Thursday, March 20, 2014

Reader’s Mail: Is It Right For My Wife To Deny Me S*x?

Eyah, this mail just came in now and it’s unedited.

Dear Ladun, I am a daily reader of your blog and I would appreciate if you publish my question.  My wife became the bread winner of my family ever since I lost my job. Though I have been battling with my self-esteem, is it right for her to deny me s*x?


49 comments:

  1. I think this is an half ass story.... You are probably not doing something right. It is difficult to gauge whether she is denying you because of the fact that you don't have a job....It could be that you are not doing somethings right... Think back... She may have given up on you and the relationship... She may have tried to get your attention---you would have labelled it 'nagging'. As women, when we are tired... and have given up...you will notice bros...especially in the bedroom..

    Mayowa

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    1. " could be that you are not doing somethings right"....even you sound so unsure...so y talk plenty....

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    2. I am not sure bro...because I am not the one in the story. We can only speculate.. You dig? The only two sure people are the two involved..


      Mayowa

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    3. D poor woman goes out to look for d bread u said she provides for d family, comes bak tired,she cooks d meals , takes care of d kids, nd when she wants to get a good nite rest, u bring ur yeye dick to sleep with her, is she ur slave? Answer cos am really angry @ u, ur mates are out there looking for way to take care of their homes, all u do is be a regular blog visitors. Ur mama for don abort u. U no get money ur prick dey rise, FOOL

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    4. @ anon 11:58 you are so spot on! Rotfl

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    5. @ anon 11:58 you are so spot on! Rotfl

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  2. Are you sure it is just because of that

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  3. No matter what your wife shouldn't have denied you of sex

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    1. never ever fool yourself about that.......so u think it must be automatic abi? you treat ur wife anyhow during the day and then she will just open her leg anyhow? it never works that way.....sex is not to be forced but done with love and if u cant treat her right she will not willingly give u her body......so dont get it twisted there is nothing like no matter what

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  4. YES GET OVER IT.
    SHE DOESN'T WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU.big deal she's probably tired from work and does she need to sleep with you everyday get over yourself.quit whining and put your energy into finding a job instead of whining.

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  5. You cannot provide for her and you want sex!??? See your mouth!!!

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  6. Probably not sex is the matter now.........but that couldn't stand to be a reason. She thought.. For better loving & Sex.! change the way things are walking down to you... And one of this days she will give it to you easily...


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  7. She should call herself to order! If the reason is for such denial is not justified. Or does she has something to hide?

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    1. See English ontop this matter. O ga o

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  8. There are many reasons why she might deny you sex: 1. U are lazy and also does not help in the chores so she works to bring money, does house chores and takes care of the children. You will be very mad to ask for sex after ALL these stress of the day. 2. U want sex whether she is in the mood or not, U don't take time to touch her or make her feel loved before sex. Besides u see it as sex not love making, hmmm.
    You need to get a business, job, anything legal to do urgently because everything she does now you will attribute to her being the breadwinner, so get off your lazy ass and go find something legal to help your home. She maybe feeling cheated especially if she feels you are not doing enough to help out and still wants sex, Abeg u need to be a man to get your position on her bed, don't overwork her and expect miracle, nonsense.

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    1. What a stupid comment! Which man in his right senses wouldn't work wen he has a family? A man provides for u for 10yrs hits rock bottom, u stand in d gap for a while and starts complaining??? We get plenty bad women for this world ooo!! Do u knw if the man in question also went for the immigration exercise?? Thank God for the kinda mama he gave me! The heart of a woman! So sad

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    2. anonymous 15:07 shut your stupid arse, lowlife, mouth up......how dare u? are you not aware that alot of men now take the piss cos their wives bring in money too......i see alot of men who even if they work refuse to provide for their families cos they know madam will not sit back and watch their children suffer.....your mama is bad dont mean other women as as bad as she is....this guy has not told us the full story and u expect us to sympathize with him? how long has he lost his job? what does he do to help her at home? before a woman denies the man she loves sex something must be wrong..stupid chauvinistic male pig

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  9. It is soooo wrong#okbye

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  10. U be mumu oh.if she deny u sex then talk to her that u might go get it out side if she continue denying u fuck and if she still don't give u sex then go out there and get your self a babe to fuck jor body no be firewood.u may even be surprise that she is fucking some other guy out side that makes her not wanting to sleep with u her own husband.she get luck sey no be person like me she jam,i for show her pepper sotey life go tire her.nonsence

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    1. U are retarded, animal oshi...

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    2. lol....with his broke arse dick who will have his time.....stupid poster wey never talk all the tory finish

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  11. It is not right, she should no DAT no condition is parmanent..

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  12. WELL SOME TIMES SHE MAY BE TIRED OR STRESSED.. BUT AT THE SAME TIME HAVE NO RYT TO DENY U SEX. I HAVE NEVER DENIED MY HUBBY SEX NO MATTER HOW TIRED I AM.. I MAKE OUT STRENGHT FOR HIM...NO SHE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO DENY U SEX NO MATTER WHAT ONLY IF SHE IS ON HER MONTHLY CYCLE..

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    1. U must be a full time housewife. So wen u come bk from work so tired u husband doesn't understand dat? Or wen u are not feeling fine. Ur comment shows u are jobless

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    2. Even fulltime housewife sef! No be beans to look after a home and children. Cook, clean, school runs, homework etc. Finding energy for sex after all that dey hard o!

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    3. Even fulltime housewife sef! No be beans to look after a home and children. Cook, clean, school runs, homework etc. Finding energy for sex after all that dey hard o!

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    1. See this mumu o. U sabi read so?? Ur vision is the one on celibate here

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  14. Not right..dat is if u were a good husband wen u had ur job(u took care of d family in d best of ur ability)...cos som men will hv money,dey can't spend on deir wife or family nd dese happn 2 b d type of men dat want 2 b worshiped by deir wifes,ow now?she can neva respect u!cos u hv gat notin on her!den God con catch u,u con cucu lost d job,its all over bobo,notin 4 u!!

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  15. Well there, I will tell you the truth. She married you because you had a good job. She never married you because she loved you period. I would advice you to live by it if you already have kids just for their sake and do your own thing but as for sex, esteem and love ha ha ha ha ha......, it is only a woman who have natural love for her hubby....... More especially in your own condition that she is now the bread winner. All the best.

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  16. Yea she has every right to do that since you are not doing your duties has the man of the house

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  17. Hmmm... I no blame her so far she don day do her hubby's responsibility.. I think she need to deny sex.. @mr_mills

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  18. Go look for job and stop asking silly question

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    1. Lwkmd.. abi na. Person wey no get job no suppose get hard on sef. Ko'sowo = k'osobo.

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    2. Lwkmd! I don die of laughter o.

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  19. No if she has the fear of God

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  20. God's special child20 March, 2014 11:02

    Most women are not sexually attracted to a man who cannot provide for them. However, since you are married, its very silly of her to deny you sex. She is being immature. I believe your marriage vows are "for better for worse....."

    Please, whether you have a job or not, you are still the man and the head of the home, so try and get busy. If a 9-5 job is not forthcoming, just find something to do. Some men start flexing muscles when they are unemployed so as to save their pride and this only worsens the situation. Try and be loving and gentle with her. If you come home early, try and help with the kids/housechores - it can never make you less of a man but will show that you are considerate and loving...she will loosen up.

    You can also have a chat with marriage counsellors/pastor.

    May God help you.

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    1. I second u on dat line'most women r not sextually attracted 2 a man dat cannot provide 4 dem...I personally cannot!expecially wen it's evident dat he has nd can't giv,dats d height!

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    2. madam marriage counsellor so she is immature when you dont know the full picture of how the man treats her........so cos u think couples should not deny each other sex then under any circumstance sex must happen.......it is your type who advise women to stay in abusive relationship cos na dia fault without looking at all the details and cautioning the man....

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  21. its not right. shes trying to pass a message," you dont work and yet she comes back from work and you wants sex off a tired woman" believe me its annoying! buh it wont be annoying if she comes back home and you surprise her with a home made meal, sit her down and talk to her like a gentleman, make her happy and she will make you happy in bed. i think you should act like a man go out there and get a a job at least she would see you tried to and its not a must you work for someone, you could go into business may God bless the work of you hands.

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  22. DO WORDS REALLY HURT?

    Just this morning I heard my kids talking to each other. My daughter was like; if you like say anything to me,abuse me if you like it won't stick on me but just make sure you don't hit me with that your ruler. Then Few minutes later she ran to my Room with tears in her eyes and was like;mummy mummy mummy can u imagine what joel said to me?...

    And immediately I remembered school days.
    Can you remember,back then in school,In elementary school, you would say "Sticks and stones can hurt, but words can never hurt me."

    But Is it really true that Sticks and stones can break our bones, but words can never hurt us?


    I've discovered words do MORE than break your bones. They break your heart.

    Imagine couples Having issues and the husband is like;she said this and she said that to me,I looked at her and for the first time in our marriage I HATED her."


    Its so amazing how a few words From you to your spouse can change everything?

    what have you said that has been hurtful? What has your spouse said to you that broke your heart or damaged your relationship?

    In frustration or in anger, people say the dumbest things and use the most horrible language. Even if you or your spouse didn't mean to say it, once it's said, the damage is done. Hmmmm....

    Is it that we don't know when we say these horrible things?please answer oo?. because after saying those horrible things, You desperately want to get the words back. The bad thing is,we can't get them back,because they've been blown in every direction. hurtful words are irretrievable. It took me a looong time to know this.

    It's so important for spouses to learn to control themselves and watch what they say. especially when kids are involved.

    You see, there's actually a MARITAL reason why you have 2 ears and only 1 mouth. It's because you're supposed to LISTEN twice as much as you talk. Just imagine how different your marriage would be if you and your spouse did that.

    "You may say,Eno,but I was just being HONEST."

    Well,People think they can say just anything in the name of honesty. I used to think that way too. But the truth Is when you hurt someone with your words, it's not honest; it's stupid! And it's insensitive! Believe me.

    Be Conscious of the things you say when you are angry. the truth is, you and your spouse will definitely reconcile and you'd wish you didn't say all that you said in anger.

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  23. talk to @Leke_Alder on twitter....just follow him nd talk with him nd he's just the best

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  24. its not right oooooo.

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  25. you have not told us the full story, lame ass men always blaming women for their nonsense.....most men become unneccesarily sensitive when they have no money....they just begin to magnify any little thing, so unless you give us the full details we cannot help you....if u have problems with ur wife go and discuss with her and sort it out.....you are a man stop looking for public sympathy....

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  26. poster you have not told us the truth of what happens in your home....I know alot of men who dont have jobs and still have good relationships with there wifes.....if she is not sleeping with u check yourself and talk with her....most men are annoyingly sensitive when they have no jobs....keep your ego in your pocket, she is not the cause of your joblessness.....

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