Saturday, April 5, 2014

Aww This Will Make You Love Ex-Vice President A. Abubakar As He Explains Why His Son Will Be Having A Dubai Wedding

I just like the fact that he is trying to make his life an open book, lol. But seriously, this will make you love him more. Btw, congrats Abba. His words;

Sometime in January, I was in London on business, and my children quickly arranged a trip to the Emirates Stadium for me. It was to emerge later that it was not a hastily arranged event, but a well planned outing, put together by children of a businessman and politician.

It turned out that my son, Abba, who was appointed to be my escort to the event, was the primary reason why the event was set up in the first place. Abba had a major announcement to make, and it was that while he was away fro home in America, he had found a lady he loved, and would love to bring her home as wife. I thought that was great news.


But on our way home, Abba subtly mentioned that they would like to get married as soon as possible, and that he and his fiancee would like a rather small wedding. At that point, I began to realize why I had been taken to the match, and smiled.

Parenting in the age of democracy is not easy. In my time, I remember that even as a strong willed child without a father figure, my mother, Kande, would put her foot down whenever she needed something to be done, and no child could argue with Kande when she had put her foot down. But in my time, we had learned to allow our children have a say in decision making, especially those which concerned them. It’s what I have termed democratic parenting.

Education, for example, is where my children tend to have a 70% say in where they wanted to go. Some choose to study in Nigeria, and some went abroad. But even when they went abroad, it was mostly to Europe. But Abba decided he was going to America, and he came back with an intelligent, beautiful American lady, whom I have already accepted as a daughter.

But Abba was yet to reveal his hand. It was when we were discussing wedding logistics, when he mentioned that his wife’s family wanted to hold the wedding in Dubai! I could smell an ambush coming, and the Nigerian parent in me was ready to argue.

“But Abba, you know I’m a Nigerian. We like doing these things at home…”

“But dad, you know the wife’s family decides these marriage things”

“I see. But does your wife agree to this?”

“My wife loves it! She is completely in love with the plans”

“Oh, I see…” At that moment, I realized that my children had known I would prefer to host the marriage in Nigeria and had come up with, and knowing that I wouldn’t have a choice, since the wife’s family usually decides wedding plans, found a way to ambush any resistance I could have raised. It was a well executed plan, and I could see that there was no way I could argue. Of course no man would want to argue with his new in-laws at the first turn.

So I went back and put together a counter strategy. The next morning, I called Abba and told him I agree with the entire plan. We can hold a wedding in Dubai, and I will attend with my family. I could see a smile of satisfaction spread across his face, an unspoken “we’ve got the old man.” I played along and discussed the plan with him in detail.

As we finished, and Abba was about the leave the room, I mentioned in an offhanded tone “Oh, Abba, I think after the wedding in Dubai, it would be good for your people in Jada to welcome your new wife to Nigeria. What do you think?”

Inside my heart, I smiled. Just like they had me a day earlier, I had had him too. He could not argue that it wasn’t proper for his extended family and town to meet his new wife. Of course he knew that would be the event where all my family, friends and associates will be invited.


The Nigerian parent in me smiled. Even in the age of family democracy, we have learned to adapt. So all family and friends are welcome to Jada, to witness the marriage reception of my son, and his beautiful wife.

44 comments:

  1. Whoa lovely. Am happy for him because his close to his children tan others politicians like him..

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    1. Politicians, good ones like him never misses an opportunity to score some points. Its what they live for. How wish he is really this interesting but this is the opposite of the man we knew from !999 to 2005. Guess his gbege with Obj humbled him.

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    2. Kanayochukwu u r right

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    3. You are right kanayochukwu

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  2. Oh please trying too hard!
    still don't like you sir

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    1. he is trying too much ...eww07 April, 2014 00:40

      i like you anonymous
      and i still don't like that man too

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  3. Ladun you are very foolish

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    1. And you are a bustard, a bloody shit-smeared gutter breed moron. Your entired family plus your great grand parents are foolish. Bloody bustard, you think you have mouth right? What nonsense would make you call ladun foolish, did she beg you to come and read her blog? Olori buruku omo ale, omo radarada oshi... idiot.

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  4. Abeg too long to read. Someone should brief me his point.

    CeeCee

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    1. Nawa o... your likes makes one sad for this generation. If your predecessors did not read do you think they would be anything like Internet now? Shior.
      As for Mr Atiku yes nice parental style. We hear you but what is the information for now? All 2015 agenda abi? God is watch our good and bad deeds in 3D.

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  5. So Lovely Sir. But hope not 2015 tactics?

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  6. I really love this as it gives a deep insight on what kind of a father He is.

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  7. Dats great.....m new on BBM-28517CFB

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  8. @Ladun thank God u said "trying" to make his life an open book in quote. We all kno these things are politically motivated. BTW I love his concept of Democratic Parenting, allowing yr children hv a say in decision making esp on things dt concerns them. If only many Nigerian parents would learn 4rm dt!
















    *drinks fura da nono

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  9. Our money eeeeh . DERA MI

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  10. You Have Been Paid To Be His publicist right ? Because I don't see anything special in this write up, later you will say Nigeria is corrupt ! Rubbish

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  11. Now this is really sounding like publicity. We don't need these details of family coups and counter coups.

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  12. Yawnnnnnsssss

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  13. im begining to like this man

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  14. What I find disturbing about our Ex VP Atiku is his insincerity of purpose and DECEIT.

    Yes, most of our leaders if not all, are deceitful but Alhaji Atiku' own is among the "mothers of all deceit"

    And also, he does not stand for anything.
    He is always vomiting and swallowing his vomits/vomitus.

    His picture above even gives a glimpse of who he is.

    He is displaying a wedding ring on his left ring finger, yet he has multiple wives.
    Only God knows what sort of message he is trying to pass to people who are not aware that he is a serial polygamist with wives scattered all over the corners of the world.

    The British government under Tony Blair branded our ex VP Atiku as being MORBIDLY CORRUPT.
    Why would they do that if he is not entirely corrupt?

    There is an allegation that the USA government is waiting to put him in jail any time he set foot on US soil for bribery and corruption. He denied this and people challenged him to come to USA and see if he would not be arrested at the airport/on the spot.

    He refused to take up the challenge and come to USA. So what is that telling all of us?

    I wish leaders like Ex VP Atiku can just retire permanently for honest young Nigerians to take the mantle of leadership in our country.

    Leaders like Ex VP Atiku are stinkingly rich at the expense of poor masses of our people. So, what more do they need?

    olu@atlanta.




    What we need in Nigeria are leaders who can and will stand for what ever they believe.
    Leaders with sincerity of purpose.
    Leaders with no born-to-rule mentality.
    Leaders who are not looters.

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    1. SHUT UP! Sick nasty individual..let dem put u on seat nd lets see wat u wud do if nt worse

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    2. To Anonymous 06 April, 2014 11:53

      You are asking me to shut up. You also claimed I am nasty and sick. Ok, no problem.

      Can you indicate what is not true in what I wrote above about former VP Atiku that is making you upset?

      Is it a lie that he is here displaying a wedding ring on his left ring finger while he is a serial polygamist with multiple wives?

      Is it a lie that the former British government under Tony Blair branded him MORBIDLY CORRUPT?

      Is it a lie that he has not been in the USA now for some years because of bribery and corruption charges on his head?

      Please indicate which one of the above that is false about our former VP Atiku.

      I am patiently waiting like a vulture because a lot of people want to know if olu is truly a liar and hater.

      The truth, they say set people free.
      The truth, they say is also bitter and unpalatable. So, because of this I am forgiving you for the assassination of my character.

      olu@atlanta.

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    3. exactlyyyyy!!!! he is such a deceitful individual

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    4. @Olu very well said
      all these poli-thiefians suppose that Nigerians have temporary amnesia, they forget say na our parents generation dey easily forget.
      as for Atiku, he is leveraging his new found love (the internet) for his political ambition I cannot fault him for that however his past sins will forever haunt him, morbidly corrupt is an understatement!

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  15. A harsh or dictator is far better than a leader or president with no agenda . Its like avn a moron rule us,such i will say abt Jonathan. 2015 or 2015,atiku is quite an intelligent man who was never given the chance to prove his worth while he was in power. I'm really feeling him,i pray he runs for presidency come 2015, sure will av my vote n support rather than vote for a dummy

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  16. Publicity stunt. Nonsense!

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  17. Genevieves boyfriend!

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    1. Lmao....Wetin bring that gist inside this matter now?
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  18. Bullshit talk...who u dey deceive?? A whole one-time Vice President. When you no fix your country well, how can you be proud of it??? What goes round comes around. Complete BULLSHIT Sir. Give us another one!!!

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  19. Couldn't finish reading it sha, it was quite long
    pls visit www.blogsvila.blogspot.com

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  20. We love you atiku

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  21. If u go to his twitter handle and read his gist with his kids u will know hes a wonderful father. Great dad but not so great a politician.

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    1. he writes what he wants you too read....kmt

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  22. You are still a thief sir, where did u get all ur billions from since u were a public servant all ur life. to hell with u and ur dubai wedding. such cheap point to make. i wonder what our business is wit ur sons wedding . what positive change have u done to dis nation than to milk it. may Karma catch up with u. oniranu okunrin, ewu, anofia, iskenji. shameless bigot.

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  23. This is a pure deceit coming from a highly corrupt and unrepentant thief.The the truth is simple,The wedding was moved to dubai because Attiku cannot attend the wedding in the US due to the case of corruption hanging on his neck.Who is he trying to deceive ?

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  24. So many comments filled wif bitterness...tell me if you wea to be given a day or a week in politics u wont steal every cent naija has...smh...pretenders..over d days I ve come to like atiku abeg...die wif bitterness in ur heart...smh

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    1. Pls speak for yourself. Opps ur corrupt mind did that already

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  25. Lies! Lies!! Lies!!! The wedding was moved to Dubai because of Atiku, he dares not step his feet on American soil so he is quickly trying to cover it up before the media will starting talking about it, this man and his deceit sha. Issorai.

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    1. Very true. since he cannot set foot in America. Dubai is most convenient. Now he's spewing bullshit. Step foot inamerica let's see.

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