Friday, March 22, 2013

What Will You Do If Your Child Turns Out To Be Gay- Chris Ihidero

The discussion had been going on pretty well. It started with someone making a reference to another person’s gay tendencies. I asked what that meant and what exactly the big deal about homos*xuality was anyway.

My friend, homophobic as any human being can possibly be, roared, demanding to know why I could have said such a thing. I repeated my statement; that there was no big deal about homos*xuality and that people’s s*xual choices should not be the business of other people (as long as it doesn’t affect them in anyway), and especially government. Click to continue reading.


My friend wouldn't hear any of this: ‘You are talking rubbish, Chris’, he retorted. ‘How can you be supporting something like this, something so unnatural? (I actually don’t support homos*xuality. I find it insulting to homos*xuals that they need my support to make their s*xual orientation choices in life. Like other things in life, they just need me to respect their right to make a choice that doesn't threaten my life in anyway.) Did God not create man and woman; was God stupid when he did so? So what’s this nonsense you are talking?’ He went on and on, getting angrier with each statement.

None of what he said was new to me, and I’ve grown a bit tired of trying to point out to people like him that their arguments against homos*xuality were pretty baseless. Did God really create Adam and Eve or aren’t they just the archetypal parent stock found in all cultures? Was there really a Garden of Eden? I have heard of Adam and Steve, and Eve and Evelyn. So, there goes another myth. Since we know that God never actually put pen to paper; isn’t it obvious that His messages are subject to the human interpretations of His messengers?

When people talk about homos*xuals choosing to be so, I wonder if those of us who are heteros*xuals also chose to be so. To choose means to pick between two or more realities. So, how many of us who are heteros*xual tasted homos*xuality or bi-s*xuality before deciding that heteros*xuality was best for us? If heteros*xuality is natural to us, why can’t homos*xuality be natural to others? The look on my friend’s face as I spoke could easily drill a hole in a reinforced concrete wall.

His anger was beginning to get to a tipping point and I expected a violent reaction soon. On the other hand, I also silently prayed that he wouldn’t make the common mistake a lot of men make when arguing against homos*xuality. My prayers were too late. His next outburst was true to type: ‘Chris, I’m really disappointed in you. How can you be supporting this?! I mean, I can even still understand lesbians, but a MAN, sleeping with another MAN?! That’s just disgusting!’

In the end, beyond religious sentiments, this is what it is for most men who so violently rail against homos*xuality: How can a real man abandon a vagina and thrust his p*nis into another man’s anus? Women may be excused, seeing that they are the weaker s*x anyway and therefore are prone to such nonsense, but a MAN?! The implicit gender discrimination contained in this kind of thinking, in spite of the achievements of feminism over the past 50 years, is mind blowing.

And if this is such a disgusting act, how come anal s*x is gaining popularity among heteros*xuals? Or is it okay to insert a p*nis in a woman’s anus but not a man’s? Further, why reduce homos*xuality to just s*xual intercourse? What happened to love, care and friendship; things we expect in heteros*xual relationships?

I thought he was done with me for the day, as he had become quiet as I rounded off my points. Then he landed the sucker punch: ‘So, with all these things you have said, what will you do if your child turns out to be gay?’

I didn’t see that one coming. I wasn’t prepared for it and I had no ready answer. I took time to think about it.  Are these liberal views that I tend to hold all good only in theory? Will I be a happy father if a child I brought into the world happened to be gay? In the end, as with other aspects of my life, I didn’t have to think for too long for the truth of my reality wasn't that far from what I believe: If I have a child who happened to be gay, he/she will have all the love, care and support that I can muster, as I would have if he/she weren’t gay.

It is what the God that gave me that child would expect of me. Anything contrary to that would be against the wishes of the God that rules my heart and understanding. Live and let live.


55 comments:

  1. YAWNSSSSSsss.......ladun, biko post stories nah, be it local or int'l... POST!! why are u dry and lazy like this?! #rme

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  2. are these ppl blind or they jes turn a blind eye to dat verse dat says homosexuality is an abomination?
    Pls, people shld stop forcing us to accept wat is abnormal... Every where i look, dis topic jes cum up like there is nuffin better to discuss. Nonsense

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    1. Thanks so much ..... You just echoed my observations in your second paragraph .....

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    2. Yes you are very correct

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  3. What is this gay dis gay that we hear everyday.Is that our worry right now?Corruption?Boko haram?Kidnapping?Ritual Killings etc.Gay?homosexuality?I still don't get it.

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  4. Be gay if you want. I have no problem with that just don't force me to think its normal. Don't have a problem with gay people ... I just don't think they are normal ...

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  5. Chris I see you've got jokes. This is how selfish our society is turning.
    It is okay so long as it doesn't affect you... Really? What makes you think it won't affect you in the long run.
    When they start suffering from diseases like GBS,HPV and AIDS amongst others, guess whose money will be used to fund the treatment??? Exactly! The tax payers money!
    So don't tell me it doesn't affect you!
    Was the anus created for sex? All this acceptance of ridiculous behaviours is just unaccepatable! So please Chris, park well!

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    1. Do you pay your taxes??? Didn't think so. So hush!!!

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    2. Actually you need to hush! I pay my tax in full so puhlease, take a back seat!

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    3. Anon10.01 don't heterosexuals practice anal sex,fellatio and cunninligus too???D majority always carries d vote dats why d heteros views are always better heard. P.S.Every human female is usually bi-sexual.Educate urselves

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    4. Sickos! People keep pushing boundaries!

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  6. I am homopobic and a proud one at that. My male children are not gay and will never be gay. Yes they was garden of Eden. It's the Maldives.

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  7. pray for the pikin and transform the pikin

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  8. YaaaaaaaAssssssss! God bless this man

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  9. Tired of this whole sick shit.Like really,really fed up.Support the Gays,dats yo biz.Dats one stance dat will never ever get my support until d end of time.

    If pple choose 2 b homosexual,wat wld happen 2 d part of d Word dat says 'Be Fruitful and Multiply'?

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  10. May all ur children and the next generation be gays and lesbians.

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  11. everyone shud let gays be....

    GOD will sorth dem out.

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  12. Finally!!!! An intelligent article on homosexuality rather than the rabid biased and extremely ignorant articles that Nigerians love. Finally, someone that is asking real questions to the 'religious' movement in Nigeria. Homosexuals do not need our approval, all they need is for us to respect our selves and stop acting like mentally deranged chimpanzees and leave them alone!!!!!

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    1. Just like you shey? nonsense

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  13. "I mean, I can even still understand lesbians, but a MAN, sleeping with another MAN?! That’s just disgusting!"

    GBAMEST!!!
    I dnt av anyfin against the gays oo. They even make awesome bffs for girls than other females. They help u shop, pick out clothes wifout the usual 'akpor' n drama.
    But eh, If I find out my son is gay, I would lock him up in a room wif 10 of the hottest n sexiest females this world has to offer . I won't let them out till they have succeeded in making him 'un-gay'.
    E better mk him dey pursue woman lk craze dan to be gay ooo!

    http://justporsh.blogspot.com

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    1. so, u can tolerate a lady to a lady, but not a man to man, then you are a person of double standard...

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    2. with no brain

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    3. @ 09.58 Gbamest.

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  14. i have a gay relation but as i a christain i show him love and don't judge him maybe this way t he will come to know Christ....i don't support the lifestyle but i certainly don't support aggression towards them its not the only sin in the world.

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  15. Ladun, I honestly thought you were above tribalism. You know, that a great Nigerian Poetic Soul has gone to rest, and you did not Post about it.

    Its a pity.

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  16. and ur point is??? Long hiss

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  17. god forbid o!!! tufiakwa


    iyawo paso

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  18. god forbid o!!! tufiakwa


    iyawo paso

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  19. god forbid o!!! tufiakwa


    iyawo paso

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  20. Nothing against gays o but I reject this in Jesus name. Amen

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  21. Shut up Ladun! You ramble anytime you write from your head

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  22. my goodness. a man with actual brains.... just waiting for all you monkeys to oppose and bring religion sentiments to it. Have a good day trying to prove what does not need to be proven!!!!

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  23. Aunty Ladun, when you're sent a possible story for your blog, please take the time to at least send a reply whether you'd publish it or not
    You can't be everywhere at once and people help you out with these mails.
    Have a good day.

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    1. Abi o, I tried helping her with paddy adenuga gist nd she didn't acknowledge it. Still love her tho

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  24. MFM straight,I do not surrport it in anyway.

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  25. Ladun,you are 1 lady I respect α̲̅πϑ admire ά lot, I understand that this isn't уσυя Opinon but you could have posted the question without this man's original comment. I believe that this man's comment can easily confuse people, especially †ђξ weak 1s + it kinda give people the impression that you support homosexuality. God never created Adam and Steve or Eve and Evelyn. Moreso, †ђξ Bible says that all Scriptures α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ given by inspirations of God and profitable τ̲̅ȍ direct... Moreso, God frown @ homosexuality (Gay or lesbians)- Romans 1: 21-28. Anal sex Ȋ̝̊̅§ also ingodly cos God never created the penis for the anus...

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  26. Meanwhile, to your question, I'll show such son/daughter utmost love and would not rest until I show him/her †ђξ truth of God's Word as regards homosexuality/sodomity... Constant prayer for God's intervention on His behalf will be very key α̲̅πϑ constant. All homosexuals need our prayers, suport and care. We need to point out to them that the act Ȋ̝̊̅§ ungodly α̲̅πϑ will lead τ̲̅ȍ hell

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  27. Hmmm! Much as I don't support gays, we need to understand that they're humans and no one chooses their sexuality,... they are born that way....it could be anyone's brother or sister so let's just accept them and leave the rest for GOd as there's unthinking and widespread homophobia in the society.

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  28. I guess the question is for the papas and the mamas....oya bring it on!!

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  29. u are a wise man

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  30. This is just the ranting of a foolish man,may God forgive him

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  31. I disagree with this write up. He talked about trying homosexuality first to know when to make a choice. Do you kill people first before knowing that murder is wrong? God forbids homosexuality that was why he wiped out the cities Sodom and Gomorrah...a word is enough for the wise....he who has ears let them hear. Do not turn the world to something else. If everyone was homosexual where will children come from? Be fruitful and multiply....that is what God says.

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  32. Ok Ladun since u decided to inflict us wit dis mans jabber r u nw supportin homosexuality come on tell us d truth oh
    Sabrina

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  33. In fact I thought about it the other day. For all you so-called macho men, what's the difference between sticking your thing into a woman's anus versus a man's. If you can do anal with your woman, trust me if you are thrown into jail, you will be able to do anal with another man biko.

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    1. Anon17.40 dats not all.If a man can get bj from a woman wat stops him from gettin' it from anoda man dsame can b said about women

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    2. Gbamest!!!
      Afterall, mouth na mouth and anus na anus....

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  34. silly ladun, keep screening comments, its God dat will purnish u

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  35. I must belong Chris Ihedero , i PRAY a child of urs is gay soonest. Smh 4 u

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  36. Religious zealots are out in full force. I wonder why they conveniently forget the part of the bible that condemns fornication, stealing, adultery, pride, slothfulness etc but conveniently throw stones at homosexuals!

    Leave them alone and worry about ur own sins.RUBBISH

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  37. if you follow the writer's line of argument, it therefor means that a an armed can argue that he never learnt how to rob, a prostitute that she can control her self; attributing everything to nature. my dear writer, homosexuality is unnatural. imagine if your child comes home to tell you that hem prefers taking other peoples things, will you still give glory to God for his gift? i nakwa eme inakwa echeck!!!

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