Saturday, May 31, 2014

Churches Should Not Condone Abusive Men- Funmi Iyanda

Funmi Iyanda has expressed her opinion on men who beat their women, saying they should be excommunicated from churches. She also gave ladies few rules and made them understand they are the captain of their own ship.

“No family/church/institution should encourage a daughter to return to an abusive relationship/marriage. If you touch my child, l will kill you.

‘Girls, rule 1. There are no princes anywhere waiting to rescue you. You own and owe you; not him or anyone else. Leave at first slap. Continue after the cut.


“Churches, if not so concerned with the bottom line of patronage would excommunicate abusive men or women,’’ she said.

Funmi got upset and made those statements when a Twitter user with the handle @Moe narrated how a man almost took the life of his wife who is nursing a baby and how her efforts to separate them was fruitless.

Here is how Moe explained what she witnessed;

“My hands are shaking. I have never seen a woman being beaten like that in my entire life. I have never. I was driving when I noticed strange movements inside a car that was driving in front of me. Before it stopped so abruptly, I noticed weird movements in the driver and front passenger seats.

I wasn’t wearing my glasses. As the car stopped, I came down (from) my car to holler. Next thing I saw clearly. The man (driver) was punching the passenger so hard. He was beating her so ferociously. All windows were up. There was a baby in a baby car seat behind. I kept hitting the windows, at last the man rolled down. At this time I was so furious.

“‘How dare you beat a woman like that?’ was all I kept saying. The man replied ‘I am not a mad man that I will just be beating her for no reason; ask her what she did. See my shirt. She tore it.’

“I went to the passenger’s side, opened the door and asked the woman to come down. She said ‘I do not have anywhere else to go.’ She sat there in the car, the man kept beating her. As he was beating her, he kept screaming ‘How many times? How many times?’


“I kept begging the woman to come down. She just closed the door and rolled up and he kept beating her. I kept hitting the car. Then, they drove off. I don’t even know how to react. I am still on that spot, trying to make sense of what I just experienced.” 

42 comments:

  1. I believe some women just love the beating cos why wud she wind up d glass and continue receiving d beating. Rubbish and nonsence mtchewwwwww

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    1. Nice one, from her. DERA MI

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    2. The truth is most of these women see this madness in the man and they still go ahead to marry him, some have friends and families who have warned them squarely about going into an abusive relationship but they do not heed.
      So when the woman said she had no where to go, she probably is not telling a lie as the people she would have run to are probably done and cant be bothered again and moreover she herself can not reach out to anyone out of shame.

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  2. True talk..i agree with you..nice one





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  3. Was that why you left Segun Odegbami?

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    1. Olodo! Was she ever married to Segun Odegbami? They only av a daughter together.

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    2. And that's all you could take out of this message.you are obviously a very sad person

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    3. I tire oooo she was never married to him

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  4. Dats y she's not married,

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    1. Who is this DUNCE

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    2. Thank you o! Help me ask the ignoramus.

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    3. Some of you love to yawn shit sha smh

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  5. dis anon10:07 no get sense oo. she is sayin smtin serious n u are askin stupid question. are u for real?

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  6. dis anon 10:07 no get sense ooo. she sayin smtin serious n u are askin her stupid question. are u for real? ppl lik una na dey batter women. oni ra nu

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  7. We women should learn to hold our place in a marriage/relationship & @ the same time be productive for our own sake...dnt let What a man has control you, work & make your life better

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  8. ......she would now end it up with hot sex, get pregnant and the story continues. Ekwensu!!!!

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  9. Amebo business centre

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  10. Guess Segun acted that way

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  11. Funmi is such a beauty to behold.. I wanna be like you when I grow up mama, you are too cute!!!

    Lee

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  12. Women are really suffering

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  13. Why do women stay in abusive relationships? Click my name to read more and share your thoughts

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  14. Why do women stay in abusive relationships? Click my name to read more and share your thoughts.

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    1. You liar you always have a word or two to say about trending issues. Big liar

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  15. Carry go Funmi

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  16. Personally i see this domestic violence (all forms of it) as a disease!
    I just wonder why the major victims of this disease usually do not ask themselves pertinent questions like
    1. Whats causes it?
    2. What are the predisposing factors
    3. Can it be prevented?
    4. Do I (the victim) have a role to play: could i have caused it, could i have instigated or propagated it?couldd i have prevented it, if i time travel back to when the problem started will i do anything differently?
    5. Can i recognize an individual likely to carry out this terrible act.

    Show me a woman who has given these deep thought facing facts & ignoring sentiments and i ll show you a woman who ll never be a victim of domestic violence!

    Again people why is it usually women from dysfunctional relationships (divorcees, single mothers, bitterness from heart break(s) ) that give this advice?

    Na my own 2cents

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    1. Number 4. I don't agree that a woman can cause domestic violence. No matter what a woman does to a man, he shouldn't hit her. He should simply walk away. Even if it's the woman's fault or she caused it, he should walk away..REAL MEN DONT HIT WOMEN NO MATTER WHAT. Thank God for my hubby, a real man

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    2. @LovelyTess, u dont agree that a woman can instigate, propagate or help prevent domestic violence!
      The thought that "no matter what a woman does....." Is what makes women feel like they can do anything and get away with it.
      Anyway thank God ur hubby doesn't hit you, but if God forbid one day out of annoyance u insult his mum then u ll have a better understanding of number 4!
      All the best, keep enjoying ur marriage.

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    3. If they hit you, say so! Stop yarning dust. If you abuse his mum, he'd hit u, and if he abuses your own mum nko. Biko carry your battered self go sidon, stop consoling yourself. Real men don't hit women. EOD

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  17. Funmi Iyanda the Homosexual apologist should shut the fuck up! Nobody cares what she does with her lesbian partners. Is it only women that are abused in relationships? What of men who are also abused? Should they also leave at the first verbal abuse or slap. I hate feminism bigots.

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    1. Some doctors are just an embarrassment. Mr. David, If u hate ur fellow human, there is no difference btw u and boko haram. Zuriel

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    2. Doctor my foot. See his ugly face

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    3. Ewu Gambia! To think someone will call this one husband... please crawl back to your ignorant hole, and remain in bliss

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  18. I don't understand why any woman would be in an abusive relationship...I would never get it...no matter how hard I tried to understand...

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