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Monday, December 31, 2012

How Can I Cope With A Nagging Husband

Ladun,  I would like to share this with your readers.

My husband nags a lot. He reminds me of everything he has done for me and the kids the moment he thinks I have offended him. He nags at everything. Please LLBers how can I cope with a nagging husband. We are married for 3 years.

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  1. I'm sure u nag too

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    1. Which one be your own?

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  2. Just learn to adapt my dear, and pray it gets better with time.what I do is pray or recite a bible passage and try not to think about what he is saying

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    1. my dear, u have to be patient and tolerant with him, and get a job or business to support your self and your family also, if he nags at everything he does for you and your kids it may be because you don't support the family well or at all.which is the reason he can remind u of the things he has done for you in the first instance! because if he drops 50% or 60% while you drop the rest trust me, the respect he has for you will multiply, he wont even have anything to remind you of!


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  3. Fast and pray for him

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    1. Fast & pray without any form of physical change I.e getting a job or business to support the family,with that you can start to buy even little things the home needs to as little as water, stuff for the kids etc & most importantly giving good account of the money given to you. just fast & pray? I pity you.

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  4. Learn to do things that will make him happy. I hate men who nags

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    1. If it were the other way round and the woman was nagging, would you give this same advice? Why are we so intolerant to women and over indulgent to men in our society?

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    2. Because that is what our society asked for

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  5. Was he a nagger before you both married? If yes, your fault, your problem. If no, prayer is the key, prayer is the key, prayer is the master key...*singing*

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  6. @imustcomment: if u don't have any advice pls don't comment abeg. The issue is not whether she nags too but how to handle her husband's nagging!

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    1. 'Imustcomment'the name says it all na, jus ignore such trolls

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  7. Simple!!!! Just put ear piece in your ear and listen to music he would keep quiet.... Smh

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    1. Lol that's exactly what I do when my hubby starts nagging!! Lmao I can't kill myself now?!

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    2. And moreso,I fink he his a foolish man to be nagging on his responsibilities...mtshwwww

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  8. No perfect marriage.No one is perfect either,Am sure you nag too when he offend you,might not be as much but the truth is EVERYMAN NAGS,They are like grown up babies,so just learn to be patient with him.Sometime,ignore him and after he has calmed down talk it through.Marriage is HARDWORK not for babies.Goodluck

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  9. Incomplete story! Is he a mad man? Tell us what you do to set him off.

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  10. Is it only mad men that nags? Wait till you get married

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  11. In my opinion every man nags. They want to be the boss. they want to be in charge and when you don't do what they want they result into nagging.

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    1. Women nag men dont!

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    2. Big lie, men nag a whole lot

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  12. Get a divorce!End of wahala!

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    1. Are you married? The answer is definitely NO.

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    2. @Yetunde so she shld die fustrated?? Do u even knw y he is nagging?? It mite not be ordinary nagging

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  13. Walk away when he starts

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  14. Men are such babies and attention seekers! I'm sure he's nagging just so u give him attention! Learn to be an ego massager! Works for me all d time

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  15. Are you sure you are doing the right thing as a wife. No man wants to stay unhappy

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  16. Be patient with him. My husband is a replica of your man.

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  17. So men nag. This is a revelation

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  18. divorce him and go 2 ur mama`s house. lobatan

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    1. Stop being insensitive.

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  19. Since some of d commenter here are saying their men are like that I guess it a thing men do then. My ex was like that, I tried, and God knows that I tried, I massaged his ego, kept quiet for him, became someone else all to no avail. My friend always says every marriage has its issues but its easier to manage when u r meant for eachother. But @ this point my advice to u is be super submissive, it dosnt make u a fool, it only shows u r a strong woman.

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  20. Be submissive

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  21. Wow , the reverse is the case in most marriages but you can do a hell lot of good by ignoring him..
    Try everything possible never to activate his dreaded 'N' mode.. wish you luck

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  22. Submissive for how long? Hisss

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  23. Learn to switch off the moment he starts. I have horned my selective hearing skills for moments when people are saying things I do not need to hear.

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    1. Like ur comment one million times.

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    2. Best comment eva! Switch of ur hearing mode ma when he starts. Say nothing to him,act like u listening but deep down u,u probably praying or singing or doing sumfin else in ur mind...

      When he notices u not saying anything,he will keep quiet... When u both are now in a good mode,u can sit him down and give him reasons why u did what u did and tell him u sorry if he didn't like what u did..

      U can make ur home or break ur home.. It all lies in ur hands. Ask God for patience too and the spirit of tolorance

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    3. That's what I do too. I switch off. I start to sing my fave nursery Rhymes (of course not aloud) and I completely zone out. If I zone back in and he's still talkn, I'll zone out again. Trust me it really works. I call it being PRESENT but ABSENT-Minded . Cheers

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    4. This is my best!!!! I am goin to master how to zone out and back. Gosh....mine can be so irritating sometimes like a little spoilt child!!!

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  24. Submission is all that is required of a woman, its hard but it will be worth it @ d end.

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    1. You must be an insecure man. Submission??

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    2. Very insecure man na ri submission

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  25. Turn to God. There is nothing impossible with God. Nagging can be irritating sometimes

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  26. Have a listening ear and do what is right

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  27. God will help women in marriages. Such a difficult institution.

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    1. But most of us (women) want to get married or die trying. LOL

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    2. Hehehehehehehehehe really love your comment

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    3. Hehehehehehehehehe really love your comment

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  28. this is a simple matter, madam, as a married man whenever my wife does anything wrong and i snap at her, she will say am nagging. that statement will give rise to another hot arguement.

    one night (i dont know who advised her after 3 years of marriage and two kids) she woke me up, with a shaky whispery voice, she knelt down crying asking me where things went wrong. that i should tell her what the problem is, that i should not hold anything back (for like a year have been cheating on her (smh)).

    under that condition i told her that my problem is bj (meanwhile have asked for bj from before then, she said no, what she has been giving me before we got married). and after a long hesitation she said my area stinks. (am not dirty but am the hairy type).

    there and then we decided to do something because i can tell we have both reached the end of the rope. that night (1.30am) she shaved for me and scrub the place clean to her taste, before she was through my soldier is already saluting her and she gave me the bj of my life. ever since there has been peace in my house. i stopped seeing that home breaker in my office.

    why all this epistle, comminication is the key, talk with your husband, it may be a trivia issue that is worrying him, ask him in all sincerity to tell u what is worrying him, you will be baffled that he is only transfering aggression.

    if me and my wife can sort out our differences, you too can make ur marriage work. wish you all the best.

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    1. Lol@home breaker in your office buahahahaha. you are the one who almost broke your home.

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    2. Stupid useless dirty man,so she shoould become a doormat for ur stupid self,
      As a married woman who has been cheated on multiple times,you should be worshipping the ground your wife walks on to put up with your lying cheating sorry ass. Men like you make marriage a. Living hell. Tufia.ewu gambia

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    3. See BJ story. A lot of men are dirty but tomorrow they will say a woman's vagina smells. The fact that you bath daily doesn't make you clean. Had a similar experience with MO and BO. I'd to send him to the dentist and bought sponge for his armpits. The good thing was no oral and rubber all the way.

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    4. WONU: Bauhahahaha! U almost kill me wit laff esp dat part of before she was thru my soldier was already saluting her. Dat was d end of d year bonus. Lol

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    5. Lol @ Janded

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    6. Someone is being honest here and u ppl are still insulting

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    7. Throat cancer tinz

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    8. Look at this dirty man! So you almost destroyed your marriage 'cos of blow-job? Does your life depend on it that much? What won't someone hear bikonu? Selfish! Selfish! Selfish! Are you perfect? What about her, are you sure she's not missing something from you too? So if she dint tell you to shave off †he "mini-rain forest" you were nuturing down dere, you wouldn't have? Smelling man!

      Because of 'dick sucking' you went out to have urself a mistress whom you later labeled "Home-breaker" you my friend are the home breaker here! I agree with Janded.

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    9. Idiot u now call her homebreaker wen u were d one dat asked her out.it shall not be well wif you.Men suck!

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    10. I can relate. My husband only nags and gets angry at little issues when I refuse him sex. If I give him earth crashing sex, he can sign all his properties off to me.

      Find out what makes your husband nags

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  29. Pray! And u could act like u are deaf and dumb every time he nags that would help too i think ;)

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  30. pleaseeeeeeeee be patience and never my sister walk away or put ur radio on when ur man is nagging or else u get the beating of your life. pls suru lo dara.

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    1. Very true. Asin correct beating.

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  31. Woman you are so correct. Women are really suffering in this marriage of a thing but thank God for Jesus. Submission is meant for both couple but the woman has the greater part but when the man refuses to submit at all, it might become an obstacle for the woman to keep her own instructed part. Ephesaians 5 vs 21 says, "submitting yourselves one to another....." It is necessary that the two should be submissive to the other if not, the devil might come in and destroy the marriage. Actually leaving with a nagging person is like having a migrine head all the time but with God, noting is impossible. Preach him. Communicate with him. Try ignoring him whenever he is doing that. Look for something that makes you happy and be preoccupied with it. God bless you.

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  32. You too remind him that whatever he does for his family, he does for himself

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    1. Another lol for you

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  33. All i see here are WOMEN complaining and saying this/that bout their husband/marriage etc..not once have i read where they chip in 1 or 2 faults coming from their own end...and in most cases they actually are the roots of the problem...WOMEN get a life,b real

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    1. So are you saying dat women are not allowed to complain too? Is it only men that has that right? Je nodu ala biko!

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  34. Pls don't nag or stand up to him! Just walk away!! The moment you start to ignore, you are a Winner.
    Its sometimes difficult, trust it works. God bless.

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  37. Men ar unbearable wen not trained bt reared by their mothers. Women, train ur sons

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