Friday, June 6, 2014

Why Do You Think Some Married Men Can't Stand Successful Wives?

Well I totally agree with her, but how many African men will allow their woman to be independent? Some married successful women have said, their men feel they get shoulder to shoulder with them in terms of cash, which is unacceptable. Some of these men have told their wives they regret letting them work in the first place, while some out rightly stop them from working at some point.

I know a lady who is very successful at what she does, but her husband always feels threatened by success. They have two kids together, and at a point, he stopped her from working. She stopped working and after 9 months she opted for a divorce because the man could not meet their needs.

Her kids stayed at home for days because they could not pay school fees, it was so bad that they had to sell one of their cars at a point and yet the man refused to let her go back to work.

Why do you think some men can’t stand women who try to live independent lives (a woman who does not ask too much from her husband)?


34 comments:

  1. earn 20k daily enta here www.maweprospa.blogspot.com

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  2. only a weak and insecure man while have that mentality...the pride of a man is a successful woman...my mum was a house wife when my dad died i know how difficult it was and still is for the family. my wife has to be better than me so that my children can be greater than me.

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    1. Like seriously,my mama made same mistake,when my papa died,it dawn on her big time! With God grace she's trying her best to make me and my siblings happy,mama always say no matter how rich your husband is,Get busy as a wife,be industrious! Do something!! Don't be idle!!!

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  3. My hubby encourages me wen I want to do something that can fetch me good money.we he goes to look for contract ,he always look out for little contract for my coy and wen he gets for me he will finance d contract with his moni n give me the profit. Any man who doesn't support or encourage d wife to be successful is an enemy of progress biko.

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  4. I love independent women and I will be one. Why should I wait for him before I can buy anything?




    #NaMeTalkAm

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  5. A real man does not have a poorly developed ego... that will be a BOY! There is a problem with most African men. They tend to feel that a woman must be subservient to them to be labelled a good wife. A good woman is a good support to the man that is lucky and blessed to have her.... not necessarily subservient. A man that cannot tolerate a woman to express herself as a partner is a disgrace to manhood. As a married man, if you feel that you are superior to your woman in any form, you are a FOOL.. I believe in the sanctity of marriage and mutual respect but African men, especially Nigerian men have just abused this to a whole 'nother level... Many have made poor decisions that have affected the safety of their family because of ego and poor expectations.

    Mayowa

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  6. Men and their stupid ego"

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  7. Honestly..I dunno...buh what I do know is.......when a man feels inferior there is nothing a woman can do to help his esteem....he is the only one that can change his mindset....

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  8. Cos of their Ego and mind u women has a bit of pride in them and some find it difficult to control it,so if that type of woman who cant bury her pride earns more than her husband she goes completely disrespectful to her man.we should just learn to be submissive to our man no matter what!

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  9. justlikeme@live.com07 June, 2014 07:17

    True but women gon be women....one day she needs a car and you say 'baby, dont you think its too expensive for our present condition' (knowing she has the money) and she says 'its my money, i do what i like with it'. That right there is how separation begins. Any man whose ego isnt bruised when the woman talks like that is either tryna be smart and get her money or just plainly has 'eyes' outside where he goes to calm his bruised ego


    I sip my coffee jeje

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  10. Its simple,intimidation,dats wat they're scared of,they dnt even want you to be ahead of them in anyfin,they like women who are boy boy,Even Prophet Muhammed(SAW)'s wife Khadijat(RA) was richer than him in lots of ways;age,money,connection & any other thing to the extent that there was no household in Mecca that was nt owing her money,she was dat rich and the Prophet still married her but not Nigerian men,they would be finkin of how to dupe her wiv the help of their friends and family,their main problem is Ego,simple even the 1 dat doesn't see anyfin wrong in it,they'll manipulate him,I can have lots of houses and not tell my husband wen I get married becos Aye lee,No Man can be like the Prophet(SAW),they'll marry plenty wives and kill you ontop yur thing,so be watchful,Dnt be too open.Morning Ladun.

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    1. Dat explains why he was violent.his low self-esteem

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    2. hmnnnnn anobi isiaka oro le so o

      HYBunny

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    3. Prophet Mohammed was a servant, he married his Master's wife when he died. This gives you an insight what was happening between them while the Master was alive. Eventually, when his rich wife died he inherited her weath and married 4 new wives. You dont have to be a soothsayer to unravel what really happened. . . He is not a worthy example for the topic. . . Oremetta

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    4. Isaka or wateva u call urself, u must b a very foolish being for dat statement. Ignorance is a bastard. Read more n get enlightened b4 u talk bullshit...

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  11. Personally,I think its just envy, most men re naturally lazy and bullish, they get threaten when there wives re more successful and instead of encouraging them,they then to see faults in everything the woman does, they frustrate her and make her feel less than human, its a tough world,especially if things re not working out for the man.

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    1. And then they start claiming her and her mothers are witches and they are stealing his star . Pathetic men , the reason why most if them remain stagnant is because they are the most unambitious Men ever .

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  12. Etisalat Staff07 June, 2014 08:50

    I think those men who seems intimidated by their wife's success are still living in the primitive era of ideology. Two is better than one says the prophetic literature.
    Left to me, I won't marry a woman who isn't working period.

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  13. Ladun you have said the truth. It's envy

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  14. That is an African man for you

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  15. Is true and is very natural that no successful woman can be loyal like she was dependent, God pls bless me I don't want to depend on a man it causes a lot of insult from them. DERA MI

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  16. IT'S CALLED ENVY. FORGIVE ME IF I AM WRONG

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  17. BECAUSE THEY END UP FUCKING AROUND AT THEIR WORK PLACE

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  18. No one is talking about women that belittles their husbands because they are the breadwinner of the family. I don't really blame some men cos some women can be extremely mean to their husbands and feel since they bring more money in then the husband has the do house chores...

    People commenting should think from both sides

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    1. Why shouldn't men do house chores ??? Is there some type of gene in men which prevents them from doing house chores . They both live in the house therefore both of them should do house chores .

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  19. Yea!!! It all falls in both side, Men with dre Ego and African mentality and the women with dre Pride too.

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  20. My advice to women who have money. Marry a man with at least 3 times more money than u. Save urself d headache of an insecure man. Im here saying had I known. Dont be like me biko.

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  21. Lol @ anobi isiaka,u made this post worth my while.

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  22. My hubby will even help u chop the money. He will encourage u well well

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  23. Africans are naturally egocentric. I pity any woman who falls victim of any man who has failed to evolve and realize that a family needs balance by support from both sides.

    www.maturemindstalk.blogspot.com

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  24. @anobi isiaka.... lol, you're just on helluva blunt Muslim aren't u?

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  25. It's sad that your friend married the wrong husband....wicked man, suffering the whole family cos of his stupid pride.

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  26. My understanding is different from the writer. Majority of men do allow their wives to work. The writer ought to have put things in context that marriage is an institution. There must be one head of an institution otherwise there would be confusion. Those agents of the devil who never wanted marriage to strive have now destroyed marriage in the Western World (such as USA, France, UK) whereby marriage is no longer between a man and woman. This way they have achieved their satanic goal that a man must not be construed as solely the head of the home.

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