Thursday, February 2, 2012

A Lady needs your help

I was reading new comments on a post below (the toke post), and found this comment about a lady who almost poisoned herself, which has left me speechless.  This lady needs help, but to be honest I don’t know where to start from. No 1) the man is gay. 2) He beats her? 3). Her mum is asking her to stay back? Here is what she posted;
Pls somebody I need a counselor.... I can't take it anymore mine (husband) sleeps with women and mostly men! I saw the threats before marriage but I was desperate to get married and he is also Wealthy..... Am tired of fighting his boy and gal friends..... I almost drank poison d other time cus I didn't hv anyone to talk too... My mum says I should bare it! Wat will people say if I leave him! He even beats me! It is until d roll out my corpse? Oluwa ooooo

23 comments:

  1. Please move out before you regret you never did in your grave

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  2. Take it to God in prayers

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  3. My dear sister run for your life run very fast ... Even u hv to start over again ...
    Ladun how ll she get our advice n I hope u can contact her n help her too

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  4. She is a reader of the blog. She dropped the comment, i'm sure she is somewhere around. May be guessing what the next comment to hers will be. So she will see it. Thanks

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  5. Baby gurl!! Wipe your tears dry and cool down. Stop stressing yourself who and what your husband is sleeping with because u knew this before u married him. Then I suggest u open your own private account since he is wealthy start putting aside some money for yourself. If you don't disturb him the beatings will stop and if your not working run and find a job to keep u busy.

    Mocha

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  6. yhu got ursef into dis shit n i fink yhu should handle it gurl..................firstly forget people cos if u r thinking about dem u wunt find a solution to your p,secondly d thought of poison shuldnt cross ur mind cos datz commiting suicide.d only person dat yhu can talk nao is God ask him to direct ur footsteps so yhu wunt miscalculate again.........d Lord is ur strength

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  7. first, takin a poison is totally out of it,but the deed has bin done,thank God u still alive.Put God first in all and d bible says that the only thing that can cause divorce is adultery,this hubby of urs is nt only doin it with girls he also does it with guys.first pray to God abt it then
    i think u should save some cash and leave this guy,b4 that try to talk him into leaving those habits,give him time becuz such habits is not easy to drop if there are no changer pls change ur gears,start a business since u said he is loaded and move on with ur life,God will surely bring a better person.

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  8. madam abi na lady,first unlike others i don't pity you or your condition simply because you are the cause of it.
    i hope you don't have kids,because if you do then you and not the man has already caused them to grow up in a dysfunctional surrounding which could affect their upbringing.

    you said that you saw the signs while you were dating but because he was wealthy you ignored it.not only did you let money overrule your moral judgement you did not think of the impact this would have on your loved ones.

    as for what you should do,its better to operate and cut off a decease spreading all over.if you allow the situation to continue then it will degenerate further the man might even be capitalising on the fact that you can't do without his money hence its time for you to prove him wrong.

    if you don't have kids yet then congratulations because there isn't much emotional baggage.i hope unmarried ladies will see this and learn to focus on the right qualities in a prospective partner and not how tall,handsome or rich he is

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  9. I hope single ladies are reading this. Your mother, society or friends should not dictate your life. Goodluck

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  10. Take off immidieatly

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  11. MESSAGE TO THE LADY IN DISTRESS: people get into different situations hoping it would get better,the no risk no reward idea.No one is perfect,we take risks in different business ventures and we are not judged for it so you should not be judged,you took a risk with your marriage which unfortunately did not work out.At this point,you have to stop thinking about your failure,the true test in life is the ability to rise up after a fall.Dust your feet and rise up,make plans to leave him,your mom isnt going through the battering,plus you could be exposed to sexually transmitted diseases since you have a promiscuous husband.The devil knows your worth and has brought forth this obstacle,please do not let the devil win,your soul is too precious to be lost.God bless you and I am always open to talk,you can contact me anytime.you can visit my blog and leave a message for me to contact you or you can contact me on this email adress dshadowrita@gmail.com

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  12. You are still sitting here asking many questions? Trying to even commit suicide in the guy's house. THey will just bury you and he will move a male lover in as "houseboy". You are a slow woman o. Just pack your bag and baggages and run away. God will help you. DOnt even stay to save his dirty money. Get your lazy yansh up and find a job and some self respect.

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  13. You are still sitting here asking many questions? Trying to even commit suicide in the guy's house. THey will just bury you and he will move a male lover in as "houseboy". You are a slow woman o. Just pack your bag and baggages and run away. God will help you. DOnt even stay to save his dirty money. Get your lazy yansh up and find a job and some self respect.

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  14. I don’t think the best thing for her is to leave the house ladies. What about her kids? Where will she put them? Leave them with the man? Or take them along with her? This lady might be broke from the looks of things, so you see that might not walk. Get your mother to call his parents to a meeting and sort things out. I feel sorry for you, what a man.

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  15. Since her mother loves the guy so much and wants her to bear it, how about her mum marrying the guy? Let her see first hand what her daughter is going through. Girl run run run for your life

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  16. Abi now? Let mum try it, and then she will know today’s guys are not like our fathers they got married too

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  17. Abi now? Let mum try it, and then she will know today’s guys are not like our fathers they got married too

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  18. The best thing is separation for now cos if u refuse u ll be dead before your time.probably he might turn a new leave after sometime.

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  19. Death is real.
    Sadly, if you die you won't be able to tell us what life feels like after moving on.

    I'm sorry but your mom isnt the one at the receiving end, is she?

    You have already admitted your mistake, so while you are still breathing, get as much cash as you can and bail! (don't steal it o!- cos he sounds like someone that will hunt you down) child or no child. Run for your life. And be unavailable for a while. Don't even tell your mom

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  20. You need Jesus now than before

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  21. This isnt a matter of what you should do! your life is at risk. i know someone whose boyfriend has given her HIV. your life is at risk. please RUN, RUN, RUN!

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  22. HIV? Oh dear, that's very dangerous.

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  23. "LADY" you know what to do yet you chose to ask strangers for opinions concerning YOUR life. In other word:

    LEAVE NOW

    whether you have children or not

    LEAVE NOW.

    Whether you are financially secured or not:

    LEAVE NOW.

    Your mom can go and marry him if she wants.

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