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Tuesday, September 3, 2013

Late Adenike Ogungbe's Friends Write An Open Letter To Her In-Laws

Adenike Ogungbe was the CEO of Ewar Makeovers. She died in a Shagamu hospital in July from complications of childbirth. A lot of her friends and colleagues have said she will forever be missed. If you missed the story please find it here. Surprisingly, here is an open letter from her friends to her in-laws. 

It’s no news to every born Nigeria; home & abroad the standard processes involved in a marriage. Where there are cultural standards, there are also religious standards. In most parts of the world, either culturally or by virtue of religion when a woman marries a man she automatically adopts her husband’s family name. In exceptional cases, the couple may decide otherwise. The Ogungbe family, without doubt are Yorubas and they have proclaimed long enough to be Christians. Unfortunately, the recent events following their actions and contributions to Adenike Ogungbe’s death has proven this bunch otherwise.


    In the course of our investigation, some people actually questioned and wondered if Adenike ordinarily moved in with Abidemi without formal/religious ceremony. Adenike got married to Abidemi legally and traditionally. Some of us were there to grace the occasion. Adenike was a legal, faithful, dedicated and committed wife to the Ogungbe family. In Yoruba culture, during the traditional wedding ceremony, the bride is made to sit on the laps of her newly acquired parents. This is only to confer their acceptance of the child as their own and welcome her into the family. Unfortunately, the Ogungbe family failed Adenike in this regard.

    She was denied of adequate medical needs by being taken to a quack doctor in an occultic hospital in Sagamu, Ogun State.

    Today, 3rd of September 2013 marks the 2nd month anniversary of Adenike’s depart and sadly up until this very moment NOT ONE single member of the entire Ogungbe family have gone to pay respect to the Kareems’ family (Adenike’s biological parents) neither have they been allowed to see the child Adenike left behind. Worst still not even Adenike’s estranged husband Bidemi has gone to see his in-laws! What a shame!

    They have lost a child, a successful, young, vibrant woman for that matter. How evil could the Ogungbe’s be? We believe there is no adult or elderly person or anyone with wisdom or human conscience left in the ogungbe family, that is why we decided to write an open letter to the OGUNGBE FAMILY OF AGO – IWOYE and let them know that they’re a big shame and disgrace to the entire Yoruba culture, Christian world and human race. Shame on them!

    It’s only human to pay honour to whom honour it is due. Adenike might have died as Mrs Ogungbe, it does not change the fact that she has parents and siblings who deserve to be honoured having given their daughter away in trust to this evil family that not only controlled, manipulated and purposely led her to her death.

Friends of Ewar

49 comments:

  1. May God give her parents and siblings the fortitude to bear the loss. Shameful

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  3. There is more to this. Her husband just can't abandon her

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    1. More 2 wetin,evn in death haba 4get dat tin,if its actually true its veri,I mean veri badd

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  4. I hope it is not the same keke Ogungbe's family

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    1. Of course it is...dey are from ago iwoye

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    2. But not Kenny's direct family.

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  5. hummm, if this is right, then i suggest the matter should be taken to the court and let the law of the country judge this.

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  6. What is the benefit of this open letter. Not everything is for public consumption. What has dis 'friend' done to remedy the present situation, before deciding that writing an open letter was the best solution. I think u have done ur late friend a disservice.

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    1. i agree..why did they not put the names so we know who these friends are..for all you know it may jus be one person claiming "friends"..lets wait for ogungbes side

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    2. I think it's her family using her friends as cover.

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  7. if dis is true, its soooo SAD! SlankyDiva

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  8. its a pity though. thats naija for u. smh

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  9. exclusivegroove.blogspot.com. aunty, hpe u dont mind if u added me on ur bloglist. tanks

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  10. There are always two sides to every story. Think about that before you rain insults on the Ogungbe's family.

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  11. I bet there is more to this story. There must have been issues with both families but regardless of whatever it might be they should be reasonable enough to understand that the lady's family are mourning and should pay proper respect to them as the yoruba traditional states.

    They should allow the babe rest in Peace

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  12. Ladun, please I do not understand, who is supposed to go and greet who? Who actually lost out? A man lost his wife to death and you are suggesting he should go and greet his inlaws? Actually, though the two families recorded a loss, it is the man that really lost out and should be greeted, not his extended family and definitely not his inlaws. A man is alive and his inlaws want to claim his child? Just imagine! They are refused to greet the man, but they want to greet his child. if na you be the husband, you go gree? That is evil. THERE IS MORE TO THIS. Abeg, even if the Ogunbe's family are families of demons, don't destroy them further than this. Tell us the whole story or keep quiet for ever......

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    1. Dear Maiyaki, I feel the family lost out more cos the husband lost a wife and he can always remarry again but can the family get their daughter back? Capital NO. The man can only mourn for a while and then move on but the family have lost a daughter forever.
      Even if the husband doesn't go and visit his in-law, his family should have, that is, if they haven't gone already.
      The 1st time I heard about her death, I kept questioning the logic behind going to Abeokuta( as widely speculated then) to have her baby, even now that they 're saying its not Abeokuta, that its Sagamu..........same!same! to me, kini iyato Abeokuta and Sagamu (What's the difeerence between Abeokuta and Sagamu).
      God bless the soul she left behind

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    2. Enlighten yourself sir. In Yoruba culture, when a wife dies, the husband's family is meant to go with their son to officially inform them of their daughter's passing and commiserate with them. Before burying her, they are to liaise with her family. That's our culture. They can't claim the child but they must meet said child and give their own name as well during her naming ceremony.

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    3. Maiyaki u think this is a hausa setting,hausas dnt ve any culture so just shut ur gutter plus u sounded dumb.aboki like u.

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    4. Gbam! the girls people owe the Ogungbes a condolence visit

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  13. Wonders shall never end.

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  14. When will stories like this stop appearing on blogs? such as pity

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  15. Why do these things happen???

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    1. Nigerians are steeped in idolatry that's why.

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  16. outsiders are quick to pass judgement without knowing what is really going on in the family.they might be friends of the dead lady but it is totally unfair to malign the husband and his family's name publicly without going to him first to seek answers.

    did they find out if both families were at logger heads before even the death of the lady?
    did they find out who was at fault? before taking the side of the wife's family and going to town inferring all sorts which i will put down to ignorance,immaturity and joblessness

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    1. Trust me all this way done ...but nothing came out of it. It is last resort that made friends go public .

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    2. Now is the time for the family to clear their name.

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    3. Iwo kuku ti sonu si ilu oyinbo. Asa ile wa wa dabi ara cinema loju re. Kinii ba de?

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    4. ha ha kilagbe kileju ANON? aji car stereo e ju tire rim ejo o ajuwaya

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    5. @ANON 18;58
      And the elderly family members were not able to sort it out?
      i still maintain this story is incomplete knowing the reason why the family is acting this way will give a fair assessment i hope the family respond anyway because its all bout the child now

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  17. I KNEW THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG WHEN I HEARED SHE DIED IN ABEOKUTA, CAN U IMAGINE? SOMEONE DAT HAS MONEY TO AFFORD A BETTER HOSPITAL.THIS HER HUBBY FAMILY MUST HAVE STRONG INFLENCE ON HER MARRIAGE AND AM SURE HER HUSBAND IS A DADDY AND MUMMYS BOY. SUCH A SHAME TO LOOSE A TALENT SO YOUNG. IT IS WELL NIKE REST ON!

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  18. PLS AN ADVICE FOR SINGLES WATCH THE FAMILY UR HUBAND TO BR IS FROM PLS AND PLS.THIS IS A LESSON! U R NOT ONLY MARRYING THE MAN BUT HIS FAMILY TOO.

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    1. Well said dear,bad family tinx#smh

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  19. Her soul continue to rest in peace and God give both families the fortitude to bear their loss.

    As per this matter, i would stay on the fence. Both families are grieving. Hopefully whatever the issue, it would be solved amicably.

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  20. Ladun, you didn't gist us about your experience at MFM ni?
    How many demons did they cast out of you?

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  21. I said it in the post you put when she died, that death was hovering over her. It was either she would not have a child or for her to have a child that would live, she would have to lose her life.

    Nike rest in peace but she must have been complicit to agree to what her husband's family asked her to do. Why didn't she inform her parents if she was opposed to it? Maybe she was told she was an emere and sacrifices had to be done for her to live and for her child to live.

    I also believe both families are occultic. They are both trading blames because they are not clean. Malaika is a cult. Do you know the types of covenants they sow there?

    I'll add this comment someone used on MM blog and I believe it applies to Nike - Oni nkan tan gbojule

    A lot of women go into marriages even when they know ad can see that their husbands families are not clean but they use agbari and believe they can pray such things away or fight such things away.

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  22. for all we know, these "concerned friends" might just be ONE mischievous person. No-one knows what is going on behind the scenes so it is totally inappropriate for some gboromidelerus to start spoiling a family's name all over town. They did a wedding, they know each other's homes, they have pastors or imams, let it be settled in house, we don't need to read this on blogs. If there is anything that can be settled legally, to court they should go.

    Only an immature person will pen a letter like this, we should know that emotions can run high after a tragedy like this. When a family member of mine died during childbirth, her mom blamed the husband for not sending the lady abroad to deliver. This is a young couple with no money. She rained abuse and curses on the guy and of course his parents supported him. Then the mom said she wanted the baby left behind to live with her but the guy refused. Before we knew it, both families were fighting. Of course both sides will think they are right. Imagine an outsider now writing this kind of letter.

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  23. for all we know, these "concerned friends" might just be ONE mischievous person. No-one knows what is going on behind the scenes so it is totally inappropriate for some gboromidelerus to start spoiling a family's name all over town. They did a wedding, they know each other's homes, they have pastors or imams, let it be settled in house, we don't need to read this on blogs. If there is anything that can be settled legally, to court they should go.

    Only an immature person will pen a letter like this, we should know that emotions can run high after a tragedy like this. When a family member of mine died during childbirth, her mom blamed the husband for not sending the lady abroad to deliver. This is a young couple with no money. She rained abuse and curses on the guy and of course his parents supported him. Then the mom said she wanted the baby left behind to live with her but the guy refused. Before we knew it, both families were fighting. Of course both sides will think they are right. Imagine an outsider now writing this kind of letter.

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  24. Maiyaki Damisa...I don't know which story you read or which part of the world you're from or whether you're single or married. Correction, the post did not say that the parents are trying to claim the child. It says they have not been allowed to see the child. At least, you can agree they should be allowed to see their grandchild. Again, this you have to consult the elders in your family or around you to explain this simple common sense. In this case that a woman who was legally married lost her life during childbirth, it is only customary for a responsible spouse,after a period of mourning, to take the child to see the other grand parents. Also, as a form of respect and honour to the parents of the deceased, the groom's family should go and visit them. But if the grooms family are either too old, too sick, deranged or think they're too important to visit the family of the deceased, they should then send some people as representative of the family. Ok, that's just the way it is, Ask intelligent people around you

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  25. Maiyaki damisa is so shallow,he shud b ashamed of himself,muust u say smtyn,if u dnt ve anytin to say just shut ur gutter.

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  26. This post has generated a lot of controversy on several blogs. The writers should contact the two families and let them come out to state the facts and put an end to all these.

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  27. This is not right. So true, the two families should get together and address this issue. Let the doctor too speak as well. People have made mistakes and a dear life has been lost in the process. Let the bickering stop once and for all.

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  28. This open letter nonsense has got to stop. It's not written here that she was forced to marry the man or to remain in the marriage. Who's interests are being protected here. Would Ewar have wanted such personal details of her life to be made public?

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