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Thursday, January 3, 2013

How Do I Get Rid of a Bad Friend?


My name is Seun I sent this story so that people can advise me on what to do and this is how my story goes. I am someone that loves to help people and I am also a very friendly person so I have a lot of friends but there is one particular one out of my friends that is very close to me. I help her a lot but despite all I do for her she is very ungrateful. She goes behind me to spoil my name and say all kind of things to people and even our friends. Things that are not true.

My family have called me times without number to warn me about her whenever she hurts me. But we get back and continue our friendship in no time. I love her so much. We have been friends for six years. Yesterday I met someone for the first time that was trying to start a relationship with me. Immediately I told him my real names he asked if I knew someone by my friend’s name and I said yes. Then he told me all he has heard about me and my family which were mostly lies. 

I started crying and called her on the phone. She said she knows the guy but denied telling him anything about me or my family. I don’t believe her because this is not the first time this will happen. How do I live without such a friend. Please help.

57 comments:

  1. Delete all her details and if she calls you that is if you recognise her numbers, blank her. Trust me it works. The day you manage to talk to her if ever tell her she's nothing but a bitch. New year and new things. Do it now.

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    1. lorrrrl.....i've been in same shoes before and its not as easy as u guys think....i had such a friend in school,everyone thought we were bestfriends, she was always fighting everyone on my behalf and mehnnn we looked at like so everyone tot we were twins, she fell sick everytime we quarelled sef, lorrl, but i strongly felt in my spirit that things were not right, i noticed she was jealous about me (even once heard a prophesy about our friendship at a prayer meeting) plus i kept hearing stuff she sd about me, and everytime i told her about something good about to happen, it wouldn't end up happening..anyway wen i got tired, i had to choose my future or her, i cut her off, deleted her number, removed her, her friends and family from fb and bb, she got married, i was supposed to be d chief brdsmd but to drive home my point i travelled out of town that period...and i was never around wen she came home, in time she got d message and we r cool...funny enuf, i hear she still tries to keep a tab on me, someone recently told me she told her where i am abroad, i was impressed, lorrl but hey i've met better ppl, i miss d friendship(if it was genuine) but i'm more shocked at d irony, life is mysterious really

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    2. You sound pained, I am very sure u were the bad friend, she's better off without u and ur prophecies

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    3. @ 15:03

      Yes Ohh, I can relate had such a sociopath in my life under the title of best o!... 18 yrs aftr meeting on matric day, Ihad to run for my life and kept running..
      even though we work for the same large company...

      she has done her devilish best o bring me down and make life difficult for me...but i have kept it to together and left her to spew her poison....not responded or taken any action. i ignore the bitch....


      RUN!!.. People like this have a deep bottomless pit of envy, no matter what they have or do... they ALWAYS want your portion....and will go behind your back to try to grab it..

      I repeat just RUN!

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    4. LWKMD @ anon 21.16. i'm sure you're Sue's winchi winchi friend that she BOUNCED ages ago chai. As soon as the the girl finish like dis, gbam! u just reply am. I no fit laff. Sue biko ur friend don come oooo come carry am b4 she jinx everybody on this blog lol!

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    5. Anon 04 Jan 21:36....u sure are one hell of a saaaaaaaaaad fellow.....looser plus hater all in one

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  2. Dump the bitch! And quit being a duns!

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    1. You couldn't even pronounce the word you called someone.

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    2. Oga/madam anon, do you mean pronounce or 'spell'? Orishirishi dey for this blog sha!

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  3. my dear, with ol u hv Heard about her, u have to confront her openly and then tell her off, she is not a good friend so you have to sever all ties with her.. but if u r soo good dat u dont Wanna tk extreme measures or bluntly tell her off... Then do it slowly n wit utmost caution. Stop letting her come close(not saying u shld physicaly avoid her lyk a plague) or going out wit her, cook up excuses not to hang out or see her/call her. Keep her at arms length. dont divulge personal infos.. Let ur attitude n body language tell her u need her no more in ur lyf.. Make Faithful friends nt to jx have many but back stabbing friends. And if she reads d handwriting on d wall n confront U..then be bold enof to tel her u dont want her as a close friend. Its not something u dialogue abt, jx say ur mind in a polite way tho n move on. Forgive her o and dont hate on her or keep malice, jx keep ur distance. say hi if u run into her on d streets, help her if u r in a position to, buh dont be dat intimate or close again.

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  4. pick up ur slippers, shoes, heels, pumps(dats wah they call it these days), dust em, and run, run, run(like usain bolt) as far away as possible frm dis pesin.... These kinda ppl can kill u.. Pls for Godsakes, u nid to run far far away baby... May God deliver ur friend o IJN.... Amen !

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  5. You dont need to get yourself worried,she's not a good friend so stay away from her

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  6. Zinnia:
    Jealousy, envy, owu jije, ojukokoro, backbiting and backstabbing at its peak!

    As far as I'm concerned, she isn't your friend; she is frenemy. Some people can so envy ehn!

    She does that because she envys everything about you. You've revealed too much about yourself too her. She doesn't like you; only pretending

    People that do that often feel disadvantaged when meet a much privileged person. There's something you have that she lacks hence her behaviour. In short, she is suffering from inferiority complex.

    Such a person is dangerous; she can frame you up and deny in your face. With the information she has about you, she could spoil things for you; that's if she hasn't done such already.

    I will advise you cut her off gradually:
    1. Stop calling/texting her
    2. Stop paying her visit
    3. If she calls, pick but choose your words wisely and be distant in your conversation.
    4. Stop hanging out together
    5. If she comes to you house, don't be enthusiatic around her.


    Please be firm with your decision because you strike me as someone who could be easily persuaded. If you want to cut her off completely, you've got to be firm and resolute.

    Don't even bother to find out why she is the way she is; it wont help. You're nice and she's taking advantage of her kind spirit.

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  7. R U̶̲̥̅̊ mad ni? Dump dt biatch lyk a piece of rag.

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  8. its not by force to be friends with someone!

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    1. I wonder oh! Does she feed her or something? Why does she think she can't do without her? By the way, guys, beware oh! Such 'friendship' exists among you dudes too!

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  9. Very easily she is not your friend. Change her name on your phone to unfriend and then after a few ignored calls and non replied messages if she is of sound mind will take a hint.
    Be more vigilant from now on

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  10. Seun WTF u r an adult, stop picking up her phone...cut any ties with her. U guys r not twin neither blood drop her like it hot before she jack u up for life.

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  11. get a life....

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  12. U are a foool..can't bliv u still need advice on dis jezz..only u can advice urself dats if u need ur name to protect tho..mrs nice girl

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  13. well ... you might want to pray about this ... people have been known to do jazz to keep a friend .. abi why else would you be asking how you can live without your friend. Is she your Jesus?

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  14. stop acting like someone thats never seen a friend before, send her packing and move on, if she hurt you again it's your own fault

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  15. Well this is quite simple...I know it may be alittle bit difficult but you have to try..first of all you have to ignore her calls,secondly you have to cut short your conversations with her that is if u have to speak with her..do not discuss things that her important to you with her again ...this as worked out for me I hope it works for u too

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  16. Sure, you can't live without her because she supplies the Oxygen you breathe. Just sit down there, let her kill you first. Mumu. No wonder she sees you as weak and takes advantage of you. Mschhhheeeeew

    Bia Ladun, what's this your craze of using Oyinbo pictures to illustrate Naija stories. Lazy girl, get file pictures of Black people, even if they are African Americans.

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  17. I had such friends when I was still in sch.. I just deleted her outta my life.. Told her we can say hi and hello to each other but she can't be my friend again cos I can't have her going behind me and tarnishing my image while I'm been a good friend to her by sorting out her financial problems

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  18. What do you want us to do now, forcibly remove the girl from your life?

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  19. Seun, you are either a kid or a fool. This spoiler can ruin your life if you are not careful. She can even plot your death. Cut her off immediately.

    These are the type that plan with kidnappers. If you continue with her then you may never get married. Are you dumb or what? Run from Alaroka.

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  20. Try missing couple of payments....or u go bankrupt.....ur so called friends will run!! Hey u shud ve backUp money for dis plan 2take effect...since u re kinda rich!

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  21. My dear I hav a girlfrn friend lik dat but lucky for me its a relationship dat started wen we both entered da university. I help her a lot but she is very ungrateful, but bcos my religion (islam) says help witout complains so dat Allah will bless u in return so I continued but right now, I am regretting why I didn't get rid of her while I could.
    She only comes to me wen all her friends hav deserted her or she wronged someone and she is running away frm da person.
    She tells ppl I am so full of my self, dat I hav too much principles but I said to my self overlook it. I kept on wondering why students whr calling me a snub and dat I choose ppl I talk to.
    But dis time she bit more dan she can chew so I will deal wit her in my own principled way which is putting an end to da sick relationship....
    Same as u, friends and family hav asked me what I am still doing wit a back stabbing bitch Lik her. So enough is enough.

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  22. Why can't you see? This your friend will do you no good. Start a big fight with her and separate from her forever.

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  23. Dear Seun,
    I'm astonished at your addiction to poison and I'm wondering , maybe your attatchment to poison may be psychological, does "poison"make you feel accepted when you are with her, does "poison" give you attention which you don't think you can get elsewhere? Is "poison" your cure for loneliness? Look deep within, re-acess your uneding allegiance to poison,deal with it and find reason to quit! Cause if you don't I assure you poison will get you killed soon!

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  24. My dear this is 2013. Do not yoke yourself to someone who would pull you and your family down all the time. You can love from a distance. I'm not saying breakup but i'm saying tell her to stay on her own from today on. Do not go(pointing at you sternly) with the saying: "you don't know where we'll meet tomorrow"! It is God who has secured your future and NOT YOUR FRIEND! Wake up! One day she'll get married and you'll still be single! again, WAKE UP!

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  25. My dear Listen carefully, you can love from a distance. Do not let this person drag you and your family down.I am not saying break up your relationship, i'm saying you can stop it officially and move on with your life. Do not go with the saying:"we don't know where we'll meet tomorrow" true but only GOD Almighty has secured your future and not your friend! WAKE UP! You can also love from a distance. My dear, if she gets married and you're still single blame no one but yourself, WAKE UP! WAKE UP! WAKE UP!

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  26. You are very stupid! Oniranu! That's what you came to do in this world. To be serving friends ba? U no what to do so why are u asking for advise? You must be a lesbian

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  27. Ladun, you have started this year on a lousy note abi! It taking you forever again to upload comments.

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  28. olayemi ogunypmi mrs04 January, 2013 08:54

    So simple,tell her all u ave heard she said!cut her off n surround urslf wth new frnds.

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  29. E b lyk say tears plenty 4 ur eye abi?.... Abeg dust d sule commot. Plus I dnt see y u even need our advice wen dere's an obvious solution.

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  30. How old are you? You sound like you are 15 o. You obviously know she's dangerous so unless she's a family member or your colleague you had better cut her off ASAP. This is 2013 no time for bitchasness!

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  31. U̶̲̥̅̊ really don't know what do do? Please ask google or wikipedia. Mtcheeeew. Wait till she kills U̶̲̥̅̊ ok.
    *effizy*

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  32. I'm sorry for you!!!!!!!R u a learner? lol Ladun please give us better gist abeg.

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  33. μ̥
    ɑrε serzly α learner..... Wait till she poisons μ̥
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  34. I na amu amu? (R u a learner?) Dis is no story nxt pls

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  35. Seun nick name (sean) n ify I guess? I think I know dis two! Na today?!

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    1. Be there doing FBI. The lady's real name might not be Seun. Tatafo!

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  36. RUBBISH. COMMOT HERE JOR.

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  37. PLEASE BELIEVE HER N CONFIDE MORE IN HER,,,RUBBISH, YOUR HOUSE DEY BURN YOU SIDDON DEY ASK IF TO STAY OR RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

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  38. you are a big fool. i have never commented on this blog but really are you really asking us for advice. your family has advised you and you refuse to take it despite seeing how this girl is harming you and you are asking us for advice. ah ah. anyways they said birds of the same feather flock together. you know best why you cannot leave somebody who continues to destroy your life. i have a friend who had a friend similar to yours and she ended up destroying everything good in her life. you sound so naive and childish i pity you

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  39. Girl just cut her off. She is envious and that is one trait that should never be overlooked

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  40. Well, this person's real name is 'OPEYEMI' and nickname is 'SEAN'.I believe you got a piece of what you deserve. He had a gf that loved him so much and he had sex with his gf's Best friend and after she forgave him and they continued their relationship, he had sex with some other girl he calls a friend. Was never there for the girl. Manipulates everybody around him and causes drama for the gf in school, talks about the gf's family to his numerous gf's. Plz, be kiafl while judging. This dude is a definition of what i call 'EVIL'.

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  41. There is a reason behind every girl's action, please can somebody ask this idiot what he did wrong? There is a reason behind eer' girl's action...u should have the balls to explain what you might have done...Son of a Bitch

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  42. And what he meant by bn friendly is to rip the rich kids off their valuables n sing love songs to all the rich girls he can manipulate. Get a Life Mr Iseyemi, you know nothing about Love so shattap...

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  43. Please there is no protocol for letting go of such evil friends o so wake up and delete her from ur life, her numbers, stop calling, stop visiting, severe every tie with her. I was unfortunate to have such a friend in the past, she will tell pple stuffs about me, the truths that are confidential and the lies. Funny thing is that she tries to make others look bad to me and she does same to others about me. she will judge ur mata before pple and tell u others did it, e.tc. When I put 2 and 2 together, I ran for my life and am hapi I did.

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  44. Stupid fool, she moved on already, get a life and go ahead with your miserable life.u disgust me plz

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  45. Try all u can to cut off this friendship she does not love you d way u do in fact she is your enemy run away from er before she sends u out of this world a word is enough for the wise.

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