Friday, April 12, 2013

Kayode Salako's Wife Speaks At Last! God Is Fighting For Me

Culled From E24-7

Olubukola Olusunmola Salako, is the embattled first wife of  Kayode Salako, the President of  rested Fasholamania and Change Agent, recently married  to star actress, Foluke Dramola, had barely talked since she quit and moved her children, three boys,  away from her matrimonial home in Omole Phase I, Lagos to an undisclosed location. Now, a year plus and  alone with her kids, Olubukola, spoke with E24-7 Magazine's Biodun Kupoluyi on the claim  of a lady that she introduced Foluke to Kayode and  worried by her conscience  and ‘ Holy Ghost’ wants to apologise to her.

What is your reaction to the stories going viral online on your marriage?

Yes,  one thing about me is that in as much as that the news going round I don’t have  anything to say, I’m the kind of person that allows God to do his work,  I will not help God to do anything, God is doing his work . Whatever God feels He wants to do is what He should do. All that’s happening now in the media is just God doing his work. I will allow God to do His work and I will not say anything. I will just allow BABA to do his work. Continue reading after the cut.


The lady who claimed that she introduced Foluke to your husband is ready to apologise for breaking your home.

It’s only God that can forgive. The deed has been done. Even if she comes to apologise to me now, how would she apologise to the children?  The children have gone through many things; I’m not talking about finances, I’m not talking not about money now but psychological. Forgiveness is in the hands of God. Imagine if God has not been behind me in this matter and somewhere along the line, something unfortunate had happened to me or one of my children had been consumed by the circumstance.  Would she have come to apologise to me?  Her forgiveness is in the hands of God.

Prior to this raging issue, what kind of home or husband did you have?

I don’t want to say anything positive or negative about anybody. I don’t want to talk about anybody in any interview; I’m not going to do that.  I stand on one thing and I know that I serve a living God that will judge the four of us, and that includes Kayode, Foluke, Bukola and I, each according to his or her role.  I leave the four of us in the court of God and I know He will give to each of us the judgment we deserve.




108 comments:

  1. Spoken like a Christian. She didn't say one bad word against anyone or call names. She referred everyone to her God.
    May the God u serve fight ur cause.

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    1. Fight for us all. Amen

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    2. THATS THE TRUTH.

      SOMETIMES WE FORGET THAT WE NEED NOT WORRY OR FRET SO LONG AS WE BELIEVE GOD IS INCONTROL

      THOSE WHO RUN TO HIM WILL BE SAFE

      WITH THESE SAME EYES THAT IM USING TO READ THIS STORY, I WILL ALSO READ MORE THAT I WILL USE AS MORAL LESSON FOR MY FUTURE CHILDREN.


      GOD IS NOT MOCKED O...WHAT WE SOW WE WILL READ

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    3. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
      This matter is now definately in God's hands. I respect you for keeping a dignified silence all this while. You are a good woman.
      The truth is alot of women get approached by useless married men...but if you are not a home wrecker, a home destroyer, the woman is supposed to cut all ties with the man so he can go and sort his home out not come out after 13 years to say he was in bondage and bored for 13 years...even if the girlfriend has had a child out of their illicit affair she still needs to take several seats and let him confess to his wife and sort his home out.
      This man obviously pushed the wife to extremes with his cheating, remember he even confirmed he dated someone for 5 year while married saying he is a real man....what a fool he is making such an illiterate statement. and that was not the only woman he was dating.
      That alone must have put a serious strain on the wife and the kids as he would have felt it was an escape route from his responsibilities as a loving husband and loving father.
      Mennnnnnnnnnnnn being a husband and father is not just about money, it is about time,attention, affection not galivanting about saying you have girlfriend...idiot man.
      Foluke ashii agbero girl you really really feel comfortable in another woman's home ...her tears, her sweat in that house, you think you can just go in and take over...hmmmmmmmmmm that woman's silence is what you should be scared of.
      Stupid idiot Kayode Salako, please give it a rest and stop insulting your real wife, she has never insulted you in all of this, why try to wash her down. I get the strange feeling the woman really still cares for you...hmmmmmmmmm You better get your family round to hers and beg till all the tears in your body comes out..
      You need to boot out that sack of fufu called foluke and her children and get your real wife back. You need to repent and give your life to Jesus.
      You need to sort your brother sending emails to the press writting rubbish about your real wife...
      Oh what a patient God we serve...It is better you repent on time.
      Do you not even miss you kids? or you think money is everything..are they ever going to forgive you???? you already have a standard enemy in form of foluke's real husband(her so called ex)
      Mrs Bukola Salako, god bless you immensely, keep you and your children in Jesus Name.
      The Lord will direct your steps. Please dont insult anybody...God Almightly is already sorting your case and you will come out on top in Jesus Name...Amen

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    4. Haaaa, God bless you for this advice. You mean sensible people read this blog? I am truly humbled
      God bless you. The devil has been attacking various homes lately. It's one story or another. We really have to be prayerful. Mrs Salako God has already fought your battle. Light and darkness never mix. Hoooo, this Foluke is in big trouble.

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    5. Thank you, well spoken, nothing to add again, Mama B!

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    6. Please I don't blame the guy, he married a boring woman, she left everything to God, don't be supprise that God saved him from your boring ass

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    7. Anon 17:02, u r d daftest person and most stupid person that must av ever walked this planet. So while he was dating her b4 marrying her for 13 yrs, he never realized she was boring? Or what is dating all about? Is that not when he's sppsd to find out if their lifestyles r compatible? The idiot threw out a good God fearing woman with good morals to bring in a slut that has graced uncountable beds. Anyway like the matchmaker said, he's under the influence of jazz ( which I pray will wear out soon, so he will come to his senses) or how can a man throw out his own children and bring in another man's children into his own house cause he claims " his wife is boring", r his children boring too? I'm a man that has a child out of wedlock but that didn't mean I should throw my wife n kids out, I went to her n apologized for my mistake n being a good God fearing woman she is, she forgave me. I take full responsibility of my love child and I'm as much a father I am to her as I am to my other kids but that didn't say I should kick my wife out cause I found someone else. I pray his eyes open n he sees what he's losing ( a good woman) cause if foluke was worth marrying, she won't be divorced in d first place. He should find out why her ex kicked her out.

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    8. Anony 13:44 it's your mother that is daftest and your wife stupid for taking your cheating ass back olodo... all this women that turn born again after marriage always try to shove religion down your throat, if the guy is not interested then don't force him. Serve your God and stop forcing everyone cause you are born again and talk about God every second does not mean you are a good person... stop using religion and the devil as an excuse take resposibility for your actions

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  2. I don't understand dis kind interview oh!!! Nothing out of the blues joh........

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    1. Wish yourself the same then

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    2. she have nothing to say, everything is God this God that, she doesnt even have an original answer. Nigerians everything is Blamed on God and the devil. the devil abandon NIgeria since Abacha regime, so please let the devil rest biko.. The only thing we can do now is Hope that God is still with this county

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  3. Heya....this is serious!

    MoinMoin!

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  4. good comment, may God guide you on what steps to take in life

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  5. So this is an interview? Desperate blogging...ladun hide comment o. Ur blog na family matter, so be blocking comments as. Like...mschew!!

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  6. wow,i am just speechless didn't know there were still women strong in the faith like this in naija when the wife was fasting 3days,7 days straight for them to be successful he didn't notice her imperfections then until they made money and moved back to Nigeria it is only a matter of time before his union with foluke daramola breaks up or GOD somehow vindicates this woman because foluke daramola is contending directly with baba GOD and she will surely see the consequences ..
    the woman too should have adjusted to what the man wanted,while she didn't have to dress up like cossy breasts spilling out there are ways you can dress up look good yet still classy and not betraying your faith even the bible says that its not what you eat that defiles you but your thought and actions…whichever way this drama is a real life lesson for both married and unmarried

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    1. I beg to differ Sir. He saw and knew what she was like before he married her. What did he expect of her?? Go haywire and forget about the God that answered her prayers and blessed him??? Blessed him enough for him to go out and have carnal knowledge with daughters of Jezebel. I do indeed beg to differ pls! Don't sound judgmental, say she have bla bla bla. We are christians, and we live by a code of conduct--The Bible. And last I checked, my Bible admonishes we the Remnants(the righteous) not to conform witht thw ways of the world. He can go if he wants to, it's okay. But know this--God's divine plan for this woman and her children will surely come to pass.

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    2. Lubrac.. i do not agree completely with you about her dressing, her husband has been cheating on her since forever even having a 5 year relationship with one of his girlfriends, despite all the efforts the wife put into herself.
      He never appreciated her. What is her husband for, if he was not totally satisfied with her dressing then he should have gone out shopping with her and all, not called her boring and then use that as an opportunity to cheat with different women...see now one of them has decided to lay her tent in his home because of money and she has gone to different lengths to make sure he married her traditionally.
      Foluke was never someone anyone could trust with their boyfriends even in Ife those days how much more in the outside world.
      God definately loves this first and real wife...that is sure

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    3. Agree with you Anonymous.
      Do you think it is easy to combine all what you said Lucabracee with running a home?
      Am not talking of couples who don't have children yet or just one, and have maids to take care of them!
      Men should be realistic and stop to be deceived with what they see on magazines covers!

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    4. Amen!!!!!!!!

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    5. Luca, forget that thing. A man who is ready to go astray will look for all manner of excuses.

      You dont know her. She might be a classy dresser.

      Even if she had started wearing tight clothes like Foluke, the excuse would have shifted to her bad relationship with in-laws, pride, arrogance etc.

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    6. Anon 22:07, question is,was she a pastor when they got married? We really can't answer that part but u can't say he knew how she was when he married her.. Although a dog will definitely be a dog no matter what u do,if he doesn't complain about dressing,he will complain about her size or probably say her boobs are not big enough or she too dark so u really can't tell. Its just best to pray to God to give us our own husband..

      Mrs Bukola, the Lord will fight for you and you shall hold your Peace..Even na u go dey beg the lord on their behalf,just watch..Ologun loluwa,Oluwa ni oruke re!

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    7. i agree with you to an extent from all indications they both loved each other and had no issues until they came to nigeria,however i am yet to encounter anywhere in the bible where it says that a wife/woman must not dress her age i am sure the husband knowing his wife was a pastor would not have asked her to put on something outrageous like her boobs spilling out or mini skirt e.t.c

      the last i also checked the bible it says that we are the salt of the world and a light for others to look and behold meaning a christian should shine be seen and admired in every way financially,physically when people as a couple start getting old there will be one or two complaints they ll have about each other and it behoves the other party to correct it,no matter how much of a christian i am whenever i get married and my wife starts putting on weight or tying wrapper and stuffs we have to correct it,if i start having a beer belly too she can complain and i ll hit the gym thats the way to have a happy and fulfilled marriage

      if the man asks his wife to be more outgoing i dont see how this is comforting to the way of the world if he is not asking her to go out clubbing only daylight functions,and social outings even MOGs adeboye,bakare,kumuyi all go out pastor kalejaiye one of the top men in redeemed said one time he came to our church that if believes he is not doing enough as a husband if people dont turn around to admire his wife

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    8. So bottom line it's the woman's fault he cheated. You are clearly not married, else you won't be saying such nonsense

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    9. its not the woman's fault that he cheated they are clearly both at fault but the man ll carry much of the blame the issue for me is that i am not absolving the woman totally of her own faults in the matter..we are all focusing on the woman but what about the children? how has her actions to walk out of the marriage adversely affected the children?

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    10. @mama ijebu
      are you saying all these are not enough reason for either a wife or husband to change?
      i am not married and i have always been a slim person (size 30 waist) i started going to the gym when an ex gf remarked that my stomach is starting to push out a man who remarks on his wife's weight or any physical aspects and asking her to change in my opinion is only doing so for the benefit of both of them.. if the wife too sees anything she wants the man to change then tell him,marriage is a partnership of different people merging together so if one of the party believes theres nothing to change about her then she is not imbibing the true spirit of marriage
      the reason why i am passionate about this issue is because i heard a serious gist about the pastor of my former church who is having an affair with a lady he told the lady that the only reason he is having an affair is because the wife was not adventurous in bed only lies down in the missionary style which was boring for him and other complaints similar to what this man has said i agree he probably had it in him to cheat already but the wife's attitude didn't help matters…i am challenging anyone to show me where in the bible GOD enjoined women not to be adventurous with their husbands in the privacy of their room,or where GOD asks a wife not to dress to please her husband(within reason of course)

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    11. @anon 23;33
      how were they combining it before they moved to Nigeria? besides it would have been easier in Nig where they ll have had access to house helps nannies e.t.c

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    12. @anon 22;52
      i totally agree with you on foluke,my whole point is that the pastor by her actions and handling of the issues allowed the devil a back door to enter into their house meaning the strange woman foluke..a pastor should not only safeguard her house spiritually against people like foluke but also physically as well the devil doesn't sleep but looks for ways and means to scatter something good..let us be totally honest how did juju find its way in if the spirit of GOD was present in the house? what was the prayer life of pastor like?
      has her fire gone down?
      you say he didn't appreciate her yet they were married without violence for 17yrs if I'm not mistaken?
      according to the man the woman didn't wasn't agreeable to changing anything about herself meaning that the clothes would have ended up in a charity shop
      i am not married but i have heard several sermons from credible MOGs advising couples to spice up their married life..
      a 17yrs married would have been stale without re invention and spicing up lets be honest

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    13. Lucabracee or what your name is......you are really stupid....no common sense....any man who cheats will always look for an excuse....the African society has brainwashed women to think that anytime a man cheats its the woman,s fault.....if its not her dressing they will say its her bed skills.....the guy is a dog and his days and folukes,s are numbered.....even if she prays 24 hours and the dog of a husband opens the door and goes out to sleep with other women then juju can catch him....u don't sit there with your chauvinistic self and expect her to have prevented the dog of a husband from misbehaving....it's obvious the husband has never been born again and maybe she got more serious with God and eventually became a pastor and he could not stand it ........ple shld stop all that rubbish of blaming only women when a marriage packs up cos it's meant to be both parties doing the work....may God keep us alive to see their end cos evil can never go unpunished.....as for you when you marry then you come back here and comment if not just shut your mouth and stop talking rubbish...

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    14. Can't you ever use full stops? You make a lot of sense but hard to read.

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    15. @deekay
      i heard ladun sells full stops for 100pounds each so i am conserving the ones in my supply for only very important use as you can see from this retort lol

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    16. seems Mama has some spare.

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  7. God is still God. Hold your peace ma'am,He will fight for you. Time would tell

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  8. She looks like 'Bigmama' (Martin lawrence) in 'Big mama's house!
    Oopsy!
    Billie jean

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    1. God will forgive you

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    2. but foluke too is another big momma now
      her busties alone can rip a scale
      so d man must like his women big

      HYBunny

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    3. Wetin Foluke be???

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    4. God forbid your husband starts to date different women and then even has a standard mistress for 5 years, you will try as hard as you can to dress right and look hot and all, if he keeps being stupid, you will just relax and be on your knees more that looking smashing 24/7
      especially if you have 3 boys to bring up and the husband is out all the time with women...

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    5. And how do you look billie jean?
      Wait till you have children, run a home and face in-laws problem, then you can talk!
      see this small girl, wen nau only to buy make-up and brazillian hair you sabi, they say rubbish for here!

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    6. Billie Jean, please, show us yourself. U hide under the umbrella of anonymous and insult what God has taken his time to creat. Repent!!!!!!!!!

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  9. Well said. May God fight your battles for you and you will be the winner IJN.

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  10. This is heartbreaking just reading this. How did a another woman a stranger destroy this lady's home? what sort of world or life is this. a woman who bore this man 3 children. one day the powder they blew inside his eye will come off. i hope your children and your true wife will forgive you then...

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  11. It’s only God that can forgive.............is she really a Pastor?

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    1. No o she's just a member of a church.

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    2. Look at u,u think its easy? She says the battle is with the Lord. She's human. Even in a situation like this u need d grace of God to forgive and forget especially when the partys involved are still making mouth asking her what her God had done for their brother since they were married for 13years..

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    3. God says we should forgive and forget. All these fake pastors sha.

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    4. i strongly disagree, God did nt say frgiv n frgt, i av read my Bible well, dt is jst a phrase pple made up.....go read ur Bible...fake christian

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    5. you are the chief of fake Christians now go and read your own Bible again and tell me what you read. Olodo rabata @ Anonymous13 April, 2013 18:11

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    6. Seriously???!!!How dumb,so she shld forgv and forget her husband........... smh
      Titi

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    7. Shut up titi isn't that what humans should do not to talk of a pastor? keep using flesh to kill yourself. forgive, forget and move on.

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  12. This is a true woman of substance

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  13. God will help you train your kids

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  14. Men will always be men. It is well

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  15. @lucabracee .....don't be fooled my dear, even if she dresses classy it still Won't change a man that wants To cheat, cheating is a choice, and obviously the dudE had it in him, so please do not blame thE woman abeg

    As a woman u can't av it all, when a man wants to cheat, he thinks of a flaw in the woman and use that as an excuse For cheating, dat is wht this man iS doing

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    1. im not disputing that but a woman's dressing,not being outgoing even weight issues are serious issues that can affect a marriage i dont see anything wrong in a husband asking wifey to be more outgoing,dress much better/in a certain way as long as its not over the top i am totally in the woman's corner because the man had done her wrong like americans ll say but i can detect a streak of stubbornness in the woman too which probably made the issue more serious

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    2. @Luca, isn't foluke overweight?

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    3. Detective Luca, you don't know this woman, you only read about her. Her refusal to throw her husband under the bus doesn't make her stubborn. What if she struck a bargain with God that if he blessed/healed her and family she would dress or act in a specific way. We all have different ways of practicing Christianity and it's only God who will judge.
      As for weight gain, it is obvious that Kayode doesnt mind BBW. As for going to parties, some people say it goes against their moral code to be in the midst of alcohol and vanity.
      At the end of the day, obedience to God comes first, fulfilling promise to God comes second, and satisfying your conscience comes third. All other things come after.

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    4. Lucabracee, you are very stuupid for that statment. You detect a streak of stubborness in who??? How???

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    5. @anon 11;26
      she is overweight but she makes up for it in other ways if you re call the interview of the supposed friend who introduced them she said foluke used the information about the issues causing problems between the husband and wife to penetrate the man the major ones being dress issue and being out going

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    6. @inspector remi
      at your service o lol you are right i dont know her but from the information we have read so far the issues are clear i am not doubting the fact that she is a good wife.
      think about this as well speaking from the man's perspective..remember even though the man was womanising,he never displaced his wife for any of the girls he was going about with that speaks to me as someone who was craving for specifics which he didn't get at home,if notable men of GOD are seen in social gatherings is the woman holier than the likes of adeboye,kumuyi e.t.c

      you say she doesn't want to be seen in the midst of unbelievers that means she will be working socialising sleeping and waking up on the altar even that one will not prevent her being in the midst of sinners because even the church members are sinners

      what did the bible tell apostle paul when he was showing him a list of unclean animals?
      that its not what you eat and goes in your stomach that is unclean but your thought behaviour e.t.c its not about who she sits with at a gathering its about her that GOD ll judge if a pastor decides not to mix with unbelievers who is going to convert them to the right path?

      her stubborness stems from the fact that she was not ready to compromise with her husband on perfectly valid issues which they could have easily found a middle ground on.

      her stubborness stems from her moving out of the house,a christian woman and a proverbs 31 woman is more wiser…in the old testament i v forgotten that womans name what did she do to appease david when her husband pissed him off?

      did she consider her children and the impact or her own pride and anger when she took the decision?

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    7. @anon 12;48
      its obvious you are close to her but from my long epistle of a comment you ll see the reasons i believe she has a stubborn streak in her check above

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    8. @lucabracee.I totally agree with your view.im married to an intelligent woman[lawyer by profession].she is overweight after marriage,when i suggest workout/exercise to trim down,she gets angry.but when she complains about my own body-part,i work at it because of her & my marriage.Dressing is terrible when at home with me,she believe dressing well and beautiful is meant for outdoor only.when i complain about her rapper and looking beautiful at home,she also ignores me,and gets angry on my sincere advise.Bedmatic nko?that one na no go area,i saw hell before she could agree to improve&spice up our love life.imagine!!!An educated woman for dat matter

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    9. @lucabracee, bikooo,come and marry me oo, u be man wey sabi!

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  16. Boys will be boys

    Checkout how d 1950's hairdo are making massive comebacks here www.soladunn.blogspot.com

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  17. I respect this woman o, may God fight for her and her kids. Ahhh, God is on your side ma, just take care of your kids and God will continue to bless you abundantly in Jesus's name, amen

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  18. The woman is no eye candy truly but he saw this before marrying her. Greedy mofo that Kayode. He has opened eye now & wants to taste every woman that throws herself @ him.... Shameless man. Anyway, let God be the judge.... I must also add that even the hawtest, finest women get cheated on too so it's not about looks or appearance. Be always true to yourself.

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    1. So true, i had a Married bloke with plenty money chase me for years... his wife is so pretty but i was flattered by the attention he was giving me which my husband wasn't giving me as he was too busy going out and chasing women. I eventually told the guy to divert all the attention he was paying me to his wife and see if he wont get the best out of her. Then i went on my knees to talk to God about my own marriage...God has answered me ohhhh. I was tempted big time oh....

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    2. Good for you. U r a good woman and may ur marriage continue to improve IJN amen.

      OnPoint

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  19. This is what I call maturity!
    Let GOD continue to fight for you sister.

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  20. God will surely fight 4 u....ur faith is @ wrk.may God b wif u n d children.
    Foluke n u xpect hapinez wen ds woman is sad??kip drimin..kamal is a bitch.

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    1. What?!!! Kamal????

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    2. Kamal?????? LMAO

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    3. Afi kamal na, Sumonu nko? It's karma thank me later

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    4. hahah KAMAL KOR KAMILU NI

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      kamilu kompo lol

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  21. Well spoken, Maam.

    Don't start exchanging words back and forth with nonentities like Foluke and Kayode. Maintain your dignity.

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  22. Bukola,, the word of God says Be still and know that I am God.

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  23. May God defend here This right up is cool .... Check my blog out @ www.whispernaija.com

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  24. A man will always be a man, even if she dressed in revealing clothes or whatever, he will still be unfaithful to his wife. They, men, will always find an excuse for their infidelity. I like your response, Mrs Salako, very mature and in the Christian spirit. God is the ultimate judge, leave your fight for him and take care of your children. May the god Lord guide and guard you in the task if parenting. They will continue to be a source of pride and joy to you. Amen. As for your brother in law who is passing insults to you, ignore him, if the wall does not open, the lizard will not enter it. It shows how irresponsible your ex hubby is. A man who is does not respect his wife before his family members. An idiot and a buffoon. As for Foluke, aka madam cowbell, your cheap aristo ways from Ife days are still in you. Even, during your first marriage, you were still sleeping around, which ultimately ended that relationship. Kayode Salako is welcomed to you. Only that when he starts to see things for real about you, shame wil not let him speak out then. You really deserve each other!!! Finally, the almighty God is a good judge, leave your case before him, the battle is his, he will take care of you. Stay blessed.

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  25. I doubt whether ex mrs kayode will go back to that marriage again. Her feelings has been damaged yes because by her statement one can easily testify that.

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    1. happy yoruba bunny13 April, 2013 13:53

      my tot exactly, for me i wl not
      that guy is a jackass

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  26. I admire the woman for not pulling the man down, it is a rare attribute and may God be with her and the children.
    However, I am not by any means convinced that she took a good decision leaving her home. Her departure gave the devil all the opportunities to destroy what she has built. Once you are in a marriage, it must be fight to finish since the devil does not want you to succeed.
    Do I support the husband?? God forbid! He is so foolish I can't even find the right words to describe him. But then, he may be dancing to a music that is stronger than his muscles could resist.
    My prayer is for God to deliver the man and reconcile them..the devil can only try but the will of God must surely come to pass.

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    1. fight to finish even if dem wan kill u there?
      i sorry for u, she dd d most honorable thing
      dd u hear d confession of d lady of how many babalawos they visited to get d man?
      its only d living that can glorify God o, if u r gone thats it
      i'll rather be alive for my kids on my own than do i go die for one man house, then u die and he go stl waka, who get d loss? ur children and ur family now as d man don waka tey tey
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  27. eeeya so touching, I like her maturity and choice of words. Spoken like a true mother of kids.

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  28. This is so lady like Thumbs up to you madam

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  29. This is so lady like thumbs up to you madam

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  30. This is so lady like thumbs up to you madam

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  31. A man that wants to cheat will surely cheat. Even if your Brazilian hair touches your toe. People should also stop putting the blame on women, these married men are dogs, they chase anything in skirt. Were jatijati.

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    1. Women cheat more than men,if you dont agree do a survey.im a woman,into human behaviours reserch .We women cheats far!far! than men.

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  32. Am sure that despite all the bravado that Foluke displays, she has a conscience,and it will prick her once in a while. Bcos she is a human being, and the law of karma is ever busy to give to each what he or she deserves. Those in laws who are singing your praise, will be the first to cast the first stones, should u run into trouble with their broda, the foolish Kayode. As yorubas say 'igi da, eye fo'. Enjoy your moment with Kayode. Your home breaking ways are stil wit u. Efin ni iwa. For those are traits of those from wretched homes. Mrs Salako (the original) my prayers are wit you and your kids in these trying times. The almighty father will not leave you alone.

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  33. Am sure that despite all the bravado that Foluke displays, she has a conscience,and it will prick her once in a while. Bcos she is a human being, and the law of karma is ever busy to give to each what he or she deserves. Those in laws who are singing your praise, will be the first to cast the first stones, should u run into trouble with their broda, the foolish Kayode. As yorubas say 'igi da, eye fo'. Enjoy your moment with Kayode. Your home breaking ways are stil wit u. Efin ni iwa. For those are traits of those from wretched homes. Mrs Salako (the original) my prayers are wit you and your kids in these trying times. The almighty father will not leave you alone.

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  34. But only in this Nigeria people are not allowed to divorce or be legally separated. You all are so backward, why can't a man decide to leave a woman and re marry, and a woman vice versa o ga o. Pls check out the likes of Pastor Ighodalo, is Ibidun his first wife, why aren't they castigating Ibidun. Live and let live jor. You all call Foluke a home breaker, why did madam first wife allow her home be broken. BTW i love estranged wife's comment, very matured and godly.

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  35. Anonymoue 07:04 stop your generalization. All men do not cheat. If you are you, dont assume that your neigbour is like you. Get yourself purged of that misconception because all are not and can never be unfaithful to their wives.

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  36. This woman is really in denial. She is in big time denial. She reminds me of a class mate while in school who suddenly refused to study claiming it is God that will do the study for her. Really.
    No, you got to help yourself first, then God will then add to your struggle. Heaven they say helps those who help themselves.
    How can someone leaves a home she built with her own sweat for prostitutes to take over and now start claiming God is there to do the job for her. What job? You should have fought the prostitutes and while fighting you ask God for help. My sister, you should have stood your ground by your husband and fight for what was yours. As some blogger wrote here, it should have been fight to finish. You don't run from a fight and then start insinuating that God will fight for you. You gotta fight for yourself first and then God would have helped you save your marriage but I guess that is too late now.
    Also my sister, please take very good care of your next husband or else some other prostitute around the corner will snatch him from you. Learn how to respect a man' wishes. Satisfy him to the best of your ability as a wife. Where ever your next husband wants you to go with him, please go there. Changing personality in the middle of a marriage will do nothing but crash the marriage.
    Olu.

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    1. i tire o,even jacob in the bible contended with the angels for a whole night before he got the blessings,if it was that easy for GOD to just appear why did he allow his own son jesus christ to go through suffering and then being nailed to the cross?
      what the woman is practising is called lazy christianity

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    2. Really? Luca and Anon 18:51,are u guys for real? She should have stayed and fought for a man who was plaining going against God's law (Adultery) and fought for her a man who doesn't want her anymore?

      I don't even know what to say to u people..Is dat how u will stay with a woman who is clearly cheating on u and fight tooth and nail for her love? U guy don't even know what made her finally pack of the house,u just know she packed of the house..What sort of man will his wife and 3 kids pack of the house and he won't even look for them but tell a girlfriend to pack in? What sort of man is dat? U leave your own kids and now u are using your money to train another Man's kids..There must be a curse in that their Salako family (Awon alaru daale bi oko tipa)..

      Shebi na fasholamania money dem dey use chop small small,Fashola go soon go... Won a mu garri,ori won ma pa! Ati oun o ati Folake..

      Foluke,ask Nike Oshinowo,she will tell u about karma!

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    3. @anon
      a marriage is full of ups and downs,if a pastor who is in charge of marriage counselling cannot fight pray and content for her marriage tell me what testimony she will share with ordinary church members and young couples who come to her for marital advice?
      from what we read,the man appealed to her to come back home and emissaries were sent to her to settle with the man,if you remember foluke was interviewed where she initially denied being the cause of the break up and claiming not to have any romantic dalliance with the man why didn't the woman sort issues out with the man then?
      i have not heard her infer that the man was violent or that he molested the kids or that he has a child or children outside wedlock or is a ritualist anything else can be sorted out..
      have we not seen prominent pastors e.g. ighdalo,okotie and the former paramount head of cac and their marital issues? why did they opt for another wife going by your arguments
      personally i dont know the source of his money but again from accounts we read they brought their money from abroad o

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  37. Olu i guess same goes with the husband because the bible equally says that the man should love his wife and not be bitter towards her. When mr kayode's ex wife refused to go out with him, he should have forgiven her and put it in prayer. Good and christian men fight for their marriages also. Moving into adultery was very uncalled for. If he truely loved his ex, he wouldnt have started sleeping with another woman. Adultery is bed defiling. If the woman was the person doing it what do you think would have happened? The man is the head and should also be the gatherer and not the scatterer for that is the work of a leader. All men dont cheat . Her next husband maybe one of them. Cheating is a choice and disciplined men dont cheat.

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    1. God bless you for this comment. Why cant good Christian men fight for their marriages? Why is it only for the woman to do? Christian men, fight for your marriages too na

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  38. To Anonymous14 April, 2013 05:18 FROM Olu

    If you are the husband how many times times do you want to forgive a 'wife' who blatantly refused to play the role of a wife because of a shaky and shady religious believe? Can you answer that please. How many times do you want to forgive a wife whose trade mark is "i have headache" "I have stomach ache" I am fasting" I am menstruating" "It is ungodly" "I have backache" "I have toothache" "I have cramps" "Not tonight" "Not this afternoon" "Not this evening" "Not this morning" "We are going to wake up the children" " BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA" any time you want private moment with her. Haba, simple 'BJ' she no gree give, instead telling you to go and turn on the electric fan to blow your dick yourself.This same 'BJ' that u can get with the snap of your finger from any of the Nija's night-crawling-actresses both married and unmarried, if you have the money. This is too much for any man to take without looking outside. Even to go to some social function with the husband is ungodly and a sin. This woman's next husband[assuming she can get someone to make her a wife, which i doubt will happen here in Nija] will definitely cheat on her if she repeat the same mistake she made with the previous husband.
    This is nothing but the truth.The naked truth. Some women need to learn the art of being a wife.This woman is one of them. Being a wife is not just you being a conduit for procreation. It is and must be more than that if you don't want your marriage to be toast.You must be there for your husband body and soul.If you cannot, you should not be in the business of being a wife.
    I truly hope that this sister is learning from all these. And by the way, this is nothing personal coming from me.These are facts related to this ill fated marriage........
    Olu

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  39. Olu from what you posted , it seems as if sex should be the major reason why someone should get married. I know about a woman who is a sex maniac and the husband became tired of her excess demanding. Same can happen to a woman, when the husband becomes selfish and over demanding. When a wife complains of fatiqueness, a loving and understandable husband will definitely understand. When a man is sex starved , an understanding woman will equally understand. Mr kayode never mentioned being sex starved. He was only selfish and immoral. Thank God for my marriage councilor(a male) . So dont say that she made a mistake and that if she repeats it she will fall off again, yes, if she marries a man like you, she will definitely fall off again but if she marries an understandable and God fearing man, just like the one that counsels me, she will survive. All men are not the same. Sorry i cannot learn from you or what you have posted, i learn from the best.

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  40. From Olu to Anonymous 15 April, 2013 17:42
    Sex is the most important pillar on which any marriage stand. If your marriage counselor tell you other wise, you need to sack that rookie marriage counselor and employ me a real pro in marriage counseling . Just leave your contact email here. Most of our sisters don't know what marriage is all about. Any one who is a Nymphomaniac(sex maniac) need to seek help. We are not talking about sex maniacs here. if you are a sex maniac and you refuse to seek help, you will also destroy your marriage. There are help available all over Nigeria. If you don't know where to get help talk to your doctor first, and tell him or her to refer you to the real pros like me that will help you. So, dont be making dots or connection between pathological cases( nymphomaniacs) and Non-pathological cases like this case of our pastor-sister that refused to perform the role of a wife and thereby self annuling her own marriage and thereby allowing prostitutes to take over her own man.You wrote that ' when a man is sex starved, an understanding woman will understand' . So as a married woman, you need to sex starved your husband first before you understand that your husband' sexual need need to be satisfied by you? Is this what your marriage counselor told you? Well, my sister, by the time you sex starved your significant partner, he is already screwing somebody else somewhere. You seems to be one of the women who are married but do not know what marriage entails. You also wrote that' Mr Kayode never mentioned being sex starved'. This shows you have not been following this case attentively. All the cues are there. But you have not been picking them up because you don't know what it entails to be a wife. A man is telling you, shouting all over the Internet that his wife is not dressing to his liking, that his wife is not doing things to satisfy him, that whenever he ask his wife to do something that will turn him on, the wife will tell him, those things are ungodly i.e satanic, that the wife will not follow him to social gatherings and so on and so forth. Now the man went outside and started relationship with women who are known to be real pros in the art of 'BJ'. (Women who can give a horse, a 'BJ' and the horse will develop cardiac arrest as a result of excitement.)
    After this the wife moved out of her matrimonial home and the real pro moved in. The original wife started claiming God is doing the job for her.
    Despite all these, you are sitting down in front of computer, writing that the husband never complained of being sex starved. Haba. You really need to look for a real and properly trained marriage counsellor.
    Olu.

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  41. If no be for sex and companionship why do you think people marry each other? Don't tell me people marry for procreation because without sex there won't be procreation.

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  42. Olu you are entitled to your own opinion. God forbid that i should seek for a man with your type of opinion as my marriage councellor. Not in this life nor in the next one. Very chauvinistic. Mine has families that he consels and to the glory of God they are making it big time. Your opinion is not acceptable and God forbid, it can never be acceptable to me no matter how you paint it. Yes Mr. kayoda never mentioned being sex starved. You are just adding seasonings and spices to what the man mentioned just to give it another meaning. He was bored and needed to catch fun. He was merely seeking a solution for his boredeness but ended up following the wrong path. His wife's refusal was one of the ups and downs he faced but he choosed to get what he wanted by force instead of working it out with prayer and patience. That is selfishness. I know of a man who dose not last long on bed and has succeeded in driving his wife into another man's arm. I know of a man who doesnt make his wife feel adored and loved and that drove the wife into extra marital affairs. I equally know of a man whose manhood is small and that does not give the wife enough fun on bed thereby making her find another guy as an alternative. Adultery is bed defiling. No matter the type of issue faced in a marriage, partners should remain faithful and not to seek council outside christ. A discipline and God fearing man can never uphold nor engage in adultery. I guess this will be my last reply to you on this. Ten words for you in one sentence. "ALL MEN ARE NOT AND CAN NEVER BE THE SAME"

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  43. Olu you are entitled to your own opinion. God forbid that i should seek for a man with your type of opinion as my marriage councellor. Not in this life nor in the next one. Very chauvinistic. Mine has families that he consels and to the glory of God they are making it big time. Your opinion is not acceptable and God forbid, it can never be acceptable to me no matter how you paint it. Yes Mr. kayoda never mentioned being sex starved. You are just adding seasonings and spices to what the man mentioned just to give it another meaning. He was bored and needed to catch fun. He was merely seeking a solution for his boredeness but ended up following the wrong path. His wife's refusal was one of the ups and downs he faced but he choosed to get what he wanted by force instead of working it out with prayer and patience. That is selfishness. I know of a man who dose not last long on bed and has succeeded in driving his wife into another man's arm. I know of a man who doesnt make his wife feel adored and loved and that drove the wife into extra marital affairs. I equally know of a man whose manhood is small and that does not give the wife enough fun on bed thereby making her find another guy as an alternative. Adultery is bed defiling. No matter the type of issue faced in a marriage, partners should remain faithful and not to seek council outside christ. A discipline and God fearing man can never uphold nor engage in adultery. I guess this will be my last reply to you on this. Ten words for you in one sentence. "ALL MEN ARE NOT AND CAN NEVER BE THE SAME"

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