Mrs. Fatima Bankole, 34, has been battered by her husband, Alhaji
Kamoru Bankole, for daring to take a piece of fish from the pot to break her fast some days ago. The victim is the first of his three wives, at their residence in Alasia, Ijanikin in Lagos State.
The attack happened on the 16th of July, when the third wife
reported to their husband that their senior wife took a piece of fish from the soup to
break her fast. The husband, according to witnesses, did not listen to her
excuse before attacking her.
According to the victim, Mrs. Fatima Bankole, their husband
had always physically abused her, but the incident of July 16th was more brutal.
She narrated that they had made a roster between two wives,
due to the absence of the third wife who was away at the period, to cook for 15
days each. The victim said she had completed her period, and it was turn of the
last wife. She said they would normally serve the husband first, followed by
the children before the wives would serve themselves.
On the day she was to be attacked, Mrs. Fatima said the last
wife had finished her cooking and served their husband and the children. She
then went for her own meal.
But soon after, the last wife complained to her husband that
Fatima took a larger chunk of the fish in the pot. Their husband, Alhaji Kamoru
Bankole, queried her, but she said that she only took a little out of it,
stating that the fish was in pieces and mixed in the stew. Her explanations,
however, got her in trouble with their husband. Alhaji Kamoru, she details,
delivered several punches to her face. She said she bled for hours and was
further locked up in a room for three days before she escaped.
She said neighbors then took her to the hospital for
treatment. That was the cruelest from her history of experience of assault by
their husband, Mrs. Fatima said. From experiences she recounted, she recalled
how her hair was pulled out of her head, which resulted in grievous head
injuries.
Saharareporters learned that police have now arrested the
husband, following outcry and petitions by the Women Arise civil group in
Lagos. He will be arraigned in court next week.
Cruelty of the highest dimension husbands you need to respect your wives if you want the favour of God,remember your old age. When you need to depend on the fruit from these women I wouldn't be surprise if his children abandon him when he is old cos how do you want d children to LOVE a man who abuse their mother physically emotionally and the rests SAY NO TO WOMAN ABUSE
ReplyDeletesome men are mean
ReplyDeleteNothing could have justified this
ReplyDeleteOh dear!!!! a religion that enslaves the woman!!!!
ReplyDeleteDon't be stupid.religion has nothing to do with this.are frank edoho and zaaki Muslims.dummy
DeleteHe has always abused her? Smh.
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The man cannot take of 1 woman talkless 3! Beating wife over food, what a shame. He's not fit to be a husband sef.
ReplyDeleteits not abt religion...we see several christian men dat abuse dr wives. Most nigerian men are lik dse bcus no law protects women yet!
ReplyDeleteSome Pastors abuse their wives and don't even see any wrong in it!
DeleteSoo it's not about the religion! The guy that butchered his wife some years back is not a muslim!
Of course, you are right.
DeleteI am sure this woman's family won't let things continue like this
Delete#DontProvoke!
ReplyDeleteFunny... You didn't approved my previous comment... #SMH
Some men are beasts
ReplyDeleteOnly uncivilized men beat their wives
ReplyDeleteI have always emphasized the fact that it is impossible to love more than one woman at a time
ReplyDeleteThe Lagos state government should get involved in this matter as soon as possible
ReplyDeleteI know the man will have his own version of the story, but nothing can justify this act of violence
ReplyDeleteI wonder why some women prefer being a second or third or fourth wife in a marriage; now see where this has landed her
ReplyDeleteThis Women Arise Civil Group need to be careful how they are going about interfering with family matters.
ReplyDeleteIf they continue interfering in issues like this, they will be ending up disrupting a lot of families.
This is a family problem and family problems are best left alone for the families to solve.
Now that this group got the husband arrested, they better start looking for another husband for this woman because the present husband could decide to do away with this woman once he is out of jail.
Husbands need not be thrown in jail for petty family issues like this. At least not in a country like Nigeria.
Agreed, the husband need to be able to control his anger, but this woman also need to learn how to wait for her turn.
Her sneaking behind the other wife to dip her hands into the family bowl of soup is what got her into this problem.
Maybe she thought because she is the most senior wife, she could do what ever wanted.
Well, that is not how it goes. She may be the most senior wife, but the youngest wife is always the most influential wife in set up like this.
Now, instead of her to complain to a senior member of her husband' family, she decided to involve an outside group of people. And now she has ended up putting up her husband in a place like a prison where the husband is now mixing with criminals when he is not a criminal.
Spousal abuse is not good and should be condemned in all it's entirety but this woman is partly responsible for her problems here and I bet you the problem is more than a bowl of fish as we are being made to believe.
It is only a senior family member who can go in, find out what the real issues are and solve the problems here.
olu@atlanta.
@Olu Atlanta, pls u need to read d story again cos its like u didn't understand.
Delete1. Dis isn't the 1st time of d assault so to the man, dats d way to get tins solved! By punchn a woman to death.
2. She was locked away for 3days with an untreated injury b4 escaped! How wnt concerned bodies be called in to the matter?
3. Pls sir, how much of dis pain can she take? Stay with a husband who cld one day take ur life??
4. She didn't sneak to serve herself, d complain was dat she took a larger chunk of the fish! She said it was a scattered in d soup. So pls read to understand sir.
Sir pls, let's face facts! If u were to be in her shoes, u wnt last a second with that man!
Olu@atlanta, from your comments it is obvious that you are a man that was raised in a violent home, a home with no love. This woman provoked nobody and all she wanted to do was eat. This man is a petty weakling (like yourself) that involved himself in a very petty issue
DeleteI read your comments oluatlanta all the time and I feel sorry for you. I know that something must have happened to you growing up. It must have been deep...tragic!
DeleteMayowa
Before I even finished reading this comment I knew it was from Olu. Only someone as daft and clueless as him would call 26 stitches a petty family issue. I honestly wonder how this person was raised. Who are your parents Olu? What did they do to deserve an animal like you? Rather pathetic situation.
DeleteThe problem is that most of us always allow our emotion to take control of our reasoning.
DeleteInstead of us using our brain to think, we start thinking using our various hearts.
When the chips are down and pushing becomes shoving and this woman is driven out of her matrimonial home by her husband or her husband ' family because their son/breadwinner is jailed because of this woman; are you guys ready to house and take care of this woman?
Is any one here ready to start taking care of this woman' children if she has any?
Is any member of this Women Arise Civil Group(politicians in camouflage) willing and ready to take charge of financing this woman' life, and sending this woman's kids to school?
Do we have shelters for abused women in Nigeria like they have abroad?
Even, if we do, how long is she going to be living there and be supported by a government who could not even pay retirement benefits of those that served them? A government that cannot even pay unemployment benefits to those who don't have jobs?
A government that could not take adequate care of minors that are being raped everyday in Nigeria.
I can bet my last kobo all of you including the government will go AWOL when the chips are down.
When the chips are down and she is discarded like a worn out piece of rag; what do you guys think will happen to her children?
Don't you guys think that her children will probably become slaves to the other wife who would not even share a piece of fish with her?
Is this what you guys want for her?
This woman is not an independent strong woman.
She is one of those muslim women who are always under purdah( what we Yorubas called "abeabo") who can't even go out as they like.
She is like one those women around Idi-Araba and Agege who stays in houses where you will see " Ba shiga " boldly written at the entrance.( the non-Hausa speakers here can always find out what that means because I ain't disclosing to nobody what that means)
She is a woman with no education and no means of survival without the husband but no one here can see the futility in causing her husband to go to prison.
She is one those women being kept for sex, mating, personal care of husbands and no more.
That is nothing but the truth and I am not hating here.
If not, why would there be a fight over a bowl of fish which can easily be purchased by any wife who works selling only pure water on the road side?
These are the questions that you all, including those Politicians in camouflage that labeled themselves Women Arise Civil Group need to find answers to before you all cause the dissolution of this woman's marriage and permit her rival to destroy the lives of her children.
Though, I kind of agree that one might make attempt to train this type of women at this stage to be self sufficient, strong and independent. That in itself is a tough challenge, because most women like this woman are freaking lazy and too much in their comfort zone to make their lives better. That is the truth. No hating here please.
As per all the people abusing me, some even claiming i must be from an abusive environment, that my father must have been a polygamist, that they pity my future wife, bla bla bla, I have decided to take a 5th in responding.
There is no need to respond because I know who I am. It is of no relevance here. What is relevant here is people using their brain before writing trash and causing more trouble for this woman.
If you honestly believe you are using your brain here by encouraging a situation where the husband can end up in prison, no qualms as nobody have monopoly of wisdom.
But you guys need to look at the bigger picture of events that will develop as a result of what ever is happening to this woman and her family right now. As long as the end justifies the means, and she and her kids comes out fine, it's all good. No sweating at all.
olu@atlanta.
Olu@atlanta may God help u in life, I wonder the kind of family that brought u up! Ur comments shows how ur mind is deep
DeleteOluatlanta,
DeleteThe validity of a speech does not lie in how long the speech is... If I get you right... You think the woman should not have eaten if she did not want to be beaten ba?
If the family of the guy are so bent on punishing the real culprit here... they should send their son on exile.. A man that beats a woman for any reason deserves to go to jail..PERIOD!! The act of beating people is ridiculous....
So are you saying that at work, men don't come across worse issues and bear with a smiling face.
For you to think that the woman should have 'behaved' a certain kind of way if she wants to avoid being beaten or worse off ... be taken care of by this goat .... is a slap on the face of the woman that raised you... Raised you is being questioned here..
So because she wants to be able to eat left over fish, she should endure beatings, poor treatment and second hand preferences by the man.
I am sorry for you if you indeed believe the foolishness you spew here.. Pele... Talk with your mum, if she is still alive...Ask her what happened to you when you were young... that resulted in this mindframe... Trust me .. if it is not NORMAL!!
Mayowa
I thought there was a law against this kind of action against women? This is cruelty, and should not be tolerated.
ReplyDeleteThe man is an irresponsible person
ReplyDeleteI hope the full wrath of the law is brought down heavily on the man responsible for this wicked act
ReplyDeleteThe man is definitely an animal.
ReplyDeleteMayowa
The husband should be dealt with in order to serve as a warning to other men who derive pleasure in beating up their wives
ReplyDeleteSince there are two sides to a coin, I think the press should grant an interview to the husband as well
ReplyDeleteHas this man forgotten that this is someone's daughter and sister?
ReplyDeleteThe man is heartless
ReplyDeleteIs it possible to love all your wives the same way? The answer is in what has just happened to this woman
ReplyDelete26 stitches all because of fish? Why marry more than one wife if you don't have the means to take care of them?
ReplyDeleteChai. DERA MI
ReplyDeleteOlu Atlanta, u are an idiot, a bastard n a fool. How can u say such? Its obvious ur useless father married 10 wives, n beats them all. U are so stupid I Swear, n I just pity d unfortunate woman that married u / will agree to marry u. Shameless yoruba goat.
ReplyDeleteDat third wife dat did d reporting should bear in mind dat she will definitely receive same treatment in future from d beast they call their husband.
ReplyDeleteMost definitely and to you Oluatlanta. Yes you
DeleteSome men though....i wouldn't be surprised if dey say the 2nd wife used jazz on him
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