Saturday, September 22, 2012

How to Have a Successful Marriage – Foluke Daramola

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1. Olympic Spirit Olympic spirit is the spirit of competition. It has crept into many marriages where couples who are supposed to work as partners are working as rivals. Lovers now work as foes. They compete about building their own houses, buying cars and about winning the love of their children.

Solution: You are partners, don’t compete. You are lovers, don’t fight. You are companions, work in unity. Don’t ever see each other as competitors but as companions.

2. Lovelessness Husbands are commanded by God to love their wives and not be bitter against them. “Husbands love your wives and be not bitter against them”. Colossians 3:19. Love for your wife should be deep in your heart. When you allow her love to depart, you are making room for a difficult marriage.

Solution: Love your wife and don’t compare her with to any other woman. Verbalize the love. Tell her “I love you” often. Show the love to her by getting her gifts and give her your undivided attention.

3. Disunity Not walking as one, no fondness, divided house is the end result of so many negative things in marriage. United we stand, divided we fall. There is no place this saying is more true than in marriage.

Solution: Walk in love, walk as one. Stand together, stand as one. Stand in unity. Join your hands together, join your mind also. Have the same voice, the same vision, the same focus and the same destination.

67 comments:

  1. Good advice! But coming from her? Charity begins at home they say.. She didn't put that into consideration in her own relationship.

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    1. Shut up daft asshole. Shit happens n so she's moved on she has given the advice its either u take it or u leave it n walk away.... Ani... Mchewwww

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  2. And she didn't apply this to herself because?

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    1. Don't mind her. That's why she goes round breaking up other peoples marriages. Oloshi!!!

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  3. The first thing to ask madam is, are you a married woman? if her answer is no, please move on ma. Ese

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    1. This same woman has been divorced and single now,she was accused of breaking some pastor home aiit? And she had the gutts to give advice? I am disappointed that she has no shame.

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    2. Lols ....see person wey dey give ralationship advice .....#i run go pour water for head#

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    3. Anon 22:55 no run go pay school fees to a beta english teacher that will teach u how to spell

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    4. Lol,Anon 14:53,I luv ur rply to Anon 22:55.buaaaaahAaa

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  4. She did offer some words of wisdom; only that its ironic coming from her! But I get where she's coming from

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  5. Stupidity to the apex

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  6. Who is this woman to give advice. She has just stolen another womans husband. Abeg make she go sidon make we hear word. She is as bold as brass coming in her on her high horse to talk rubbish...OLEEEEEEE

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  7. Everyone now wants to be marriage counselors. And who is she to give advice? Abeg shift.

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  8. Right, I take it this is the latest trend amongst entertainers. First it was IK, then rugged man, now this lady? Wtf?! Dishing out advice you don't practice. Sit your butt down lady nd shut up

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  9. All I can see is 'HACKETT'!!!

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  10. Sweet Heart i cant take you serious... I dont particularly like your acting but in real life girl you are good... Try doing this on screen you will be great...honestly.

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  11. #4 shd be always package ur boobs well to attract even pastors mscheeew

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  12. WONU: seriously frm u foluke taa!

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  13. Husband snatcher.

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  14. lool foluke daramola is practising to adequately fill the space of the pastor mrs..isnt it interesting that the estranged wife of the man she is accused of snatching is a church leader in charge of marriage counselling...

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  15. Please,can she take several seats and sit down? Marriage advice from her? That's laughable. Next thing you know Kris Okotie will be telling us how to have a successful marriage.

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    1. God will bless u beyond expectations, o ma ri ba ti se. I luv, I luv n I luv ur comment

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  17. How shallow of you guys to speak as you have. So just cos she isn't married she can't give such advice? Is there a possibility she has just learnt these valuable lessons? so assuming my grandma didn't go to school, she can't tell me "make sure you study hard" and give me tips on how to go about it? who better to educate you on the danger of night outing than a night crawler? who better to tell you not to tread a certain path than one who has walked same? who better to tell you the dangers of smoking than a smoker? who better to tell you how to pass an exam than one who has failed? who better to educate you on the dangers of irresponsible sex than a prostitute? must I go on? I just hate this useless judgemental typical Naija attitude. Be gone with that nonsense!

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    1. Nicely said.you re §ọ̥ on point.
      Moe

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    2. Wow spot on!!!

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    3. Who better to tell u how to manage ur husband than a husband snatcher abi???

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    4. You are so right! Thanks for this

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    5. You are the shallow, foolish one. Good for you if a prostitute is helping you get out of the dungeon you got yourself into through irresponsible sex. Na you sabi o. But me, I'd rather take Sprinting tips from Usein Bolt and football tips from Messi. Stick to the failures and I'll stick to the success stories.

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    6. Itumo - kip ur friends close but ur enemies closer.

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  18. She should b the last to speak on this issue.. .. infact she should b in hiding when women of integrity r speaking. Not after what she did to the marriage of that RCCG woman

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  19. maybe u shd find out y she is out of her marriage b4 crucifying her.
    i heard her husband used to neat her black and blue. she had to run or else, we prob wld have carried her dead body.

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  20. I may be wrong but wasn't she accused of breaking the Pastor' s home??
    Ok she missed out the fidelity problem and its solution or is there a part 2 to this story?

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  21. Dnt be too quick to judge! Is d advice good? Yes....she mite have learnt her lessons d hard way!! Note some of the best marriage counsellors in d world are Single....
    Its like sayin because Marc Jacobs is gay, den he'll not know anytin abt fashion for women

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  22. Good advice...thnx

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  23. Very Good advice coming from a divorcee and a woman DAT another woman keeps fighting to stay off her husband,charity begins at home aunty.. Read ur sermons well before u preach it preacher...

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  24. Honestly some people no know when to shut up. She get effrontery to come talk for here. Shameless!

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  25. That story about the pastor was taken out of context. Haba must we swallow every story in the news.

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  26. Abeg! Does she have one ?

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  27. More than half of you guys that commented should be called Hypocrites.... This advise coming from someone like her is just Perfect. She has entered it, seen it and she has some experience. About her snatching another mans wife, from what I got the mans wife is very insecure. The woman has a problem. Just because foluke is helping her husband wiv a charity work and already she feels he is cheating. If our mothers left our fathers because they were cheating, a lot of us will be "fatherless" if the woman no catch them red handed then am sorry she threw her door open for the devil to enter. If ur husband did not drive you out of your home and u used ur 2 left legs to pack your things and go, u deserved to be flogged except if domestic violence is involved. No marriage is easy. Folukes husband dey beat am steady so she had to leave. Most of u judging are not married. I hope you people will not be in her shoes in the next 10 years. This advise is just soo true.

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    1. Oh shut the fuck and have several seats idiot! What type of charity project is a 'big breasted' woman like this doing for a Pastor? Every pastor's wife is well aware that women will be all over their husband for spiritual counselling/prayers etc. But when a pastors wife accuses you of breaking her home, there is NO SMOKE WITHOUT FIRE!

      This fool Foluke went to break another womans home because her own marraige didn't work out. May God give u back ur wickedness in 10 folds

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    2. Hmmmmnnn Replier where you there???

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    3. May God not allow u be accused of something that will dent your image and families image forever. You are very shallow minded if u believe everything you read on papers.. You are even dumber for calling someone a fool when uve not heard the other side of a story. Naso u dey judge people? Its so unfair. May the God u call forgive all of you! Do not judge because the same measure at with u judge someone is the same measure God will use on u.

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    4. Marriage no easy, if only we know how many times our fathers cheated on our mothers. We would probably hate all our fathers. Marriage no easy. The other woman no send u. So if u leave, na u go suffer. More so she is a pastors wife. What happened to God and prayers? Why didn't she check herself and go spiritually. On the other hand, some men infact many men are useless.

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    5. Hahahhahaha... You all are idiots. The man's not a pastor, his wife is.

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    6. Whatever it is, we don't care. Do not judge, that's the point. U are the bigger idiot... Asshole

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    7. Anon 9:05 u have just spoken like a frustrated bastard I mean was it ur father she fucked if what pple said or r saying is true? or u wanna tell me u r a saint? Its ur type that will sleep with other pple's husband n act nothing happened idiot n who da hell r u to judge bitch. Oh damn u sooo daft n before u realise u r daft trust me u will be six ft down. Mannerless swine go n learn more manners n then again foluke is actually not the cause of ur miserable life if u wanna transfer ur aggression then move forward.... Stupid child!

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  28. Coming from an "home wrecking cant keep a husband turd"!!! Abeg sharrap

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  29. see as people dey take panadol for another person headache,oga o.this advice no b by force o,its either you take it or leave it,shikina

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  30. Most men are very useless...and unless the men, contribute equally to make a marriage work, trust me that the women s efforts will remain futile. Too many oloriburuku men out there...one little problem, their solution is to find another woman. They don't even think about working things out

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  31. Cool story sha. Really chilled

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  32. Nigerians so holy, so judgmental. Unless I see something with my korokoro eyes, I will not believe it. Even if I see bro K in Sis F's arms, wetin concern me? I come to no conclusions. Because the day I fell down the stairs in the church & married bro T helped me up, same was said about me. Someone told his wife we were embracing and I became the enemy. She poured out all her insecurities on me and created a non-existent affair with a man that I had never spoken to. It was even the incident that made the husband & I talk - when he came to apologize to me.
    May none of you ever have your image spoiled innocently.

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  33. Nigerians so holy, so judgmental. Unless I see something with my korokoro eyes, I will not believe it. Even if I see bro K in Sis F's arms, wetin concern me? I come to no conclusions. Because the day I fell down the stairs in the church & married bro T helped me up, same was said about me. Someone told his wife we were embracing and I became the enemy. She poured out all her insecurities on me and created a non-existent affair with a man that I had never spoken to. It was even the incident that made the husband & I talk - when he came to apologize to me.
    May none of you ever have your image spoiled innocently.

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    1. Liar say the truth. We know ur type.

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  34. Disgusted married woman23 September, 2012 20:36

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    Lol Foluke so u actually came on this blog to defend urself? U fell down from stairs he helped u up, u embraced him, etc. Which married woman in her right frame of mind won't smell a rat somwer? Abeg the wife did what a typical woman would do, CONFRONT U! If she didn't confront u that instant maybe u wud have gone ahead to sleep with the pastor. 70% of women who go to church have an agenda...women on a mission...forget all that long skirt scarf wearing nonsense. Women r evil. Abegi!

    Next time when u fall down pick urself up. If someone's husband wants to embrace u with ur big breasts, say NO! That way u stay out of a married womans wrath. Shikena!

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  35. Lol @scorpion.All i can see is HACKETT and ofcourse big tits.lol

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  36. From her????????//
    *seriously???*
    I laugh in Spanish!

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  37. i left the comment at 19:21 and no I'm not Foluke. And no, even if the man had offered me a million dollars, I wouldn't so much have kissed him. So married women (I'm one too) need to stop being paranoid.
    No woman in her right frame of mind should go around smelling rats. It is only insecure women that do so. Life is not about smelling your husband's boxers every night to see if he has been with someone else. Why would I stress myself like that shooo?
    Yes, there are women who have designs on married men but thank God I'm not one neither will I ever be. However, some women are so stupid. I know someone who is paranoid about single women around her husband but guess what? Her husband cheated on her with a married woman.
    Anyone with half a brain would understand the premises of my comment about falling down the stairs and the misinterpretation. I choose to use my example ... I could have talked about a mis-interpreted interaction between two men, something unrelated to marriage. My point was to get it across that for all we know, Foluke might be innocent of the charges against her.
    @Disgusted married woman, keep on being disgusted. I bet your husband sleeps very well at night while you toss and turn around in bed being disgusted at all the single & divorced woman around you. God forbid I lose sleep like that.

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    1. Abeg all these desperate single & divorced ashawos shld leave married men alone. Na by fire to get married ni? If I catch any bitch around my husband,I go sentence am to acid bath anonymously. Afterall there's no justice left in Nigeria & criminals are living large & in charge. #my2cents#

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  38. Wow ,why are we so cruel to one another ,she made a mistake once and she has learnt her lesson mut we constantly remind her of a past ahe has chosen to learn from ? Life isnt a short dash its a marathon am so praying that 10years from now you wouldnt be in the sort of shoes where you'd have to eat up some of these words(comments)....if men were God?
    Let he who has no sin cast the first stone .....

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  39. God is the main recipe for any happy marriage!

    Check us out beautifuls.
    http://africansweetheart.blogspot.co.uk/

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  40. talk is cheap! didnt she knw al of dis b4 she got married? pls dis is nt home video oooooo

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  41. the rate at which the world is going, some of you might find yourself in her shoes in some years to come. Keep on being judgmental

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