Wednesday, April 17, 2013

JUST IN: Could My Ex's Son Be My Child?

I was in a relationship with a lady last year before we broke up. We were very close but something set us apart. We broke up eight months ago. Yesterday she gave birth to a baby boy. She told me the last time we spoke on the phone before we broke up that she was feeling unusual and that was eight months ago. I called her this morning to congratulate her and asked her if she was sure the baby isn't mine. She hanged up the phone and her phone has been switched off since morning till now. She has also deleted me on her BB. I called her younger sister and she pleaded with me that i should not pour sand sand in her sister's garri. Something tells me that boy is mine. I know she does not sleep around. I am so confused i don't know what to do. I don't want another man to help me train my child. How do i fight a man who is richer than me? Ladun please help me post this. This is my story.

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  1. y did u live in d 1st place ? is it d child only u want now ? or both cos she def has moved on lik u did . u obviously cheated on her 4 u 2 no shes a good girl.

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    1. Where in this story does it say he cheated on her?

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    2. Too many rubbish english on this blog ...live or leave .
      How does cheating equate to knowing someone is a good girl ??

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    1. That's how some men act all egoistic and never fight for dir relationships but when the lady moves on especially unto better things you start whining. Stop assumin n move on, go marry ur own. This is my story ko this is my song ni. *bfjustbrokeupwitmetoo* so paranoid at d mo

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    2. ummmm YDNIC you sound hella bitter. he is not whining for her, he only wants what might rightfully belong to him, his child. he has a right to know. legally and otherwise.

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  3. Very hard to decide......ask the elders abt it. ... N ask God if you av one

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  4. Hian, i think you should try your best to see the girl but if the man she's dating is really richer than you, bros na fasting and praying things be that oooo.... If the child is really yours, what do you plan to do? Will you take the baby from her? Are you ready to take care of the boy alone and can you? Just try and talk to her

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    1. something called shared custody

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  5. Count yourself as a sperm donor and move on with your life. Come to think of it, you never bothered to call again all this while.

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    1. Choi mehn I like u jareee.. Live is too short. Aka sperm Donor

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  6. Even If d child is urs so Wat??? Biko carry ur bad luck n Go jare... She is married 2 Rich Man now, let her Enjoy her life! No pour sand sand 4 her garri!

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    1. @BabyGee, ole! Sugar daddy things. Shior.

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  7. Damn! That's your boy, don't do it baby, don't relent darling, fight for it sweetie (in Madea's voice)

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  8. Goan do werey for them, what rubbish, if he aint yours? She wouldn't be scared..the baby is yours..

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  9. Damn! That's your boy, don't do it baby, don't relent darling, fight for it sweetie (in Madea's voice)

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  10. Hian!!! Bt how did u kno she jus put to bed???? Well....only in igbo land sha coz yoruba ppl no dey kolet bastard........yinkus

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    1. Heeeeeeyyyyyy! make una hear yinkus peperempe ooooooh? Nah Yoruba get bastards pass. Yoruba wen mama go know husband, know boyfriend. Nonsence. Una work nah to dey sell bastards for the highest bidders. Una like money die. Even if the man bullshit una, una must force body there. Boyfriend, 'oko mi', manfriend, 'oko mi' old papa, oko mi. If the man like make e no pay dowry, no biggie. Just born for person wen get name, nah d greatest achievement for una life. Park well joor.

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    2. Both Yinkus and Mama Uche have shown their ignorance

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    3. Gbam, Mama Uche.LWKMD

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    4. Just ignorance would have been better, their stupidity amazes me

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    5. Jude you are wicked lol

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  11. She left you for money what a silly woman. And obviously she also is not sure if the baby is urs or her new man's if not she wouldnt have hung up. You are in a tough place. It wouldnt be nice to mess up her relationship with her new man cos Im almost 100% sure he will leave her if he finds out the child may not be his talkless of dna proving it. But it also isnt fair to you not knowing whether you have a child out there for sure. Reach out to her and tell her you want a DNA. If DNA proves the child is yours, and you end up destroying her new relationship, remember a woman scorned o

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    1. How r u so sure d guy didn't break up with the girl that's y she doesn't even wanna talk about it? Maybe he broke up with her b4 she found out she was pregnant

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  12. Mr man, abeg no pull sand sand for her garri as d sista said, carry urslf go one side...Thec says so

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  13. What ever happende to parternity test?

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  14. if you are middle class and u can afford to raise ur child then you should fight for him, But if you can't afford to raise the boy Just leave him for now and let him help u raise him to all the best things, then when the boy is older u can go and claim him, but for now don't ruin the boys life if u can't afford to care for him

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  15. If the husband is not richer nko?You and I know you don't need this baby+ how are you sure your motherks husband is your father? If I hear from anywhere that you are disturbing this girl again na thunder I go send to strike down your very black ass full of shit. I don't really want to say much cause I am not in mood but you can follow @Don_mikel1 for futher advice,counsel or curse. You kno how many litres of sperm you don waste? No even vexx me

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  16. Why are you fighting for someone you can't afford right now, since you av been too broke to even by recharge card to keep up with your X knowing that she told you she was feeling funny...now you want to put sand sand, just put your self in her shoes.

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  17. Even if the child is yours, you cannot assume custody until the child is 18. You cannot just wake up one day and start to claim ownership. It is not going to be an easy case if she refuses to release the child for you. I guess the court will do you guys the favour otherwise you will need to be humble enough to settle it with her amicabely.

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    1. ummmmm. i think it's you can't claim custody till the child is 18 IF the man initially denied the child or didn't even know about the child

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  18. So amny questions to ask.......for now, let sleeping dog lies. There is time for everything.

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    1. I just checked your profile....you are very dark, why can't you tone up your skin a little bit. Also you need to do away with low cut.

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    2. oo Shut the fuck up , who asked for your opinon Pealie... The fact is that you are miserable and insecure about ur looks dont mean others are
      You are so stupid that its unreal

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  19. Request for DNA test. It's not that expensive in Nigeria. If it is yours, then you can proceed from there. If she refuses DNA testing, then she has something to hide.
    I don't recommend forgetting about it.

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  20. i think the baby is yours but she is trying to cover up with her man,because she knows by doing that,she will be in stable.poor guy,is not fair on him or you.fight for what is yours.that boy,when he grow up and knows the truth,he will hate you for that

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  21. Oloriburuku man... so it is now that you've remembered her abi? Let this be a lesson to you girls - this is why you don't date impoverished men. Look at the broke mugu wanting to claim baby! Nah stone you go use raise am? Abeg, comot for road jor.

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  22. Just relax and let sleeping dogs lie. Move on and live more reponsibly. How can you wake up one day and want to claim this child is yours? Where were u when her husband was cathering for her, taking her for anti natal, buying her drugs and feeding all her cravings?. Please stop all this drama and move on, there is more to parenting than having intercourse, releasing sperms and one of the wayward sperms is lucky enough to hit and penetrate the released egg. So please STOP! U don't need to ruin her home. If the child is yours he or she will definately locate u.

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  23. Just relax and let sleeping dogs lie. Move on and live more reponsibly. How can you wake up one day and want to claim this child is yours? Where were u when her husband was cathering for her, taking her for anti natal, buying her drugs and feeding all her cravings?. Please stop all this drama and move on, there is more to parenting than having intercourse, releasing sperms and one of the wayward sperms is lucky enough to hit and penetrate the released egg. So please STOP! U don't need to ruin her home. If the child is yours he or she will definately locate u.

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  24. please move on with ur life and let her be . all the other girls u donated ur sperm to after her guess if they should all show up they are pregnant 4 u, u will denial them. let her be. i beg u o

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  25. Mehn.....most of these peeps commenting really need English tutorial. Garly!
    Anyways, so because shes with someone else. The dude doesn't deserve to know if the kid is his? Wow! Nigerians and their backward thinking. Happy i left that country when i was young. Well.....to each his/her own

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    1. Story story!

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    2. Bwahahahahaha! ^^^^^^ case in point. smh

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