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Saturday, January 19, 2013

My Niece Was Actually Sleeping With My Husband- Woman Replies


This mail came in yesterday, but i just saw it. I guess the woman read what you guys said and she sent in a reply. The first story is just a few posts below.

I was thinking of going to get a camera tomorrow after reading the comments on my post from LLBers. This evening I sat my gate man down and we started gisting. I asked him if he suspects my husband and my niece. He did not want to say a word at first. I threatened him and told him he will lose his job. Then he showed me some pictures of my niece and husband on his phone. A cheap camera phone I bought him when I returned from England last month. 
I was shocked. I asked him how he got the pictures. That was when he told me he had noticed both of them and sometimes when he comes into the house to mob the floor they get so carried away and won’t notice someone came in. He said he knew I was going to ask him this question one day and that was why he tried his best to take the pictures without them noticing.

I immediately asked the stupid girl to pack her things and leave for her mother’s house. She has left the house now and my husband is not yet back from work. But I plan not to ask my husband any question. 

I am so angry and disappointed at this little bitch. When she gets to Ibadan she can start sleeping with her step father. I know some of you will say that was harsh and I shouldn’t have sent her out because it was getting late. I don’t want to commit murder. After seeing those pictures I felt irritated. She is only 19 and I am 36. I just couldn’t stomach it and might kill her if I start beating her. Anyway, case closed. She is out of my house and I don’t owe her or her mother one penny. Over my dead body. Thank you all.

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  1. My dear sista;u were in no way harsh!u did what u had to do.but u shld have acted on ur suspicions much earlier. Thank God d girl never carry belle! As women, our instincts at least 90 % of d time never fail us. Yoruba pple say: "Ifura logun agba". When your husband aska u why d girl is no longer in d house,dnt bother bringing up d "so u were cheating on me with her all along" story. Just tell him her mother sent for her or sumtin and dismiss d whole topic. All d best in your marriage

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    1. Good that you caught them. Bad that you inquired from your gateman. If everything was false he would have lost his respect for you. Learn to make your private life private. So what next? This your story reminds me of PASSIONS. The drama never ends.

      Check out this very beautiful story from Olubunmi Familoni HERE

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    2. Well said!

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    3. Laduns House Boy19 January, 2013 12:08

      If this story is true (which I doubt) then this woman is like someone whose house is on fire and she is busy dealing with the rats. The real problem is ur husband. I know that men cheat but when they start sleeping with your house help or your live-in relative, they are sending you a message. Ask yourself how many other women he is sleeping with? Are you still safe sleeping with him? All the best but my guess is he is also sleeping with Nkiru that your single friend!!!

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    4. Unusually good analysis from a houseboy.
      In fact I think we need to investigate you too in case you're sleeping with your madam

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    5. Laduns houseboy U̶̲̥̅̊ have a point there...madam ask ur husband, buh do it wit reverse psycology so he dosnt turn d table on U̶̲̥̅̊ nd start shoutn wen he knows hz wrong(cuz guys do dat alot esp if D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ r caught dem go stil find way nd U̶̲̥̅̊ wil end up apologisn smh). Its a shame tho. #Okbye

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    6. happy yoruba bunny19 January, 2013 21:57

      my question to u woman is dd u collect her phone and diary?
      even if u had collected them, she may have ur husbands #'s n her memory
      trust me that girl is somewhere lodged for by ur hubby
      with what d gateman showed u, i wld v confronted her, record everything cal a family meeting and lay everything bare on d table
      God knows i will so disgrace d pedophile that calls himself my husband and d brat that calls herself my niece
      oh niece my foot
      And did u brief her mother why u sent her out of d house wt evidences
      u know try, as u have asked for advise intially u shd v come back when u finally gr those evidences, anyway hook up wt ur aunt and bring their show of shame to an end, maybe u r afraid he wl chase u out if u expose him? that man w sleep with ur daughters in future, mark todays date down!

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    7. Totally agree with Ladun's house boy... If not your niece, then the neighbour's daughter... Yes, it's only natural that some of your anger would be directed towards your niece, but the majority of it should be towards the REAL adult in the situation. Having noted that, as Anon 7:42 earlier said, this situation is one that requires ogbon agba... Do what must be done to keep your marriage intact. And from my perspective, it isn't fighting. All the best.

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    8. lmao!!!!!!!Jaja u wont kill me with laf. infact ur comment is a classic....
      Madam, if u didnt mention ibadan, i would have tot u were my neighbour in lag, this happened years back and it was her niece and her hubby, the whole street and beyond knew about it except her, the niece kept feeding her with stories about d man's escapades with other babes out of jealousy...the man got pissed and bragged that she was jealous cos she keeps seducing him even after she had done "4 abortions for him" my neighbour almost fainted,niece claimed d hubby raped her repeatedly... well funny enuf family reconciled her and d niece later but the whole area knows d story...ds is no naija film, but d problem is with ur hubby cos ur niece may not go to any ibadan, she can call ur hubby as soon as she leaves ur house & he'll rent her another house...chances r higher that he initiated d rel 1st so deal wt him

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    9. This woman is past dumb, she should be throwing out the husband

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    1. MsT: kilon se eleyi? Ogbeni lo sun mehn!

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    2. abeg wat did he write? i dint see it..mak i abuse am too..nonsense!

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    3. Na wa o,una go dey behave like principalities and power of darkness... Wetin d guy write sef? D guy only talk say d woman no do enough action at all say make d woman check wetin she advise am and he put up a link.. Olayinka,u no even le at all,small talk u don delete ur comment.. Abeg go chop some liver, u be man o!

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  3. The only thing i have to say is dt yes your neice was veryyyy wrong bt is ur husband a fool i think 90% of ur anger shud be towards him not her like u sed shes 19 n obv still immature bt ur husband is older n wiser and should have known and acted better!

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    1. Abeg forget that the girl is young, buh she knows what prick means, pls if u see a 19 yr old girl of now, u wee be surprised at what they know......she knows what's shes doing joo...she used powers to take over....u have done well jare sister, was gisting and her friends dis morning, omo see curses on the gel, buh really if ur aunts or ur grandma doesn't call to know why u sent her packing, then pls start putting 1 and 2 together

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    2. This is the best comment I've seen on this issue! When it first came up everyone was saying she should send the girl home to 'save' her marriage. Is that a marriage worth saving? That you would look the other way when your husband is sleeping with YOUR flesh and blood?? What kind of man is that? Now you say you won't mention it to him? Are you serious???? Its the 21st century! Confront him! Punish him! I would say divorce him but I can see you wouldn't dream of that, your precious husband is too important to you. If he can sleep with your niece in your own house he can do you know how many random babes he is sleeping with outside?? Don't you care? This is how people get Stds by the way. And this is why 99% of Nigerian men cheat, because they know they will get away with it. Their wives and girlfriends are just too petrified to be alone. I know this was quite a long rant but im just pissed. Its a man's world, Truer words have never been spoken.

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    3. OMG! You just spoke my mind. I can understand when someone says they can't leave because of they blindly in-love. I really tell you, our men and mostly our women are really screwed. Most of them are morally bankrupt. You can't trust anyone. Even your niece or your sister!!! All of them, they don't have morals!!!

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  4. Hmmm! I m so scared n lost in thought. Men,men,men!!! I m single n wen I read ds kinda stories,I get more scared. A hubby u so much love n respect drags all dat in s mud just for ur own niece.

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  5. Congrats dats best solution 2it,she can even sleep with her father sef not Ūя̲̅ prob.pls don't fight with Ūя̲̅ hubby J̶̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇τ̣̣̥ ask him WHY A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ amend Ūя̲̅ ways if U̶̲̥̅̊ cause it. Try A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ 4give him A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ βε̲̣̣̣̥ a G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡D̶̲̥̅ wife. Wish U̶̲̥̅̊ well ijn

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  6. Congrats dats best solution 2it,she can even sleep with her father sef not Ūя̲̅ prob.pls don't fight with Ūя̲̅ hubby J̶̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇τ̣̣̥ ask him WHY A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ amend Ūя̲̅ ways if U̶̲̥̅̊ cause it. Try A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ 4give him A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ βε̲̣̣̣̥ a G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡D̶̲̥̅ wife. Wish U̶̲̥̅̊ well ijn

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    1. How can u say she shdnt fight her hubby? So d guy is right abi? My sister,pls confront ur hubby wit d pic sef & let him apologise. Ure no fool na abi?

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  7. U are welcome dearie.. What you did is d best my dear..I think u need to confront your husband and let him you u know what he has been doing,let him know its not funny and my dear,u must not pack out of that house,he is your husband and no little bitch can get u out of the house.. U owe nobody no explanations,not her,not her mother or even your g.mother also keep a tab on your husband and let him know dat u will make his life misrable if he ever gets in contact with o.. My dear u aint going no where,dats ur husband's house!!

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    1. Husband when go give am aids soon! Yes o.. She should stay nd njoy d Gonorrhea. Tchew! Desperate women

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    2. Oh pls,spare me...d husband sounds like someone dat has not really mastered d cheating thing,everything thing is still under control...She can still handle this.. Abi u never know say some men dey wey if u suspect them they will be like and so? I did it and I did it,atleast her own still dey deny am.. So I say,madam,u can actually handle this if u deal with the situation well.. This type of situation actually require wisdom,nothing like despiration there.. To stay married,u need WISDOM!!!

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  8. Y do i find it so hard 2 believe this story?

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    1. You are not alone ..... While this story is possible I feel this particular case is "popcorn story"..... Its as fake as kim kardashian ass

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    2. Seconded**rolyn eyes**

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    3. Me too! Such things do happen, but from the part where the gateman came, made the Story one kind. Mtchewwwww!

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    4. E be like say this woman sef na useless liar. Hence d husband's behavior. Crazy.

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    5. Who cares if u don't? *hiss*

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    6. hiss all u can. For a fact na ur character sotey ur mouth don bend finish. Local girl.

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  9. That's why its good to take good care of people working for you. Gatemen, drivers and secretaries usually know the best kept secrets. Mine and my husband's tell me things without my asking because I treat them like members of my family. Treat people well and you will get the best from them.

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    1. thats the 1 thing i miss about nij... my domestics, always looking out for me. One of them was even cruciaal in me escaping to yanks

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  10. Ur husband that is not back from work must be somewhere sorting her out. This chapter is not closed, be vigilant and prayerful

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    1. True.... she may have even called him, and he'll be busy camping her in a special hideout. na God dey help pesn.....that's if this story is true tho.

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    2. my thouhts. the niece will call and the man will take her somewhere for the night. maybe later rent her a place later on. hmm
      the story has not ended.

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  11. 1st of all, thanx for the reply, most ppl post stuff and dnt let us knw hw it ended so annoying.

    2ndly, its ur life men, but u can't deal wif d girl alone and not hav a talk wif ur husband. You really dnt knw who initiated it. You need to tell ur husband u knw, but u hv 4given him, so he wouldn't try it again wif any other lady. Its not jus ur niece that needs to be punished na, haba.

    I'm glad u found out d truth so u can hv peace, but deal wif ur husband too. Dnt let him off dat easily

    Toyin A

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  12. Pls which one is mob the floor?? Lol!

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    1. LOL.must have bin typo error..but na wa for gateman who also mops the floor...

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  13. There's absolutely nothing harsh about what you have done!!! Any one who feels so should ask for her address go to Ibadan and take her to their home. She's an ungrateful nitwit. My good will never haunt me isha Allah .

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  14. I actually feel sorry for you. This is not something any woman should go thru especially from your niece who shudav bin d one to help you catch your hubby if he was with a stranger. Pele. I pray God gives you d strength to continue and may your husband repent.

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  15. This is so heartbreaking oh! God is ur strength. Na wa for men oh!

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  16. Na wa oo, u for beat the idiot small joor. Your husband is such a dog( sorry for the insult)

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  17. 19yrs of age???....no fear of God in that grl,I love ur actions tho...thanks to your gateman too,but he shld av done d@ ealier since he got the evidence(I guess he didn't av d courage)GOODLUCK#trustnobody...*kissssessss toh bad*

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  18. Now thts how its done,u did well.Men sha I just hate em mshew!

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  19. Nawaooo..men are dogs and even ur niece no try at all.

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  20. Thank God you cleared our doubts. Sending her out was the right thing to do. But please be prayerful, hubby has issues with fidelity. These other girls intown are not smiling so find out what your husband is looking for outside and start doing it. Go buy some good makeup, learn communication skills, learn how to be a good wife everywhere........even though I know some men are terrible, God will help whatever is left of you marriage. O'boy that gateman has watched too many movies.

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    1. men are just insatiable,even if you are miss world,and u are on point ,they still like people that dress up like maids or dirty looking chicks,they are dogs,but her niece under her roof haba,i would be devastated let him catch his wife with his 19 years old nephew and he should let us know how he feels.

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  21. Why are u angry at the lil bitch and not ur husband...let me tell u how this story will end. Ur husband will call her and ask her wassup, then she will start crying and make ur husband come and look for her at ibadan. They would continue the r/ship and he would sponsor her for education... If u think ur husband doesn't knw that she has left the house u are a joker..he might even be hiding her in a hotel as we speak. Hope u have the pictures to prove to the grandma and aunty.
    I don't blame gal cos it might be that it was husband that disvirgined her(forceful sex) and gave her enough cash for upkeep.

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    1. ThisWomanIsABigFool19 January, 2013 11:20

      You made sense until your LAST comment. What do you mean because he forcefully slept with her (RAPE) then that means the niece will stay??? It's destructive thinking like this that gets Nigerian women killed emotionally and psychologically. FALLING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS RAPED/ABUSED YOU IS NOT NORMAL! And if you think it is, please see a psychologist. You women are fucking dumb bitches that's why men get away with all this shit, just like the fool this olodo woman is having blood pressure over.

      An my fellow woman, why are you fooling yourself into thinking that your niece is the only one at fault here??? YOUR HUSBAND IS JUST AS MUCH TO BLAME AS SHE IS!! HE IS NOT A CHILD OR AN IMBECILE THAT CANNOT MAKE RESPONSIBLE DECISIONS. HE IS AN ADULT WHO FULLY SEXED YOUR NIECE WITH ALL CONSCIOUSNESS. Your husband is just as much a bitch and an evil person as your niece is. I don't know why women give men all these passes but kill ourselves over them!!! It wasn't your niece who made those vows in the presence of God and family, it was your husband!!! And he will continue to cheat on you as long as you let him!!!


      So what now? You sent her away, and so??? As if he cannot go and see her wherever she is. If he can do it in your very own home, how much more outside??? Or you think your niece will not tell him what happened???

      You and everyone else victimizing ONLY the girl are just useless fools. Your husband is to blame if anything. He is a motherfucking fucktard, worth nothing but STIs and death. If you keep him, you deserve that just as much.

      I'm sure you illiterates on LLB will not understand my post since I'm not typing in text abbreviations and poor grammar.

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    2. Co-sign!! u r exactly right. This one she says he hasn't cum bck from work.. He is busy with his 2nd wife(your niece) paedophile. He probably abused the girl. All these olodo's are calling her a bitch, I even feel the babe is a victim of sorts. Not dat she didn't know wat she was doing shaaaa

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  22. your account doesnt make sense
    it just so happened your security man had their pictures on the camera phone you got from him from england(unecessary info)
    yada yada
    wo why am i even drinking panadol for your own headache
    youve done what you intended
    good luck with your marriage

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  23. Awww sorry about dat! Nawaooo

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  24. So your husband gets to go scot-free? Yay!! Do you realise your neice can't be the one that started it?your husband did and probably threatened the girl. And she's only 19? Hmmn that man needs deliverance

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    1. Me sef dey wonder. Husband goes scot free and we all here abusing d niece? Work on ur marriage but the man has 2 knw how irresponsible he is/was.

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  25. I tink u ve made a gud decision,aw can a girl u ar tryin. 2 build her life b runing urs.u were nt too harsh,n plz,2 ur husband,just b strong n kip ur marriage goin.

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  26. I tink u ve made a gud decision,aw can a girl u ar tryin. 2 build her life b runing urs.u were nt too harsh,n plz,2 ur husband,just b strong n kip ur marriage goin.

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  27. Let me give a short story... While I was staying with my aunt when my dad died to help her with kids and around the house and she gonna help me with studies.. The husband knocked on my door one night and pushed me to the bed and covered my mouth with pillow almost suffocating me and succeded in raping me. I could tell anyone next day he started slipping money into my room.I used that as an opportunity to get all I needed from him.'The knife had already cut u why throw after a cut' the r/ship continued but there was no PDA so my aunty didn't even notice anything,I was a quiet gal always in my room.he was always coming to see me at school.anyways that past now and I am not proud. My point exactly is husband has 80percent blame cos he married to u,older and knw its wrong. Don't think she's the only one chopping ur husband oo. Maybe he has promised the bitch admission to havard.

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    1. Lol @ the bitch..u r worst than the bitch u filthy whore! Peridot

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    2. How can you say she's worse 'cause she shared her personal experience she's not proud of?????????? Stop being mean, u could have been in those shoes too.

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  28. Wow, you did the right thing. There's nothing worse than beening betrayed by your own family members. Just depend on God for strength

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  29. U did d right thing by sending her away.Now madam u have to work on your husband and marriage.Wish u the best

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  30. Hapi u found out on tym at lease befr she gets pregnant 4 ur husby

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  31. Good to hear dat u now got evidence of their relationship
    If I were in ur shoes I'd have gotten the whole truth out of her thereafter n also record it on my fone
    By lettin her no I av found out n pleading to her conscience 'no nid 4 beatin @ all'
    I wonder au u intend to act normally wit ur husband in the same house without saying anytin
    My dear it ain't possible. Except u want to kill ur self wit this burden n animosity
    He takes more Dan 60% of the blame here.
    U dnt nid to fight him, buh u now nid to weight ur priorities seriously
    If u still care alot n luv him, then adress the issue n give urself time to heal from the betrayal 'that is if he is even remorseful'
    Or if u have kids n u also work, u better start giving these all ur attention n BLANK him totally
    Do ur duties to him wit no extras.
    Men usually hardened us women especially at times like this
    So u nid to MAN-UP. No crying over spilled milk. All the besssstttt!

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  32. You did the right thing @ the wrong time. My take would have been keep the foto's when hussy is out take her mobile, pack her stuff and personally accompany her back to Ibadan with the photographs & evidence of conversations with him on her telephone .There actually is no guarantee she is in Ibadan right now and for all you know, she may continue her romp with him and maybe lodged 2 streets away from you in a cheap motel. On the extended family level have you got proof to show folks as evidence for your action? Babes shouldn't be too emotional sometimes...a man would have been more rational...about your husband...pray talk to God in private, rant and spill your emotions and when you face him, no use picking up a fight! I swear the silence will un-nerve him and he'll be so jittery. Don't pick a fight , play it coooool.

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    1. Sense! U make mad sense

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    2. My dear the decision for her to be silient on the issue is the best if u still want to be married to the man. of what use will it be to u and ur family if people stay pointing and making comments about you , ur niece and ur husband in public. people be well informed certain things are better letf silient and left to die naturally over time.

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  33. My God, babes u are too slow!C'mon u didn't do enough; in fact, u didn't do anything! I hope u destroyed her phone sha cos if u didn't, she WOULD still hook-up wit ur stupid husband.

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  34. You shouldn't Ђåvε̲ sent her packing that night,after confirming Ɣ☺ΰя suspicion I know Ђ☺w you feel,but if you don't want †☺ confront Ɣ☺ΰя husband the best way †☺ avoid Λ repeat was †☺ send her packing on the morrow so Ɣ☺ΰя huzzy knows abt it and gets indicted...do you think he can't follows her †☺ ibadan,or are you now ready †☺ install cctv cameras evrywhere †☺ monitor him...wateva led him †☺ her is №†̥ in her but in him..deal with d root..and enjoy ur marriage and this is Ђ☺w master shu sees it#wink

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  35. My dear your husband will call her later,and they will still be seeing,open up to the elders of both ur family and ur husband,s family,let them know whet happened,sort it out from the grass root,cos they would definately be dating in hotels,lesson to ladies,dont keep a grown girl in ur house,even my own blood sister wont live with me,if she is grown,i have a sister that is married,sometimes i catch the husband staring at me lustfully,men get easily carried away,ladies dont keep a grwon girl at home,its risky.my aunt,s husband is asking me out,they have no shame and concience,Madam pls let ur husband know that u found out,cos he would call her again

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  36. Wow,
    naija women r stupid sha. See evry1 suppotin this foolish man. Wowee. Congratulatin her 4 sending the niece away (which is good) but is not d end of story. D factis dat this man was fucken her niece in d house. He will still continue to and if its nt d nice, some1 else. Isn't this why womn in africa die of hiv from deir hsbands?


    dis is nonsense. As if d man is a baby that was molested... its women like u (incluin dose supporting) that when ur children tell u ur bf/husband molested them, u will tell her she's lying or ignore it becuz u worship dick and men more than anytin. U brainless whores, always fighting for men as if u don't know ur worth. Worthlesss beings with -50 self esteem. schew.

    Pls, this woman, d only work u can work in this sham of a marriage is to walk. This type of man will sleep wit ur own children.

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  37. U did the right thing, and for those of u that dont believe d'story,i pray such never happen to u! A similar thing happened to a very close family of mine, this woman practically brought up her niece, she has been living with them since she was 6yrs, her husband started fingering and sucking d'little right from d'first day she moved in with them and continued till d'girl got married! It is so bad that d'girl confessed not enjoying sex with her husband and still continue sleeping with her aunt's'husband even after marriage! Can u imagine that,when d'woman got to know,d'deed has already been done, she was so heartbroken. So people things are really happening o

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    1. A woman's niece was raped by her husband and all she cares about is the betrayal. What about the 6 yr old girl that was raped. That's why so many pedophiles exist in our society with the women enabling it

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  38. prayer is the key to every situation, my sister all men are polygamous in nature.
    also be sure u did not do such thing(adultry) when u were young, coz what goes around comes around. all the same u did the right thing she must surly suffer pay for what she has done to u. be prayer full and holy spirit will minister to u if any of such thing is about to happn. All the best to u

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  39. My sista ur story is similar to my own even wen I sent her away[which was nt easy becos my husband kip asking y]he got her admission and pay her fee thru sch;she is now serving,he kip seeing her behind my back, I never ask him though;with 4 kids I have accepted my destine like dat were will I go' dey said marriage is like a raffle draw dat is wat I pick;but I leave dem for God

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    1. You are very stupid a woman to accept such!!!!! What does your bible tell you about infidelity of a spouse in marriage? Stupid you! Sit down there and accept your fate until your niece gets pregnant for your hubby, keep turning a blind eye. Its women like you who make men think or feel they can give women shit and get away with it. You talk about having 4 kids is it the fear of moving on on your own that is too scary or what? Also are you work? I doubt it so you would rather stay ina marriage with a man that has no regards for you and I bet you open your legs wide too and let him shag u when he wants knowing full well he is seeing your neice????? Women we are theww achitect of our own misfortune

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    2. happy yoruba bunny19 January, 2013 21:47

      funke u vex gan ni o
      ewo tun ni 'also are you work?'
      easy maami

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  40. My sista ur story is similar to my own even wen I sent her away[which was nt easy becos my husband kip asking y]he got her admission and pay her fee thru sch;she is now serving,he kip seeing her behind my back, I never ask him though;with 4 kids I have accepted my destine like dat were will I go' dey said marriage is like a raffle draw dat is wat I pick;but I leave dem for God

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  41. U did d right thing woman,but pls make sure u watch ur hubby closely,men can't b trusted its possible he made d first move and has bin rewarding her wit cash.

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  42. Honestly I don't know what to tell you. I think Men see their married wife as someone to trample on. The best advice for marriage now is ...let the man be on an edge about you. See Omotola for example...even after four kids...she is still hot...dressing sexy and acting flirtatious with other men...Her husband will always be on his edge about her thereby renewing his interest in her. Now ladies,marriage doesn't make you a prude...when you see a handsome man on TV...Be free to chat freely how the Man can make any woman wet. Some of you are aware that your husbands are DOGS and yet you act like *Miss goody two shoes* just to please him. If he is a dog and seems to fall for your relatives...Act like a bigger dog and ACT like you have a crush on his male relatives. If his penis is having Fuckery problem,act like your vagina is having WATERY prob. Turn the tables on him...Make him suspect every of your moves and stop employing housegirls...employ HANDSOME clean houseBoYs that can send his heart beating. Never let him know that just cos he married you,your life is over. Remember don't cheat on him....but put him on edge. Let's stop this sob story and start Action. MOVEMENT

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    1. I support u 100%! #MOVEMENT

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    2. My dear even if u are a beauty queen a man wud olwais wanna try somefin new.ts nt errday dey wanna kip eating egusi dey wud say dey wanna try oda varieties.so ts only God dat can help us....

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    3. God bless you..

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    4. happy yoruba bunny19 January, 2013 21:45

      am with u on this

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  43. Husband = Mini god. Marriage = Do or die affair. Nonsense. Call out your bingo husband!!! Peridot

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  44. Ladun,pls I need u to publish dis...I need advice frm ur readers,bin talkin to family and friends but I want to know wat pple who don't know me rily think..I'm 34yrs old and single,I'm a christian(catholic)dated my ex boyfriend who is a muslim for 8 yrs we parted ways abt 5 yrs ago cos we both didn't see us gettin married cos of d religious differences but I've had 3 failed r/ships after him and at dis point I'm ready 2 give up on men..my muslim exboyfriend and I have always maintained our friendship he was and still is my best friend,he's d only one I've truly loved, he makes me happy and I'm totally myself wen I'm wit him..we've started talkin abt gettin together again and dis time for something more permanent (marriage)but I'm confused cos my parents will kick against it but at my age in as much as I want dem to be happy I also want to b happy in my marriage and b with who I know truly loves me..my main concern is d kids as I would want dem to b christians but I know he also wants d kids to b muislims as well..pls I need ur readers advice cos I would love to get married and start a family dis year.thank u.

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    1. chic..dont get married bcos of ur age,get married you have found ur soul mate..imagine being locked in a jail cell with this guy and the key is thrown into the deep blue sea!..does that make you cringe or does it make you happy?..remember as you lay your bed, so you'll lie on it...take responsibility for your decision..wedding lasts 24hrs tops,marriage lasts till one of you dies..ladun's readers will not be there when your husband tells you to convert to islam or allow him to marry a 2nd wife..good luck gal.

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    2. My dear you guys should talk about it....i have friends from such families where the Dad is muslim and mum christian....but the father/husband agreed that the children can grow up as christians, then when they get older they can choose...the only thing is that they also agreed that they would also observe any muslim festival/holiday even though the children would be christians...if you love each other you would make up something...

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    3. Have you ever read 'can two work together except they agree' mƴ dad was a muslim till death, mƴ mum a christian. While mƴ dad never chose our religion for us, mƴ mum wanted us to be christians at all cost. They never argued about religious stuff, but they were not the kind of couple who shared the same beliefs on issues. And soon enough,mƴ mum became a more devoted christian and prayers at night and church going became an iss for dad. It gets to a piont where U have to choose. Mƴ Aunt who is married to a muslim ten years now was only able to claim christianity for 8years, she is now a muslim, she told me the only thing she regrets in her marriage is the fact that the husband is a muslim. Two have to agree. Maybe you are holding on to him soo much you try to turn every other guy into him, wish U luck tho.

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    4. If you will not convert to his religion, I advise you forget it. Am in such a marriage and honest to God it is difficult. Marriage means 'one' especially wher it concerns faith. There shd b unison. A friend of mine too did same and it's hard. Marriage itself is not always a ball game sha. Think very well ooooo.

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    5. My dearest you need to follow your heart am in a marriage that just this morning I asked myself what am I still doing here , my hubby says am boring and I tell him he is been the greatest bore for 13 years we have been married , we are so opposite each other , I love going out he loves sleeping , I enjoy traveling he hates it , I love Chinese food he loves oha and Eba , , he does his runzs outside me am not interested until I leave , yet we have built houses , we make money we are comfortable , but my dear he is not happy me too I no dey happy cause of what we have and our children noone wants to rattle the cart . Is this what I will do for a life time ? Please follow your heart children will sort themselves oooo na your happiness na ehim matter , this is my 2 cents oooo.

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    6. Go ahead and break another woman's home, as long as you are willing to bear the consequences. May you not die like a chicken

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    7. happy yoruba bunny19 January, 2013 21:43

      if you are ready to get another wife in future, ready to convert to a muslim, ready to bear ur children's bn shaven on naming ceremony day and bear muslim names go ahead

      men change after marriage, it is then u will hear 'whatever i said is f final, this is my house, i married u wt my money' ewooooooooo

      marriage is not all about love these days, open ur eyes and pls forget that age, its a number, i wl prefer to marry late and get my own man, than marry early and rush out of it pls

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    8. my dad is xtian and mum was a muslim( converted 17 years ago). i have a muslim name as my fourth name, when i was growing up we had so much fun cos we observed both Muslim and xtian festivals and my dad provided my mum all she needed as a Muslim e.g ram . they have been married 44 years.

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  45. Its not d end of the relationship tho! Gives them more opportunity n freedom b4 u knw he wud rent an apartment for her n get her into any skol in lag n they wud hv good times n nxt she will hv a baby for him, so right now u hv to b vigilant else u lose ur man!

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  46. That your husband should be castrated for sleeping with your niece,stupid man

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  47. Madam take it from u are so stupid, going to ur gateman to ask about ur husband and niece, really except if u re sleeping with ur gateman,grow up women

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  48. Madam. what kind of woman are you that drove your hubby to the arms of another woman including your little niece. Yes men cheat but if you notice there is always a reason why they stray especially from their marital home. I am not saying this justifies what he has done. It is an insult to you as your niece won't respect you as she did before(una de share d same prick!) But do an inner search and re access your character, temper, attitude,work schedules etc. You may have subconsciously triggered this affair without knowing. Going forward, keep your house off limits from relatives! whatever it is they gain from staying with you can also be gained staying with their parents or another relative.
    I know you trusted him, he is your husband. But knowing they way some girls and their mothers are, you shouldn't have left them gisting in d sitting room and going to bed... what are they gisting about in the first place? why did you allow the over familiarity considering all that you hear and read about.
    I read somewhere about a girl who was having an affair with her mother's boyfriend and had the effrontery to carry belle and i think sued her mother for not allowing the guy be with her. The court threw the man in prison for under aged sex. That is how young she was.
    My dear, you are educated and enlightened! How blind have you been to the goings on in your house. How many of your female relatives have stayed in your house and your husband has defiled.
    In future, should u have a female guest, always get your drinks by yourself try eating from ur hubby plate.. if he should ask why.. say na love.(just in case they spike your food and drink).
    Don't let your guards down ever again!!!! Be very alert and vigilant.

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    1. Oro idoti .... So men stray because their women drive them to it? Nonsense talk.

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  49. Madam,u r a fool. U plan to ask ur husband no questions? Why? 999% of ur anger should be directed at d useless he-goat. I hope u have no female children bcoz d goat ll molest thm one day n u ll turn a blind eye.

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  50. This your husband is a pervert, I hope you send your daughter away when he starts sleeping with her. Meanwhile, his secretary in the office and the other 19 year olds and below are waiting for him outside. While I agree that U did right to send her away, it doesn't mean your husband isn't looking right now. Come to think of it, why was your gate man so nice? He ask niece wey she no gree cos oga dey drop money wella?

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  51. Believe me, this happened in my family but in our case, my mum later said to me that as much as she wanted to castigate her sister, inside herself, she knew her husband was a dog and that he must have started it all, even perhaps with rape. At the end of the day, with his own mouth, he confessed that he had raped my young aunt, threatened her (he was paying her school fees), told her that even if she reported to my mum, she wouldn't believe and wouldn't act (which was true at first as my mum was scared to be a divorcee) and eventually, the girl stopped struggling jare. Even I know that my dad is very manipulative.
    The niece was wrong but the husband is 99% to blame not the girl. I also blame the letter writer for planning to let him get away with it.

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  52. Confront your husband with proof.... and hear his side of the story..... he could have cheated with any1 why your niece....

    Be bold about this

    No nonsense in 2013

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    1. Let sleeping dog lie. and work to get your family back on course. its always a danger to have grown retaives at home. so much risk

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  53. the girl is only 19, do you know the kind of pressure your husband put on that girl, do you know what kind of money and material things your husband offer the girl? your husband is the problem not your niece, if you forgive your husband without confronting him, then u didn't forgive your husband you forgive his money cause you don't want to give up the lifestyle..

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  54. May be tr r things ur husband like and you cannot give him hence your 18 yr old sexcy relative is helping you do justice....interesting. ..well. u need to speak to ur husband n know what he wants and why he has behaved in that why.....he may sincerely need help, mid life crisis or that he is a deviant. ?...if u can help me....do do so.....if not....find a way out cos he will always go out to get candy......n in ur nigeria, ,,,,, candy is miserably in abundance n at no cost.....I have bin in ur husbands shoes....n I know.

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  55. your niece is actually the victim here. your husband ought to know better.

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  56. The root cause of all this kind of problems are lazy and very dependent ladies now turned wives. If you, as a woman have a career, bringing real money into the house just like your husband, the chances of you having this type of problem is very slim. And if you do, you will be in in a better position to handle it. More often than not, it is the fear of being alone financially that makes most women to take shit like this from their husbands. Most often than not, it is also because the husband is aware that he is the bread winner and that his wife cannot exist financially without him that makes him to behave like this.We have husbands feeding their wives and their wives' family,paying school fees for their wives sisters and brothers, paying rents for their in-laws while the only thing the wives does is lay down and spread their legs for these husbands. So, what do you expect.The husbands think they are mini Gods now and they can do anything they like. Ladies, if you don't want to experience things like this, you need to work hard. Never plan on depending on your husband. If your husband is aware that you will be okay financially if ever you leave him, he will definitely give you more respect. As per this woman. There nothing she can do.The cat is already out of the bag for her.She should have built herself up to be financially independent of her husband.That is the truth. What if she makes too much shakara for the husband and the husband throw her out and bring her niece in. Can this woman live by herself? Can she afford to pay rent? If the answer is no, is any of the people advising her to confront her husband ready to house her? These are valid questions. No woman that is financially okay will take nonsense like this from any man. She can confront her husband but she should be ready for any fall out. Bottom line is to be an independent wife.

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    2. Please people saying the 19year old girl might have been manipulated by the guy need to give me a break please a 19 year old girl is smart and knows her right from wrong. Fucking another woman's husband especially her aunt's is bang out of order. Both the husband and girl are wrong and the woman made a massive mistake bringing a girl into her home family or not! Sometimes as married women we need to be ruthless and stand for what we feel rather than trying to do good for our family members at the expense of our home. Finally the woman needs to speak to her hubby communication is key and that's the only way this issue can be resolved. So if you like don't speak to your hubby about it pretend nothing happened, pussy plenty o! If it's not going to be your niece it'll be other girls outside who are willing to share your husband's dick with your for money! Wise up

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  57. Also the idea that your husband will cheat on you if you are not giving him the best blowjob everyday or whatever is wrong. It is nothing but a misconception. Any husband that is built to stray will do so in respective of your best that you are giving to him. A cheater will always be a cheater. Nothing can change it. I am a man and if my wife is not giving me enough tender-love-and-care or she does not dress well any more, i will voice it out to her[communication]. That does not mean i should go and risk being infected with HIV and destroy everything i have worked for in my life. And if my wife does not change, i will divorce her and look for another woman who will be caring and have time for me.This also should be vice versa.This is why it is good to work hard and be financially independent of your spouse. People cheat because they want to. It is as simple as that. Ladies also need to do proper homework before marrying. Don't marry somebody for money. Marry, because the person loves you. And if the love is no longer there after some time, work it out with your spouse. And if it is unworkable[irreconcilable differences], divorce and move on with your life.

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  58. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING,,,,, YOU FOR BEAT HER BEFORE SENDING HER OUT,

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