Friday, January 24, 2014

SAD! How Nigerian Men Have Been killing Their Nurse Wives In The Us

"Yes I have killed the woman that messed up my life; the woman that has destroyed me. I am at Shalom West. My name is David and I am all yours.” 

Those were David Ochola’s words during his 911 (U.S. Emergency Number) call to authorities after shooting dead his 28 years old wife, Priscilla Ochola, in Hennepin, Minnesota. The 50-years old husband was tired of being “disrespected” by his wife, a Registered Nurse (RN) whom he had brought from Nigeria and sponsored through nursing school only to have her make much more than him in salary - a situation which led to Mrs. Ochola “coming and going as she chose without regard for her husband.”  The couple had two children – four years old boy and a three years old girl. 


In Texas, Babajide Okeowo had been separated from his wife, Funke Okeowo, with whom he resided at their Dallas home.  Upon the divorce, the husband lost the house to his wife, along with most of the contents therein, as is usually the tradition in U.S. divorces where the couple still has underage children.  Mr. Okeowo, 48, divorced his wife because not long after she became a RN and made more money than him, she “took control” of the family finances and “controlled” her husband’s expenditure and movement.  The husband could no longer make any meaningful contribution to his family back in Nigeria unless the wife “approved” it. He could not go out without her permission. Frustrated that his formerly malleable wife had suddenly become such a “terror” to him to the point of asking for in court and getting virtually everything for which he had worked since coming to the US thirty years prior, the husband got in his vehicle and drove a few hundred miles to Dallas to settle the scores. He found her in her SUV, adorned in full Nigerian attire on her way to the birthday bash organized in her honor.  She had turned 46 on that day.  Mr. Okeowo fired several rounds into his wife’s torso while she sat at the steering wheel, mercilessly killing her in broad daylight.

Also in Dallas (they sure need anger management classes in Dallas), Moses Egharevba, 45, did not even bother to get a gun. The husband of Grace Egharevba, 35, bludgeoned her to death with a sledge hammer while their seven years old daughter watched and screamed for peace. Mrs. Egharevba’s “sin” was that she became a RN and started to make more money than her husband. This led to her “financial liberation” from a supposedly tight-fisted husband who had not only brought her from Nigeria, but had also funded her nursing school education.

Like Moses Egharevba, Christopher Ndubuisi of Garland, Texas, (these Texas people!) also did not bother to get a gun. He crept into the bedroom where his wife, Christiana, was sleeping and, with several blows of the sledge hammer, crushed her head. Two years before Christiana was killed, her mother, who had been visiting from Nigeria, was found dead in the bathtub under circumstances believed to be suspicious. Of course, Christiana was a RN whose income dwarfed that of her husband as soon as she graduated from nursing school. The husband believed that his role as a husband and head of the household had been usurped by his wife. Mr. Ndubuisi’s several entreaties to his wife’s family to intercede and bring Christiana back under his control had all failed.

If circumstances surrounding the death of Christiana’s mother were suspicious, those surrounding the death of a Tennessee woman’s mother were not. Agnes Nwodo, a RN, lived in squalor before her husband, Godfrey Nwodo, rescued her and brought her to the US. He enrolled her in nursing school right away. Upon qualifying as a RN, Mrs. Nwodo assumed “full control” of the household. She brought her mother to live with them against her husband’s wishes. Mrs. Nwodo quickly familiarized herself with US Family Laws and took full advantage of them. Each time the couple argued, the police forced the husband to leave the house whether he had a place to sleep or not. On many occasions, Mr. Nwodo spent days in police cells. Upon divorcing his wife, Mr. Nwodo lost to his wife the house he had owned for almost 20 years before he married her. He also lost custody of their three children to her, with the court awarding him only periodic visitation rights. Even seeing the children during visitation was always a hassle as the wife would “arrive late to the neutral meeting place and leave early with impunity.” Mr. Nwodo endured so many embarrassing moments from his wife and her mother until he could take it no more. One day, he bought himself a shotgun and killed both his wife and her mother.  

Caleb Onwudike’s wife, Chinyere Onwudike, 36, became a RN and no longer saw the need to be controlled by her husband. Mr. Onwudike, 41, worked two jobs to send his wife to her dream school upon bringing her to the US from Nigeria. After four years, she qualified as RN. Once she started to make more money than her husband, she began to “call the shots” at home.  She “overruled” her husband on the size and cost of the house they purchased in Burtonsville, Maryland. She began to build a house solely in her name in their native Umuahia town of Abia State, Nigeria, without her husband’s input whatsoever. Mrs. Onwudike came and went “as she liked,” within the US and outside the US. In fact, she once travelled to Nigeria for three weeks “without her husband’s permission” to lavishly bury her father despite her husband’s protestations that they had better things to do with the money. Mrs. Onwudike let her husband know that this was mostly her money and she would spend it however she wanted. Through her hard work, she had risen to a managerial position at the medical center where she worked. Upon her return from burying her father, her husband got one of her kitchen knives and carved her up like Thanksgiving turkey inside their home on New Year’s Day.

Death is death no matter how it comes. But the goriest of these maniacal killings is probably the one that happened here in Los Angeles, California. Joseph Mbu, 50, was tired of his RN wife’s “serial disrespect” of him.  The disrespect began as soon as she became a RN.  Gloria Mbu, 40, had once told her husband he must be “smoking crack cocaine” if he thought he could tell her what to do with her money now that she made more money than him. Before she became a RN, Mr. Mbu had been very strict with family finances and was borderline dictatorial in his dealings with Mrs. Mbu. However, Mrs. Mbu learned the American system and would no longer allow any man to “put her down.” When Joseph Mbu could not take it anymore, he subdued his wife one day, tied her to his vehicle and dragged her on paved roads all around Los Angeles until her head split in many pieces.


[Author’s note: Although these are true stories, all the names and some of the details of the incidents have been altered as a mark of respect to the families involved. All of the killer husbands noted in these stories were found guilty. Most of them received the death sentence. Only the California and Maryland culprits received life sentences without the possibility of parole.]

51 comments:

  1. lagos Is my home24 January, 2014 14:34

    Hummm this writeup is quite sad , the men must be suffering from deep inferiority complex although I knw some women mouth can push a man to d wall

    Nurses earn ok money , I won't say so great and there r not by an means d higher earner . IT, doctors and many other profession earn much higher

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    1. Dunce, that's not what the story is about. If $80000 is an okay salary for entry level.....so be it.

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    2. I totally agree with you. Nurses make on average $19-30 per hour which isn't a lot considering the cost of living here. These victims husband must have been making minimum wage for them to go haywire over their spouses earnings.

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    3. Lagos is my home24 January, 2014 16:55

      @15.40 , u r definitely d dunce. 80k entry level , keep dreaming .... Nurses r not paid that great except if that nurse is doing two jobs and working like a slave ... Salary information is public information so be quiet

      Btw what d big deal abt 80k , lots of graduate collect that range . Even entry level CRA collects that. Stay there in ur 10k job and think 80k is heaven on earth

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    4. Cost of living where? If you're not in CA, NY, HI, AK, and maybe a couple more states, then you are making more than a banker, some attorney and the salary should be more than enough for a family of four. Unless you are living way above your means like most Nigerians do......have a "Manson" here and there/ driving "JEEP" mentality.

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    5. Who told you nurses make more than lawyers? The thing about nursing is just the availability of Jobs for them, because Americans don't like doing it, they regard it as a service job that's all. They don't earn higher than any other graduate.

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  2. Hw true is d last story?

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    1. Possibly true but not 'all over' L.A.

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    2. D last story is very true. Happened some yrs ago. I personally know d woman's family. Her death was a shock to everyone. She had 3 or 4 daughters no male child and one of d daughters witnessed d killing. Her mum never recovered from d brutal killing of her daughter. Heard d husband is on drugs don't know hw true it is. May she continue to rest in peace

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  3. In the US, my wife makes more money than I do and never disrespected me. Very humble woman.

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    1. Some husbands, no amount of humbleness can subdue their lack of inferiority complex.

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    2. Thank God for ur wife...some women have dis stupid mentality dat wen dey start making money dey become uncontrollable..in d case of divorce without pre-nup d man loses everytin he had worked for even b4 taking d wife to d u.s dat could take d man over d edge.but these men too r very mean sha.very sad tales

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  4. Pathetic story

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  5. I have posted a warning on THATAFRICANCHICTHAT blogs site. Don't marry a man living in the U..S who is virtually an illiterate (many are) because you want to travel. It's not worth it and your freedom is your life. Don't be fooled by the fancy photos etc. Don't be desperate to NEED to marry, Many have fallen a statistic due to not heeding the warning signs. RUN.

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    1. So true. I am now a bit scare. But I can't limit my growth because of a man. I think the best is to encourage the man to grow along wt me cos I must earn those professional degree for this country. It's an opportunity of a lifetime.

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  6. God that gave men the superiority knows fully well that women will misuse their power as the head, a man that doesnt want to lose his superioty should be able to discharge his duties effectively, not making his woman in control of all his house affairs especially when it comes to financial issues.

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  7. They shouldnt have take laws into their arms, God would have vindicated them

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  8. I have a family like that in US,The husband is frustrated to the extend that he is ready to come and start all over in Nigeria, The moment these nigerian ladies get to US they become something else.
    I am not in support of those that killed thier wife ooo!

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    1. But the women a working to support the family while the husband sit at home and bi&ch. The husbands should also work long hours to support the family instead of killing the breadwinner.

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  9. this is so true my dad who had stayed in d US for about 30 years got married to a naija babe frm our village took her to d US were she became a nurse had 2 kids 4 my dad then they started having issues.she got police involved n my dad was asked to leave his house wich he bought worst still he didnt take a pin out of the house all he worked for was gone in a second he had to start frm scratch n he can only see the kids wit her permission.wont dis make any man go crazy,now my dad gets sick every now n then tests show nothing is wrong but panic attacks its crazy wat naija nurses turn to when they get dere.now i praise my dad for not doing anything drastic

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    1. Can your daddy still work? He should get a job and forget the woman. His health should come first.

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    2. Your dad was probably ill treating d lady, thinking that becos he brought her from the village he could subdue her. A lot of men do that nd that's y they always go back home to marry someone naive. But of course, once these ones tear eyes, ot becomes another matter

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  10. Something else was their intentions, the reasons given by them are not genuine

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  11. This write up is an old one maybe more than 5 years now because I first read it in 2009. In any case, most illiterate ladies brought to the US by their husband are like that once they can do ordinary LPN, they feel they are on top of the world and I don't blame them because before they left Nigeria they can't boast of earning 5000 naira in a month but now make up to 4000 dollars every month their feeling is always " emi ni mo toyi" ( Na me reach this level!!!). It is just so pathetic

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  12. I can testify to one out of the stories, ladun is sure getting real fact before posting

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  13. Very pathetic! I can feel the frustrations of the concern husband bt killing shudnt be the last option. As for the high-handed nurses still living and oppressing their hubbies I guess they shud learn frm this. Is only a few men who can accept to compromise the control of their home. Zionzukki.

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    1. Woman should not live in fear of a man that cannot provide for his family. Husbands should be supportive and find ways to help around the house while the woman is working to put a roof over their heads and food on the table. It's time for men to stop the complaint/killing and grow some balls.

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  14. What a world, husbands killing mother of their children for no good reason

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  15. All these story can make a good script for nollywoood

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  16. Welcome to the world of Nigerian marriages abroad. It's not just RN wives even though they are more notorious with asserting too much authority after their blue passport comes in. It's very appalling, I tell ya. Many yankee pple need marriage therapy. The taxi driver rn drama doesn't end ooo.

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  17. Stupid animals, oyinbos are very truthful in their dealings, it is direct judgement not nigeria that guilty people go scot free.

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  18. This story sounds like the writer is blaming the women, almost like they got what they deserved because they demanded by right what is theirs! this Nigerian men come to Nigeria to get a part time sex slave, mother and housegirl, and when the girl realises she has rights , he is upset and decides to kill her? If it were the men making more money, all the 'calling the shots' and being ' overruled' is considered normal abi? Rubbish!

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    1. Exactly, my question is y couldn't these illiterates better themselves rather than 'sending the woman to read nursing' as they all clam, mtchw!

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  19. Ladun

    I worked with David's wife at Sholom home west in saint Louis park MN. I also happened to have worked on that day. It was a very sad day. Long story short, she did not deserve to die.
    This story always melts my heart not only because I was there but also because I come from the same place with them. #peace#

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  20. If am any of their chidren i will cause them to eternal

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  21. All the men mentioned were Igbo :(
    Nna's why now?
    What about the children, oh the poor innocent children.

    Wow, men really value their respect huh?

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  22. This is pretty sad. Stuffs like these really happens. The most annoying one is the HHAs that think they are gods! most of them make $8-$15/hr and think they are all that! The truth of the matter is most of them work 2-4 jobs with crazy hours (to get overtime rate which is typically $12-$22.50). They rarely have time for their family, They buy expensive stuffs for parties and can't even rock the things well because they only have a few minutes to spare for the party. My question is why buy all these things if you can't enjoy them? most of they you see in naija in December "blowing" money like say 2moro no dey not knowing they have been slaving in the US to floss in naija!
    This is not to say some of the men don't have their excesses but some of these women can be very RUDE! God help us all. Men please stop killing your wives oo...like akata ppl they talk am....DOn"T DO IT! YOU DO NOT WANT TO GO TO JAIL FOR NOBODY!
    You need to stay alive and free for your sake and that of your children,family and friends

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    1. Really! Lol I started with being an hha. Cut it off and stop generalising. Agreed,some have personality problems esp those in d health field. I never worked crazy hours and I don't joke with seeing movies in theaters and travellling to at leat 3states within the US every year!

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  23. what can i say? different strokes for different folks. its a pity.

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  24. my brothers wife in Us is worse but God has made my bro strong. the lady is a big shit.

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  25. No matter how much money a woman makes it shouldn't give her any reason to disrespect her husband, the truth is a lot of women come to the US and wana borrow the life of the so called AKATAS, ask a lot of them how they feel about not being married or under a mans roof and if they are honest enough they will tell u how terrible they feel, the problem is America's system is too free with women having greater power in a family, which is against the biblical rules of men being the head of the family, it's a very difficult situation but not enough to kill this women in question...money is an important part in the day to day activities of a family and it needs to be handled with a lot care. Enough said

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  26. We have them in Naija here, lazy men. My sister,s husband hasn't contributed 1naira to their kids upkeep,now the kids are grown, made cool cash , bought cars and. House for their mother, the stupid lazy man is crying blue murder,men shld learn to appreciate their wives. Success, afterall they aint in any competition wt d wives

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  27. Most men. Now want their wives. To run the home while they laze abt, and p d same time want respect. Thank god is US they comitted d offences, if its nig, the cases wud have been swept under d carpet.

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  28. most of the comments here are rather vindictive and silly most African women who migrates to the west are atimes delusional and rude whenever they earn more money than their spouse which of you women here would pray for her son to work his butt off bring a lady down married her was there for her while she studied paid the bills etc... then loose all his dignity ,money ,property , kids etc...just because the woman got a high paying job she then forgets her role as a wife and a mother? she forgets quickly how the man's. previous help in bringing her down and creating that opportunity for her -atimes some men do not even help their wives to achieve that a man that even does it really loves his wife therefore the woman has to be grateful as well not just over a fight she decides to break him and the greedily take it all . i do not condone the man who beats his wife and become lazy deciding to leave the whole responsibilities of the house in the womans shoulders because she earns more such men also deserve such disaster coming to them there is a law as well which protects men who fall into such situation the woman might be asked to pay back because she earns more etc...depending the man was doing his responsibilities right it is sad for this deaths but the comments here should also serve as an advice to such women who are greedy and want to have it all

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  29. Most time d reason y Some women change whn their income is higher than their spouses own. Or Independent is Bc of d previous way their partner treated them. Myself for example, b4 i got a gud job, for me to get money from My husband i Must explain convincingly to make My Haìr even to buy Pant yet i KNOW hè has more than enough to spare. He derives pleasure in makin me feel lïke a housemaid rather than his partner. He wull always shout its My money so u must ecplain to me IF u deserve this money ur asking for. So whn i got a job n things werent so gud for him, anytime he wants financial asistance frm me, i wil make sure he explains IF he deserves d said money. Now he feels ám disrespecting him. Bottomline treat ur partner with Love n as ur partner in everything he or she will never change when d table turns.

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  30. It is only a man with inferiority complex that would behave like this,aithough we women A̶̲̥̅̊я̲̣̥ε̲̣̣̣̥ also to blame bcos Ω̴̩̩̩̥☺ matter the amount u A̶̲̥̅̊я̲̣̥ε̲̣̣̣̥ making,a man is still the head of the house.

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  31. How sad.The men could go to nursing school too.It is also interesting how Nigerian men who are married to Americans (black or white), get disrepected,etc without any complaints or killing.

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  32. Believe me nigerian men disrespect american women.....just as much as african women...I have seen it it,up,close.......most american women just don't tolerate like african women do.....that's why a lot of Africans marry from home..so they can have life in house girls.

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