be careful nt to potray too much of miss independent woman in ur next relationship

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  32. the fact that u are repalacing all the "T" in ur words with "F" tells me how low ur literacy level is! U are probably a stupid child like KAD looking for man up and down..till someone impregnates una then u go sit down!
    I agree with Buks! 23 yrs old and she is already spending money on men. What kind of mother tells her daughter not to read book too much?? Which illereate backward thinking mothers do we have in that country biko?? Smh!

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  33. @andriod... Even wit ur big mouth u no fit even spel illiterate.....
    .. U'r fast bcumi one of d 'illereate' backward thinkin modas u talkd abt...ode

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  34. Be anxious for nothing but with pray and supplication, make all your request known toGod. A̶̲̥̅♏ a lady like you and av been through that and counsel also. Bt I won't say much b'cos it is only God that can take away that lonliness and give you a man who will love you jst the way you are and not 4 your money. You can snd a mail ab42005@yahoo.com. God bless you

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  35. the problem is that the girl is giving in to pressure from her parents. The first step to a successful relationship is freedom. You have to be able to think for yourself and decide what you actually want in a man. The fact that you are just 23 makes the whole situation easy.
    Another problem might be that your level of maturity is still low for a serious relationship. Just try to keep good friends around you and enjoy life for now.
    A good man will definitely come your way soon.
    I got married at age 30 after knowing my husband for two years. Actual dating took three months before we concluded we were meant for each other.
    Now we are happily married and best of friends. We work at making each other happy at all times.
    Also, you have to be prayerful. Many young people ignore the mighty hands of their Creator. Just tell God the kind of man you want and He will give it to you.
    Finally, keep yourself for your future husband. He will cherish you forever if you can do that.
    Good luck girl...........

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