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Monday, December 17, 2012

What do men want! Djinee tackles 10 Questions from 10 Women

Susan: what was the lesson you learnt from your last relationship?

Djinee: To be less protective. With my last relationship I was too protective. Worried about her safety. Probably I was too obsessed. So I learnt to give some space.

Jemila: what do men want in a woman?

Djinee: Different men, different desires. Some men want trophy girlfriends/wives. The beautiful, model look-alike who they can show off to friends like a new car. Some men look out for women to complement them, good cooks, good lovers, good listeners… Different strokes for different folks.


Ijeoma: My boyfriend talks a lot, and it’s embarrassing. How can I get him to shut up when he needs to be?

Djinee: You might cause a fight if you are derogatory and insulting in your correction because anyone, male or female will feel slighted. Correct lovingly like you care what people think about him. Never shut him up in public.

Ayoka: what should a woman look out for in a man when she’s ready to make that final decision to be with him forever?

Djinee: The truth? You will never know. Some people can keep up their acts for years. Encourage your man to be free and make mistakes. Then you’d know what you can and cannot live with. When the man looks too perfect, 9 out of 10 something major is wrong.

Tina: “Lovers’ Rock” is such a beautiful song. I hope songs like that can revive the lost romance in society; can it?

Djinee: Thanks, Tina. Though I didn’t make the song for restoration purposes but I sincerely hope the listener gets to enjoy the song anytime it plays.

Helen: People pay too much attention to the physical. Is that why we have too many bad relationships and disastrous marriages?

Djinee: That’s one of the many reasons. Relationships are seen as businesses nowadays. People x-ray what they can profit from it. Now we are human, we will always falter and just like in companies, erring employees get suspended or sacked, same way relationships end. You dig?

Bimbo: Is it in a man’s DNA to be promiscuous?

Djinee: Promiscuity is no more likened to a particular gender especially with current trends. But it’s neither in any of the genders’ DNAs to be promiscuous.

Nneka: what’s the best way to communicate because I realise me and my boyfriend argue so very often that I’m thinking of just ending the relationship.

Djinee: The problem I see here is that the only time you guys trash out serious issues is when you are angry and arguing. My 2cents? You both should sit together one day when you’re not arguing or angry, maybe over drinks and talk about your issues. It might do well to even write them down. If you really care about each other, you’d wanna correct lovingly.

Lamide: should sex make up for an otherwise dull relationship? My fiancée and I have very little in common except when it comes to great sex. Is that enough reason to stay?

Djinee: As much as great sex is important, it isn’t the only factor. When you realise you can get sex anywhere then you’d have to crave for some other fulfilment. When you are facing the travails of life, great sex won’t fill the void!

Josephine: My friend’s boyfriend is very manipulative and always wants to get his way. He has turned my friend into this zombie! How’s the best way to tell her to dump the douche bag?

Djinee: I usually don’t encourage 3rd parties in relationships, Jo. You might not get the correct picture of things. One thing you need to find out is why your friend is still staying put. Is she gaining one way or the other from the relationship – financially, emotionally, or otherwise? Your friend has to learn to be happy with herself and by herself. Self-reliance is also key. That way a man coming into her life doesn’t feel like he’s ‘God’ breathing life into a ‘worthless’ being. He will see her as someone he can grow with. When you tell her all these, hopefully she’d see the sense. Otherwise it’s really difficult pulling a girl out of a relationship like hers, especially when she feels she’s gaining somehow.

37 comments:

  1. Dude's got common sense. I like.

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    1. I see you are new on this blog. Welcome

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    2. Look commom sense is NOT common

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    3. Yes o @ anon 22:18,an average lIB reader is a hater nd can insult 4 d whole Africa + Asia...

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    4. LMAO @anon 22:18 and 23:11 very true

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    5. HAHAHAHAHAHA!!

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  2. Hmmmmmmmm,I like all he talked abt,kinda makes sense bt its easier said dan done

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  3. Dude's got common sense. I like.

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  4. Dude's got common sense. I like.

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    1. Like serzly,ur network is bad?u be jjc tru tru as dem talk am

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  5. D guy sure has experience.
    Nice words bro

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  6. Uncle Djinee are you married? Just answer with a simple yes or no, then i will know what next to say.

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    1. He is your uncle and u don't knw if he's married or not. And what is ur problem with that, do u want to marry ur uncle? SMH about this uncle and aunty stuff, when someone is not related to u, why call him "uncle". A particular tribe in this county is guilty of this is very annoying crime.

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    2. Say d tribe out Ebuka,let's finish u.

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    3. Ebukah you are an idiot with that response. My friend go and sit somewhere if you don't know what to say.
      --Blessed

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    4. Wat does being married hav 2 do wit being wise and having a bit of common sense. There r married ppl out there who do not know anything about dealing wit relationships. Thousands of broken marriages around u wil testify 2 dt. So pls think b4 u talk.

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  7. Djinee can like to shut d fuck up.after fucking all d lautech girls and leaving them stranded.which relationship is he talking about,d one with this tall girl Sola or Fola in Agric department.Heard he fucked d girl's friend Lamide too.they are 4 in a group.oshisko.we know him as Nosa,Djinee ko didinrin ni.

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    1. Who asked you about his history?

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    2. Debisi talk true... This guy don fuck u & then left u starnded. Na by force 2 open ur leg? As an adult u shld know dt if a person, male/female fucks u, it doesn't mean dy love u. Da guy didn't love u, or wld u rather be in a relationship with some1 who had no love 4 u.

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    3. E dey pain u say the "didinrin" as u call him no gree fuck u?did he rape them?leaving them stranded bawo?its people like u that give other girls a bad name, what has LAUTECH got to do with the sensible piece of advice the guy gave.#swerve abeg

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    4. You pple arent serious.lmao Nosa fuck me God forbid i will rather fuck Ajenikoko.those who knw will understand.all i am saying is he is nt fit to give any relationship advise.go kill yaself i av said my own.

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    5. Kill yaself bi ti bawo? Go fuck ajenikoko nah, after all wetin u carry for yansh wey special... Girls wey fuck am go TV go complain? As u don turn urself to "I av said my own" (agbaejoro)

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  8. Sense all the way. I kept nodding......no buts.

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  9. I must say Question number 2 had no answer.....

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  10. We need readers mail ladun... Pls readers,send in ur readers mail,not cheating wives stories o... Anything else would do

    @Divalicious991

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  11. Guy made sense all the way, @mimie ure right, absolutely no buts

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  12. Must u insult to view ur point?

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  13. Lol,he gave the last girl a polite 'ela'...baba dudu oshi!

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  14. oyibo! "must u insult to air ur view" not "must u insult to view ur point"....ur welcome

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  15. thats a great piece djinee

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  16. seriously must you guys be bitter to prove a point????the guy made sense in a way, but is he in d best position to give such brotherly advise?

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    1. That's d million dollar question o, and frm wat I hear, it doesn't seem he practices atall sef. Nyways who cares.....

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  17. Well said. But hope he practices sha

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  18. he answered the questions well, weldone maybe he should have his own talk show lol

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  19. Quite remarkable responce Dj....however It seems the responses were rehearsed, this is nigeria,not an american talk show where u Just answer like that..,even with all the experience dating several girls can offer,there is stil a ?

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