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Thursday, December 13, 2012

How Can I Manage My Pregnancy?

This mail was sent to me yesterday but i am just seeing it. I like the fact that we think like one big family on this blog (big hug and winks,lol). Her mail below;

Hi Ladun,

I am so sad and I just lost hope in Nigeria. I left my hospital now and I don't know if I should weep for Nigeria or our health system. In short I am weeping for everything. Nothing is right in this country. Let me go straight to my point. I started visiting this hospital when I got pregnant four months ago. It is the best in my hood and expensive. I was at the clinic to ask my doctor what to eat during pregnancy and what not to eat. The next thing she said was you use a blackberry phone GOOGLE IT. I was mad. I was so confused. I looked at her and said why should I use Google when I have you. I was here yesterday and the bill that was given to me was thousands of naira which I paid.


She saw the expression on my face and managed to explain a little to me. I immediately called my mother and asked for the lecture I didn't want to hear before. Not that my mom can't tell me the do's and don’ts. But I believe a medical practitioner should know better. I took solace in the fact that if I send a mail to Ladun I will get more advice from female LLBers.

I want to know what is best for me to eat and what is not. I have gained alot of weight. How do I stop gaining weight? I also don’t want to have stretch marks after pregnancy. How do I avoid that? Thank you.

79 comments:

  1. How can a Doctor say that to you. I am single and searching with no child.

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  2. Don't indulge in too much carbohydrate. Eat lots and lots of fruits and vegetables.

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    1. Lucky you. I am pretty, fun, searching and pray hard to settle down with the bone of my bones at 33 yrs. Ladun , you should organize a get together where your single followers can mingle. It can be a dutch style. Haba! let's have a Ladun"s initiated blog wedding.

      My advise is that you should eat all possible healthy food and focus less on calories and junks. Although you might tend to have some special cravings for junk foods. The focus should be less on your weight and more about ensuring your baby is well fed in your womb. You can always workout post delivery.

      Sorry about the doctor, i am sure she/he is a recently qualified one. I typically insist on seeing old doctors (50 years old or more). Have a personal doctor there that you can call to confirm he is around before going over. Dont let the new doctors use you as practical. You should complain to the management as well. Most of the new doctors are very academic and have lil or no experience.

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    2. Ladun,one big family when u as d olori ebi has no face???? Lol. Who knw u 4 here? Serzly,it won't b a bad idea 4u to organize a cocktail 4 ur readers o bt whr u even dey sef? Me m in Ondo state. Single,graduate,pretty n searching. To d mail,my dear,it shows how unprofessional d doc is to respond lk dat. Such docs wld see patients dyin n won't respond n to think she is a fellow woman is hrtbrkin! Mk google ur frnd n stick to sm advice here. It is well wt u n ur baby. Slikky

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  3. But seriously!!
    Google shud b ur mum,dad, sis, brova and best friend!
    So just google it!
    D result will still be d same!
    But ur doc na mumu...u r paying a heavy biLl so she shud do anythng u want even if u want a foot-rub!
    Billlie jean

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    1. Billie my senseless nicca! Wassup now?!

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  4. No fish and go easy on the nuts.

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    1. Like seriously???? NO Fish??? What universe are you from? Fish is good for the baby. Omega 3 is excellent for the baby. Use GOOGLE to sort out which types of fish to eat. Your Doc was trying to save you money and unnecessary hospital visits by suggesting you find out on your own some things which are not particularly MEDICAL in nature.

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    2. DUNCE ... No fish .... You must be a retard!!!

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    3. No you're the retard retard...I found it easier staying away from fish and getting my Omega 3 from supplements - I took every supplement going. Now you google Omega 3 supplements HALF WITS!

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    4. I say it again you are an oxymoron ... A flipping nuisance who deserves a slap round the face! fish is good for pregnant women you dimwit .. if you couldn't cope with it, doesn't mean others won't ..... Asinwin!

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  5. That doctor is an idiot!
    As for you, the following will help greatly:
    Eat lots of fruits and vegies
    Eat more protein, less carbohydrate
    Eat little quantities frequently. Discipline your eating habit. Replace with fruits.
    Take a long walk daily or at least 3 times a week.
    Drink lots of water first thing in the morning.

    All these will help your weight and health.
    Wishing safe months and delivery ahead.

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    1. Am sure you are the greater idiot,you think doctors are dieticians too, Btw mail sender if ur belle is gonna stretch it gonna have marks too, its not only d load its hormonal too. Staying fit in preg is not all abt what to eat, exercise helps too and stop having the delusions that you are feeding for two, that's what our mamas say

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    2. Mr or madam anon 21:58,
      She will not get stretch marks if she uses«bio oil» on her tummy.

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    3. You are really stupid!
      For that doctor to have been employed as an Obstetrician OR to attend to pregnant women, he/she should be professional and knowledgeable enough to care for his/her client's basic medical needs.

      And where did I say she should eat for two people? You must have comprehensive or mental issues.

      Only fools like you think paying for a service and being attended to, is
      a favour.

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  6. I DIDNT WANT TO PUT ON WEIGHT WHILE PREGNANT BUT THE TRUTH IS MY BODY REJECTED A LOT OF THE HEALTHY FOODS I TRIED EATING. I JUST KEPT THROWING UP. MY ADVICE IS FOR YOU TO EAT WHAT YOU CAN TOLERATE....IN MODERATION OF COS...DRINK LOADS OF WATER AND TRY AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE TO EAT BEANS IN ANY FORM(MOI MOI)... LOTS OF VEGETABLES -RAW EVEN...IT WILL HELP WITH YOUR STOOL.

    CONCERNTRATE ON HAVING A HEALTHY BABY, THE WEIGHT WILL COME OFF AFTER YOU PUT TO BED WITH EXCERCISE. REMEMBER THE PREGNANCY TOOK 9 MONTHS, SO DONT EXPECT TO LOOSE THE WEIGHT SO FAST...

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  7. lot of fruit nd vegetables helps alot

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  8. The doctor might not have acted professionally but she was right to refer you to google. I would have been surprised if I was a doctor and was asked that.

    How can you lack such basic information in this jet age? Within one week of my getting pregnant, I'd read up everything there was to know. Stop waiting to be spoonfed please.

    A doctor cannot design a diet for you because of pregnant women's varied taste and cravings. Build up your own diet based on the key elements of a healthy diet. Get on the internet and google away or buy the book, "What to expect now that you are expecting".

    Have a safe delivery.

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    1. y didnt u deliver your baby all by urslf... since u read everything in d books n google....
      what if she cant read or dont have a blackberry... think about others too n not your selfish self

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    2. Nigerians hate to read.......................

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    3. I cannot belive people are actually supporting that doctor! what nonsense? if you've ever been pregnant before you will know that one can never get too much information especially if it is a first pregnancy! Google is a search engine and NOT a doctor neither was it designed to replace one. Yes it is very useful but does google know ur past medical history? next time ur ill dont go to the hospital u hear, ask google what drugs u should take. and whilst ur at it u can ask google to fix ur car, check ur plumbing and kuku teach ur kids mathematics. rubbish. if my doctor told me such nonsense that would be the last time i set foot in that hospital.

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    4. Hello Kitty, in Nigeria yes i research every damn drug my doctor gives me before i ingest or give my kids...so yea i ask google...docs online some aint even free so babes yes google basic things like foods to eat in pregnancy oh yes i wld...i aint saying doc is right but foods to at varies, cravings and what her body can stand!!

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    5. What do you mean google? You google it and tell me what you see. most of what you see on google are food that we don't have in Nigeria and even if we do, the name they are called in the western word is different from what we call them.
      And to the reader who needs help. eat vegetable and fruits, lots of water, try evening walk around you neighborhood. Eat protein, plantain in any form (preferably boiled )

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    6. Anon, don't mind hello kitty. she'll be here showing her ignorant self. the doctor was a bit harsh but how won't a 4 months pragnant woman already know what diet is best for her. even teenagers know this these days. i'm sure that was the doctors best way of saying DUH! to a supposedly ignorant patient. abi na she teach you how to fuck too?

      you see a doctr when u're ill or have complications, u might have as well be asking her what position to stay for effective knacking during pregnancy. nonsense.

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    7. From my experience the doctor actually does not give you advise on what to and what not to eat in pregnancy, you typically get this from nurses/midwives during antenatal classes, I suggest you join one.

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  9. Hello dear,its so sad a doctor said dat to. U,mine wld neva say dat cos he even kals to chck on me if I miss my appointment,am jst ending my 1st trimester,according to wat my doctor said,u shld nt miss taking ur Pregnacare drugs once a day,eat more of see foods n protein,avoid carbohydrate intake,if u normally have loss of appetite,mak ur liquid mre nutritious by taking ribenna,locuzade boost or tea..unripe plantain is vry gud,and also breadfruits(ukwa) beans,fruits n vegetables r vry imprtnt..dt way u wnt gain weight,cos right nw I dnt even luk pregnant,n my baby is growing strong..al d best swty

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    1. Ribena is a no no. Sugar free one has phenylalanine which in excess is bad for you. Avoid sugary drinks

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  10. You are just a foolish, spoilt child. So this is your reason for losing hope in Nigeria, not the more serious, life threatening issues?

    You left your mother who is experienced in such matters and put all your hope in a Doctor who's probably never being pregnant, is pressed for time and will never be as patient with you as your mum.

    Yes. Go to google and talk to your mum on clarifications.

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    1. @anon 08:32,u r d foolish one.y wld u insult her.u r so bush

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    2. U lack manners like the doctor in question. Y are u calling her foolish and spoilt. If u re used to mediocre services from ur doctor, then kip quiet. pls free her and let her be.

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  11. The doctor might not have acted professionally but she was right to refer you to google. I would have been surprised if I was a doctor and was asked that.

    How can you lack such basic information in this jet age? Within one week of my getting pregnant, I'd read up everything there was to know. Stop waiting to be spoonfed please.

    A doctor cannot design a diet for you because of pregnant women's varied taste and cravings. Build up your own diet based on the key elements of a healthy diet. Get on the internet and google away or buy the book, "What to expect now that you are expecting".

    Have a safe delivery.

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    1. D doctor does not have any right to refer her to Google. The best was to have answered her and ask her to Google more info to improve her knowledge base . The doctor iwas unprofessional. Simple.

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  12. For stretch marks, rub your tummy with Bio-oil minimum 2ce a day....check Ebeano in lekki for original cos lots of fakes or healthplus pharmacy....From US or UK - more expensive oils - Clarins tonic oil.

    Eat lots of vegetables and fruits, you'll get peekish not necessarily hungry, have smaller portions of food so u can do 5 meals a day as opposed to 3 heavy meals cos as u get heavier, u'll experience heartburns and be uncomfortable if you eat too heavy. YOu can eat anything but avoid liver, fatty fish. also get your pregnacare with omega and calcium and take 1 everyday, i cldnt stand the cocktail of drugs given at the clinic so this (pregnacare) encompasses all.

    Finally, google is your best friend...sign up on www.babycentre.com or www.thebump.com for weekly update on your pregnancy. I was over informed while pregnant, my doctor was upset i never had questions for him. I dont think its a Nigerian issue as i had my child abroad and was expecting something so different but hey obgyn just checks asks any problem and finito!!

    Remember pregnancy isnt a diesease, goodluck!!

    IfeD

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    1. Thanks IfeD...i was just going to add that she should also look for shea butter to rub her tummy to avoid stretch marks it helps a great deal...she should go easy on any "nuts" just incase the baby would be prone to allergies...take all your folic acids religiously and watch the calories on the sides of every pack of food you take....save baby massive weight till afterbirth to avoid wahala...all the best.
      Jamilah

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    2. Thanks o! I said the same thing about fish and some ignorant ignoramuses nearly took my head off...Awon Oshi!

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  13. My dear as a new mum myself, google is truly your friend o! Even here in western world, from the moment I found out I was pregnant, even doctors, nurses and midwife will ask you to go online and research...that's the day and age we live in now. However I can understand it's annoying they gave you so much bill only to refer you to the internet.

    Like someone said above, eat a lot of fruits and veg, drink a lot of water too (about 2litres a day) to ensure you are well hydrated. One myth we tend to go with is eat a lot when pregnant, you don't need to eat like you are eating for two! That's what my doctor told me, eat in moderation. Remember until your 2nd trimester you only need an additional 100calories or so a day. One other thing to remember is only eat when you are hungry, if you feel like snacking then fruits would do. Whether or not you eat, the baby will get all d nutrients it needs from your body through the placenta (so baby will always be fine) but you'll be the one to suffer it cos you'll be drained. That was what my midwife told me. Regarding stretch mark, you can never avoid that one o! Some people are lucky and never have it whilst some people have a little and others much. As for me, I have stretch mark started having it when I was going to my 8th month despite using palmers cocoa butter for pregnant women, bio oil and avent creams. Infact I had been using bio oil for years before I got pregnant and that's highly recommended. I have thoroughly researched strecth marks in pregnancy and to be honest, all companies want to sell their goods so they'll tell you this and that works. I even used african shear butter too. Since giving birth my stretch marks are not bad plus we african women, the reason why we tend to have a lot of stretch marks during pregnany is because we eat a lot more than we need to in pregnancy and gain excessive weight. Pregnancy around your belly is fine remember a human being is growing inside of you and the baby will get bigger as you tick along! So take solace in that if your have stretch marks afterall is better to have a healthy baby growing inside of you. Also remember some people will give the world to get pregnant and have a child. So count yourself lucky, enjoy every moment of your pregnancy. Wish you all the best and a safe delivery.

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    1. So enlightening. God bless u.

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    2. on Point and well said ........ wished there was a like button

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    3. straight to the point! 3 gbosa for u!

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    4. I Couldnt ve said it any better. Thou I am still pregnant. I am also praying I dont get stretch marks. I use bio oil st Ives snake.skin oil n even thou I hardly eat I am still adding weight. So the best you can do it try n eat what your body will tolerate. I believe we can work out when the baby is born. I want a healthy baby am sure you do too.
      Enjoy your pregnancy my dear. A lot of people r looking for it

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  14. http://www.bio-oil.com/en-us/

    IfeD

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  15. My dear, u can gain weight because u are pregnant it doesn't mean u won't come down again! Eat any food u knw its healhty and comfortable for ur somach (dat won't mk u throw up)! Eat veggies it replaces d blood taken by ur unborn child! Also drink lot of water!

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  16. then i hear that you are not meant to scratch you tummy else you will have stretch marks after birth. u are adviced to use Ori to rub on ur tummy when the scratching comes. Sorry dear o, our doctors eh, na animals they suppose dey treat now o, i tire.

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    1. lolzzzz lolzzz @ our doctors eh, na animals they suppose dey treat now o, i tire....... you are so funny.

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  17. Yes,am a mum of 2 healthy kids.eat lots of vegetables nd fish,very very good.nd it realy helped me.u jus nid to c my chiboy!!den make sure u dont mis ur drugs.for dat of stretch mark????forget it!!!its a natural tin,once u dont have it,u dont!no mater d scratching or wateva,bt if u will have it,no mater wat u use,u wil surely have it.save delivery oooooooooooooooooo!!!

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    1. Yinka florens,ahn ahn,u have a chiboy?
      Na igbo u marry?
      U sabi curse well for these blogs.
      The only time u r not cursing or dragging out a long ''mtscheeeeeeeew'' is when u r asking after luca.
      No curse me o.Na truth I talk.
      P.s where'sAdepeju Ayaaba(I hope I got the name correctly.)Meeehn,that Lady na fire.If she curse you,u fit cry self.

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    2. this yinka has small sense then. please give more comments like this one and not your normal empty hiss.

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  18. Yes,am a mum of 2 healthy kids.eat lots of vegetables nd fish,very very good.nd it realy helped me.u jus nid to c my chiboy!!den make sure u dont mis ur drugs.for dat of stretch mark????forget it!!!its a natural tin,once u dont have it,u dont!no mater d scratching or wateva,bt if u will have it,no mater wat u use,u wil surely have it.save delivery oooooooooooooooooo!!!

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  19. rub bio oil or shea butter generously on ur bump and breasts to avoid stretch marks. also avoid scratching ur bump as it will itch a lot as it expands insteads gently rub it.

    As for your diet, just eat sensibly and avoid too much pepper.I just had a baby and i googled a lot! U can sign up with many websites like baby centre etc.

    all da best!!

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  20. Go and read Every woman ,i read it wen I was pregnant did help a lot nd d original bio oil helps with stretch Marks

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  21. Am also 7 mnths preg with twins. I hv gained 7kg so far which is considered healthy. Eat more veggies and fruits. Eat meat(white and red), beans, egg, skimmed milk, yoghurt in moderation. Take carbs too but not excessively. Exercise if can but for me i walk tho not consistent. Take lots of water. Rest, rest and rest. Dont also forget your routine drugs(folic and iron). I reccommend #pregnacare plus#, its very good.

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  22. Shea butter and coconut oil are your best friends. Massage in circular motions religiously pre and post delivery to banish stretch marks.

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  23. Watch ur diet,less carbs,n 4 d stretch marks try clarins stretch marks cream it hlps,I'v bin using it n I'm yet 2 find 1 stretch mark on my bdy n I'm almst due,doug xpensive bt its truly worth it!chk @ shoprite branch,ikja mall or vi branch u'd find d cream der

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  24. Buy gud pregy books, google is still will always be ur friend, attend ante natal classes! If u attend class u won't be asking ur doc dat! His or ha job is to check u. About stretch marks? It must come if it really wanna come! Friuts protein wata and vegetables will do! Dats d truth.

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  25. I'm 8months plus,my advice to u is to look for what to expect when u re expecting its a book it will help u till after larbour self.Den eat lots of fruit,veggies,and make beans n put in ur freezer any tin u re hunger jst eat little of it.Eat carbohydrate once in a while.And if at any time u crave for anytin make sure u eat it cos it will digest well.And lastly abt d stretch mark use shea butter bt if it doesn't work jst leave it.As for the weight again do exercise like jogging n aerobic bt u will still add weight sha dere is no way u can be pregnant n don't add weight.Like me i use to wear size 8 up n 14 down,bt nw i wear 12up n 18 down so dnt worry abt d weight u can always loose it after u finish havin ur baby.All d best dear e no easy.

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    1. Ethan,I bn think say u be man sef.....lol
      Safe delivery to all expectant mums on this blog.

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      No vex o.I'm trying to imagine how u look like: size 8 up and 10 below.

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    3. nice advice! but dis ur english na die! choi!!

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  26. M 7months n 3 weeks pregnant. i dont av a single stretch mark on my stomach. i started use shea butter on my stomach as soon as i discovered i was pregnant. i often 1da if it's d effect of d shea butter or probably m just lucky nt 2 av stretch marks.

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  27. Jes eat lots of vegetables nd for the stretch mark,u kn use ori,bio-oil or clarins stretch mark cream

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    1. I think it's just your luck hun, I started having stretch marks as soon as I could crawl *sad face*

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  28. Google and the internet are the worst places to go to when it comes to issues like these. why? because it will only confuse you. You read so many things which being a newly pregnant woman you can not differentiate the facts from the myths. My advise? Look for pregnancy/mommy and me/maternal books to read (this is where google comes in. Look for books and search for reviews on them before you buy). They say experience is the best teacher. As much as every individual is different, talk with women (especially older women) who have kidS (emphasis on the 's' cos they've been through it more than once). At the end of the day, your mother's advice is the best 'cos part of you came from her and its most likely you have similar gene/features/body. As for food, cut out the junk, a little carb more protein and you can never go wrong with fruits and veggies. Drink a lot of water too (makes d skin glow). The most important thing is to take care of yourself and enjoy your pregnancy because when the baby comes, they become your priority. I wish you the very best!

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  29. Sorry,I meant 8 up and 14 below.Let me draw it again:
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    Now I get the picture.It's hourglass abi?

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  30. Do take a lot of vegetables and fibre with fruits, I know it helps and please avoid too much intake of vitamin A, it's nt good for pregnancy... Pls send d name of d doctor and hospital so we can treat her ***k up abeg! All the best, wish u a safe delivery

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    1. Look @ ur mouth like treat her ***k up. In ur lil mind vegetable+fibre+fruit - vit A equals diet plan.iti bolibo

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  31. While i was pregnant with twins i used alot of shea butter on my tummy and breasts abd i dont have any stretch marks so ori is tried and tested. Be generous with it. eat alot of veggies and lots of water as long as u can keep it dwn u r fine, pls don not use d xcuse t r eating for two. eat what is enuff 4u. Walk alot. sleep/rest well. enjoy ur pregnancy and the Lord would see you through. Amen. u can contact me if u have any more questions.

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  32. You can eat anything, same as you've always eaten. Just don't drink or smoke. Do you think Goodluck Jonathan's mother was on a special diet when she was pregnant?

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  33. @ Jenny White am a gal o!but my baby name na Ethan,lol @ my shape.@ Anonymous 15:35 no vex for my english too much,na night school i naim cause am.But seriously working on it thou.

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  34. Join an ante-natal class to get details on what to eat and what not to eat that is tailored for this region if he world ( your hospital should have one ). By the way eating healthy should be a way of life and not restricted to just when u''re pregnant.

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  35. Hello kitty u sound so dumb, doctors aren't dieticians, consult one for your diet info,doctors may know a bit about everything, they definitely don't know it all.

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  36. @ Am.totally agree with u, Docs in Nig are supposed to treat animals like you who tink scratching your belly gives you stretch marks.
    I dey hail your royal dumbness!

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  37. @jenny white,yes pa chiboy na ibo o!!nd am nt even in d mood for cursin,jus got born agaim.u c?

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  38. anon 21:13,u re nt okay o! @jenny white,i don born again,so i no go
    curse u.yes,pa chiboy na ibo o o o.

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    1. born again my foot and still saying someone is not okay. KMT.

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  39. @jenny white,yes pa chiboy na ibo o!!nd am nt even in d mood for cursin,jus got born agaim.u c?

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  40. Eeeh you can start with pounded yam and ofe nsala, then eeko and eforiro , catfish pepper soup , Amala and Gbegiri with ewedu , ika alasepo with Eba , plantain fried and beans , rice with assorted meat , akpu and bitter leaf soup . My dear you are an African woman therefore you need strong diet .
    @ yinka Florence so you have two kids and you are running after lucabracee well done oooo we his sisters have decided to collect him back from you , Biko don't kill our brother you this Yoruba woman .

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  41. OMFG! *Just_speechless*

    kindly, visit>>> http://chiboychuks.blogspot.com

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