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Tuesday, August 20, 2013

How Good Are Nigerian Men In Bed?

How true is this?

It seems that one of the biggest problems men face is knowing how to make love to a woman! Unfortunately, what commonly happens is that young men get their s*xual advice from friends or from p*rnographic films and books. As a result, they have a distorted view of what it is actually about.

We need to re-educate men about what it means to love a woman. Sadly, of course, I am not an expert on s*x matters and these articles are to inform, educate and, maybe, even to just brighten up your day.


Here, for your reading pleasure, is the synthesis of ‘How to make love to a woman’ from women’s point of view. This is what women want.

Love-making, not s*x

The first thing men need to know is that women prefer to call it “making love.” ‘S*x’ sounds like a question and is very clinical. S*x? Oh yes, I am female! Thank you very much. So, this article is not an exposé on s*x. If you want s*x, then please see the girls on Gimbiya Street in Abuja. Or sort yourself out!

However, if you really want to know how to make love; if you want the woman to say, ‘Thank you’ afterwards or to come over the next time, seemingly having forgotten her knickers at home, then you should follow a proven system that is guaranteed to give pleasure to a woman.

Communication

Communicating your interest and intentions is very important. Ensuring that the woman of your dream knows that you care about her, and want her, is important. However, talk is also cheap, unless followed by good intentions and action. Communication can also be subtle and non verbal.

A lot of Nigerian men do not engage in making eye contact, holding hands, smiling, winking, stroking, cuddling, kissing, laughing, embracing, etc.

Intimacy

Never forget that making love is a whole body and mind experience. Cuddling, hugging and just being close together reassure women and promise safety. Women say that a good number of men are selfish partners who tend to initiate s*x when it suits them and have little or no thought about their partners. Some women go through with it perfunctorily, as a duty.

Focus, timing, location

Planning, timing, focus and the right location are important. A woman will more than likely agree to have you if privacy is assured. Choose the location carefully, communicate the idea early and allow her to simmer — just for you. For most women, s*x is in the mind: A woman needs to make love to you in her mind first.

Use protection

This is important and goes without saying. An annoying trend noticed among Nigerian men is the fact that they won’t buy their own protection (condoms). Why would you put your woman to risk? Part of the protection also includes your personal hygiene. Hygiene is important to women. Hygiene includes a bath, clean noses, ears, trim nails and clean shave (including the armpits).

Also, please wash your hands before touching a woman’s privates to avoid transmitting infection from car doors and household things.

Pleasure and fun

Take your time and really enjoy every individual sensation. That is how women do it. You need to learn how to listen to a woman’s body. It will tell you what she wants, just like yours tells her. Take it slow, so slow it hurts. It is rare that a slow pace will bore a woman.

Ensure mutual fun

The goal of s*x is not just your orgasm but ecstasy for both partners. Love-making is not a movie set where everyone concentrates on his/her script. You do need to listen to her body — that is the most important thing.

While it is nice to occasionally focus on her exquisite spot, keep moving, doing things with your tongue and hands all over her. However, do not feel the need to work towards an orgasm, and do not lose your confidence if she doesn’t come every time.

Post-intercourse

Some women like to talk after s*x and some don’t, so follow her cues. Talk to your woman, express your pleasure, praise her prowess, subtly point out any shortcomings and teach what she may seem to lack — so that she keeps getting better for you.

This is also the best time for cuddling. Most men hate this part, but many women only have s*x at all to get to this part.

Okay. That’s it. Do feel free to read and share widely. Also, please communicate by sending in your thoughts, opinions and replies through the website. I cannot wait for your thoughts on this interesting topic.

Written by Dr. Biodun Ogungbo(ogungbo@btinternet.com)

86 comments:

  1. Well my hubby can fuck & give head for days......he can cook ANY meal & he is addicted to cleaning
    *sigh*
    The cleaning part ti su mi sha

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    1. My husband too, so me I can't even complain!

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    2. mine too...but he won't cook or clean but so far I'm well taken care of in bed i dot mind

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    3. Lucky u. I have never had orgasm with him for once in 12yrs of marriage. I have talked, complain, begged him to learn to satisfy me......I have told God that i will commit adultery just for one day in d future. I can't live d rest of my life like this. Am almost in tears now. Jesus forgive me for my future sin.

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    4. Tonned....pls...I need to know...can STD's(hiv) be contracted thru givin a woman head?? I need all ur opinions! Tnks

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  2. I love my man God bless him.

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  3. most men cant bring a woman to orgasm..they are so so rough and irritating!infact they are complete turn off,some smellin of acohol n cigar!men give yo women oral sex!thats d only way she can cum!penetration will not satisfy her,it gives her nothing but pain and discomfort,vaginal bruises,waist pain and the worst part is,they pretend they love it by moaning and faking orgasm and u fink u are awesome.guess what??u'v bn punked!

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    1. U'r so on point

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    2. ah! penetration makes me cum o... not all the time tho.

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    3. Hmmm, this is coming from a man. Hope they are willing to learn because some assume they know it all due to ego. The worst, my wife or gf can't teach me how to f*** her. Oh sorry, have fun. Is it not a mutual affair? That's a nice piece anyway.


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    4. u r so right. sex "penetration" is pain..it doesnt feel d way d woman is sounding..makin u feel lik "yea" right der..No! its a lot of work. LADIES BE TRUTHFUL TO URSELVES.. somtymz doh its nice but, waist pain, vagina pain, especially if he has a "weapon of Mass destruction"..adding other things Really turn a woman on not just some rough penetration, like som men want.

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    5. I'm a lady but I still keep wondering if its all women dat hav pains when penetration occurs...cos its so painful and I've been having sex for 10yrs now.and I only get to cum wen a dick is being rubbed against my clit..but my hubby thinks I hav a problem but he still don't get it that women needs to be thoroughly aroused b4 she can enjoy penetration.

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    6. Anon. 07:33 you are blessed. i tot i was not normal, thats the only thing that makes me cum. you do not have a problem my dear.

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    7. I agree with u cos that is d only way I get to climax both most men re selfish nd d only way to make them romantic subtle is when u call d shot ,like standing up immediately after sex nd not calling love making nd most importantly calling there bluff that u can do without them. I resulted to d above after ve been heart broken severally due to being emotional . So emotion sucks .

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  4. That why I like ladun,that info.am sure is gonna help many 9ja dudes out there,bsyd sex is not hw long a guy can last ,buh how the 2 partners enjoy each other.... Osheyyyy!!!!! For the advice kissess...ma galfnd go take ...tonite. Lol.... www.xmoentertainment.blogspot.com

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  5. Nice piece, I love ma Boyfriend, lolzz

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  6. My hubby knows what to do at the right time..he makes me feel like a queen :)
    And the best part is that he makes me cum like a tap.. :)

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    1. Thanks baby..*wink*

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    2. Cum like tap, really! Or squirt? Geez

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    3. come like tap......haaaa!

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    4. Lmaooo who is dat one saying thanks baby..LMaooo!!

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    5. so wat is d difference between a womans CUM and SQUIRT? is it not water dat comes out of all?? squirt oh cum oh all na disame! or will u pliz enlighten doz hu dnt know..

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    6. Free her u jealous bastard..whatever it is..her hubby is sha making her happy abi? Maybe if u stop fucking neighborhood mechanics u wld have that feeling someday and change ur name from "psychotic bitch" to "satisfied wife"..but I don't reaLLy see thatin your future.

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  7. Lol the comments

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  8. Men are so selfish in bed. They are so insensitive to the needs of thier women. Mstcheeeww....lol@ being punked

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  9. God bless the writer for this especially the part about clean fingers on the privates. i had to tell my man nicely the other time, dear the reason about why i dont like the finger thing is clean handsssssssssssssss. i know i know he is not dirty and all that but i got a phobia for running your hands all around and den sticking it in there. you see how i make sure i have a nice long bath before you give me cunnilingus that's how i want you to pay attention to your nails and finger before you stick in there. THANK YOU LOVE.

    i didnt say it to be mean or anything. i said it with love, i am open to my sexual needs. i praise him very very well on good days and cling to him like a baby. marriage is sweet sha...

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  10. Yes the Dr made sense in his long story but women also have to voice their opinions too. After the action with your partner, if it sucks, do tell! Men aren't psychic. Watch this video for laughs. Bo and Sunny/006 mvo by Marilyn Manning.

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  11. Dear God, Thank You for the skills my husband has in bed, and for the fact that he cums and I squirt So much is another thing to be thankful for!

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    1. lol..thank u Lord oh. I pray my own husband will takgud care of me too ohh Amen!

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  12. The best sex I've ever had were with Americans. One was a black American and the second one Jamaican, these guys are better in bed than Nigerian men. They take their time to lick, suck, caress, fondle and kiss you before the actual lovemaking. Most Nigerian men just do what you call "gba gba gbo gba gba" They're only concerned about coming. And that's it. All mouth, no action. Well, if you want me to be a tigress in bed, you better have the prowess of a bulldog! Plushgyal!

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    1. God have mercy on us all..na real wa

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    2. I guess I have an exceptional nigerian man, because he does everything to please me, before he gets pleased himself.He does everything right.

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  13. Give me a white guy any day. He knows how to make things happen! Most naija men think they know all about sex and the have no idea. irritants!
    please not all sex is love making o. sometimes its just for fun :) dont act like you dont know. please not everybody is married with kids.

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  15. Am a 25years old graduate and i started having sex like 7yrz ago,
    my BF is a Nigerian but he's based and working abroad, we met in 9ja during one of his yearly visit to his folks here, with my 7yrs sexcapade i don't know what it feels like 2 reach orgasm cos i feel when my partner is at his peak and he release then that is it (sex), I've been dating this abroad guy for 2yrs now and during my first international visit to his house abroad we finally did it *blushing* but believe me it was the best sex i ever had cos i reached orgasm twice and i also squirted those 2 times in just one round before this guy reached orgasm himself, initially i cant go more than 2 rounds at most(effect of serious "pounding" i guess) but now i go 3-4 rounds with ease and i'll still be up and active the next day *winks* . Now the thought of sleeping with another man makes me feel nauseous *eeehww*, although we're not married yet but he has already caved his niche so i don't think any predator can go near it.*smiles*
    So my point is
    1. Nigerian ladies are robotic in nature:
    We're so prototype, we always want to behave on bed and do as we're told so that the guy won't think we're whores,when the guy is done we can't boldly tell him we're not satisfied.
    2. Exposure:
    Both nigerian men/women are not sexually exposed which leads to not being able to try new things, they feel this is how its being done from inception so let's stick to it (this is bullshit).
    3. Most guys are selfish:
    Some guys only make love to satisfy themselves and i think a guy should only think of himself if he is paying for the service where every time counts(prostitute things), stop doing that to your GF/wife please.
    4. Most partners don't engage in foul play:
    Some partners will kiss for 2mins and the next thing they're on the bed pounding*shocked* like seriously! What you most guys don't understand is that it really helps to set the right mood, sex is not suppose to be an everyday thing foul play even without sex works magic in a relationship.
    5. Communication:
    This is very important, guys ask your woman what she wants and ladies let your guy know when he is doing the right thing and when he is not, excuseeeee me(in jenifer's voice) you guys are NAKED and FUCKING each other what is the shyness or should i call it pretense all about.

    Please LLBers am so sorry 4 the long essay, am so happy and i just wanna share my story.............

    I love my boo so much *blushing*

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    1. Um Dnt u mean foreplay?

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    2. HaPpy 4 u love! So true

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    3. You are right! i support you 100 percent. the fault is not for we guys alone but that of both of us (guys and ladies)then lack of communication. Musa

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    4. Foul play? LOL. I done laff my head fall

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    5. Its Foreplay not foulplay Oooo°˚˚˚ aunty in case of next tym.
      And peeps correct people don't criticize nobody is perfect
      Writer thanks Oooo°˚˚˚ , am really happy 4 you and ℓ̊ pray ℓ̊ meet my Mr Right very soon too.

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  16. See this madam Ladun o I was thinking you will post advanced lesson this one is for beginners now anyone who doesn't know these ground rules already as an adult male deserves it if his wife gets serviced by Gogolos

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  17. I really want to practice all this thanks for tips

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  18. Some men just want to have sex to satisfy their hush but do not care about their partner

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  19. Oral sex is so disgusting.gush!!!Abeg don't even go there.

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  20. I just want to ask if it is advisable to suck a ladies private part just to stimulate her?

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  21. To reply yo question.not all women experience the severe pain durin sex,bt trust me,big dicks hurt the most especially if u re very tight,u ll suffer.a pussy that isnt wet will be in pain during sex,jst small number of women love penetration.u said u only come wen ur man rubs his dick on yo clit???cos yo clit is like a man's dick,its sensitive and gives lots of overwehelming pleasure wen rubbed,licked or sucked,steady suckin n licking with two fingers curled up inside her,make sure u dnt brk contact wit her clit esp if she is close,cos if u brk contact,u ll start frm the beginning to build up the pleasure again.when she cums,her clit will become too sensitive,she ll ask u to stop or push u away,then penetrate cos she now has enof fluid or lubricant,the lubricant will reduce the pain n gives pleasure.once u come as a guy,dnt roll off and sleep,suck her clit again till she comes n she ll keep smillin n cuddlin u. Thats why lesbians are good in bed,cos they cn give head..pls lets treat our women wit respect so that they dnt turn bisexual right under our noses!

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    1. @TONNED 09:19- Dang u know this! :D All true! I think n know penetration when done right is very sweet n very enjoyable. Mind blowing even! Luv it all! :)

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  22. Nahhh if there is one thing i love about my man it has to be his ability to turn me on and give IT reallllll good to me.
    The guy is on fire when it comes to smashing.
    I thank God, its something to be thankful for trust me.

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  23. FOUL play??????? hahahahahahahaahahahahah gosh!

    its 'fore play' hunnie

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  24. tot i was the only person experiencing pains while having penetrative sex..... actually its a nightmare for me.

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  25. My husband only penetrates me for like 2 minutes and he's done. Even the foreplay he just rub my vagina area as if he's not enjoying it. I love oral sex but he won't give it to me, also sex in the shower and all that. Oh how I miss my single days and miss my ex. Had the best sex when I was single.

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    1. mine as well..no oral sex I'm so bored with him

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  26. Nigerian men are totally useless in bed, they don't know how to please their women they just keep banging, banging and banging they think everything is about pounding. My bf manhood is so fucking massive, the mumu doesn't even knw he hurts me with it. But I still love him to death tho

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    1. to Anonymous 21 August 11:13> Theif, your boyfriend big but u like am? lmao. you for chase am nah.

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  27. Nigerian men and sex are overrated. The ones with small dicks cannot do and when they try it's because they have used some stimulant. The ones with big dicks don't utilise it well, some don't even kiss and think the big dick is the saviour. Another thing I've been told is that a lot of guys these days have bad breath, body odour and bad pubic hygiene. I'll give them a 4 over 10. They say Ghana guys are the dons. Never done one.

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  28. Pls more info,I'm a beginner....lol.

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  29. Me I can't even complain...My Babatunde is the best @ wot he does.. Sweet D**K

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  30. The Sexual Breakdown
    Now let's examine what you did to make her so hot.
    1- You Arrive Groomed
    Before you ever have sex, make sure you're properly groomed and smell good. It all starts there and frankly, none of what follows will work if you stink (abi u want to shock her lol). If you've just come from work or aren't feeling 100% about the odors you're emitting, you can always suggest that you start things off with a shower (this is not recommended on the first sexual encounter).

    2- You set the mood with music.

    3- You compliment her
    An original physical compliment is very powerful, but mean what you say.
    You lit those candles, used your hands and ate your pie.
    4- You caress her with your palms and fingertips
    The back and neck are very sensitive areas and great erogenous entry points. Caressing and massaging such entry points is key to being a gentleman and heightening sensitivity in more explicitly sexual areas.

    5- You dim the lights/light candles
    This will help her if she's self-conscious about her body, not to mention that candlelight is just plain romantic any way you slice it.

    6- You undress slowly
    By this I mean that you pull articles of clothing off slowly (socks first), and you don't rush to do so. There's something very sexy about being all worked up but still partly clothed. Also, she'll be much more comfortable removing clothes that seem to be getting in the way rather than acting as protection.

    7- You massage her
    Like caressing, massaging proves you like her body so much that you want to touch it all over, not to mention that it feels great.

    8- You give her oral pleasure
    Women love guys who love to give them oral (it can make them repent lol). Move in to the area gently and softly, and make sure to respond to her. It's okay to ask her about her preferences, especially for less demonstrative women yes some women are shy. Bring them out of their shells.

    9- You get kinky
    Blindfolds, ice cubes over her nipples (or wherever you want to excite her), feather tickling, and tying her up are all options (Abeg find one sex shop make una do sex toy shopping together). Be your intriguing self and you'll pique her interest to try out new things.

    10- You keep intercourse interesting
    While you obviously know there's much more than just the missionary position, don't be too eager to try every position in rapid succession and record time. Remember that women get turned on by repetitive rhythm,yes oo they do just like men, but more so. If you change positions too frequently, she'll never have the chance to get into it.

    It often turns out that a position that's good for one partner is good for the other , the physical sensations and excitement are mutually stimulating. You'll know when you've found that sweet spot. Go with it for a while dont dull yourself oo.
    One such position that I've found often leads to a sweet and intense spot is the Supported Doggy Stretch. To get into this position, your woman starts off in the doggy position. Place your hands on her waist and lift her legs up so that she can wrap her feet around your butt.
    Although this may be difficult at first, the sensations this position provides are enough to keep you going, or coming, as the case may be. In this position, I recommend that you penetrate her slowly and deeply.

    11- You make her orgasm
    Remember that for women, the mind is the biggest erogenous zone. Compliments or comments that show her desirability, such as: "I've wanted to do this since I first saw you/all evening" will turn her on.


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  31. Sex to some women mean nothing they just have it for fun.My guy is so romantic,he keeps blowing my head off on bed..i can't share his cock with another at all

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  32. Most nigerian men lack sex education.Armpits like swamp.Smelling like rotten fish.

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  33. Nigerian men,to the best of my knowledge,are very good at lovemaking.Some can do anything on bed just to satisfy the women and take them to orgasm. At least,I can speak for myself.I'm excellent on bed. Visit http://www.olusolaoso.blogspot.com/ for juicy stories on entertainment,showbiz,politics,sports and love.

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    1. My nigerian man is amazing at making love.He knows everything I like and is always pleasing me as I do the same for him.I love my nigerian man.

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  34. Well to my own point of view I believe its not nigeria men fault , sometimes when they need to make it faster so that the crazy nigeria girls wount change there mind because no matter what nigeria girls are always craze u can't predit dem I can tell u something my magic stick is very heavy and if I use it on my woman she always feel it more so I don't need to wait for her to tell me she has cum because with the stick alone she will be happy.

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  35. Striking a woman can give her abdominal pains.I prefer slow and steady style because both sex will enjoy it that way.

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  36. So all the ahh yea baby hit harder...is just pretence.Smh i use to think it satisfy them that way.LMAO!!!my girl is in trouble nigbayen..i will so f**k her well.she must cry before i stop.PRETENDERS

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  37. Mi bf jst finishd poundng me nw. I. Did enjoy it. But It. Was painful.

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  38. ALL i can say is dat......ANYBODY can av SEX.....buh..., it takes TWO LOVEBIRDS to MAKELOVE....GBAM

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  39. it takes two lovers to make love yea

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  40. Una well done Ooo Im so liking this article learnt alot from it...

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  41. Am imagining thingz lol

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  42. Glad I read dis...tot it was just me dat dint like *penetration* coz it hurts...tot I was abnormal 4preferrin oral sex...I wish my bf wud read dis nd realize I'm normal.

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  43. I should sooooo forward this article especially the comments to all my ex's!

    Somebody's Pikin

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  44. My nigerian guy killls me in bed. I was surprised cuz hes older. Like 54 so i thot he would be weak. He goes down. He knows where to touch. Ive tried to leave him so many times but i just cant becuz of the sex. I think older guys are better in bed. Young guys just want to pump. So annoying

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    1. My nigerian man is everything and more in bed and out.He treats me like a queen.He also is older (50).I wasn't expecting a lot from him, but Damn, he is amazing.I have not tried leaving him, but i also am sure I would stay because of the sex.Im happy I have a great man.

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  45. Good hygiene is key. Smell good too. Turn a woman on. Uncircumcised men do not hurt women like circumcised men but the latter tend to have less diseases. Personally, uncircumcised men are better at it. Can doctor tell us why?

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  46. Good hygiene is key. Smell good too. Turn a woman on. Uncircumcised men do not hurt women like circumcised men but the latter tend to have less sexual diseases e.g prostate cancer. Personally, uncircumcised men are better at it. Can doctor tell us why?

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    1. Uncircumcised? Ewwww.

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  47. My man has a small dick n at first I did nt enjoy it until I started taking it my self n now its like a blessing thank god

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  48. hmmn.... i hate sex!!!! the tot ov it is gros... too much pains...

    *Cheechee...

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  49. U hv all spoken well. But some girls dnt want their pussy licked.

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  50. I read all the above comments. I felt sorry for them. People are so fussy about sex irrespective of the country which they belong to. Can't they relax even on bed while making sex? It's all hypocrisies and inhibitions during mating time also. When a couple keep aside all their inhibitions and egos aside a while, they can both enjoy sex to its maximum. Both should have empathy, otherwise both can not enjoy sex to its fullest. Whether you are an African, European, Asian, this or that, or with a big dick or small dick, all these things do not matter. What matters is, how relaxed and mentally free you are. Give full freedom to your mate, man or woman. Whatever way the other person likes it, give it, allow it. Some people bring their customs, traditions, religions, and their beliefs, and all such kind of nonsense into the bedroom. See the nature, birds and animals. They are far better in enjoying sex than we the so-called civilized human beings, a race above all of these creatures. When man comes to know of this reality, all the heaven is his/hers.

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