Sunday, July 20, 2014

Must I Open Up To Him On Everything That Happened Between My Ex And I?

I know every relationship should be based on trust and love, but have I committed a crime by not disclosing everything my ex and I did?

My boyfriend and I have been having issues because he found out a few things about my ex and I. I told him I didn’t know him from Adam when my ex and I were dating and whatever happened then should remain in the past; but he has been sulking since then.

I feel he is unnecessarily confronting me, and I want to know if a woman is obliged to tell her boyfriend everything that happened with her ex. Must I spill everything? 

21 comments:

  1. To be on a safer side I think you need to tell him everything, so he won't find out himself

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  2. Don't baby girl. You should have owned up to dating him but nothing more...

    Mayowa

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  3. Nope. It's none of his business. Your past with your ex should not matter to your new man. Except you are still friends with your ex then you may just be stirring the pot and arousing curiosity/suspicion. Seems like your new man is intimidated by your ex.
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  4. What has that got to do with him. Has he told you about his past?

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    1. my dear listen to al this advc besc tomor to cm he that opens his mouth to ask u abt ur past. he wl stl open it to abuse u. so becareful.

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  5. Plz don't he'll use it against you. Men could be funny

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  6. You will be so very stupid, if you tell your boyfriend about the past though you can tell him fews very little things about your past. We've all been there before including your so called boyfriend. Be careful and God will see you throught

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  7. You will be so very stupid, if you tell your boyfriend about the past though you can tell him fews very little things about your past. We've all been there before including your so called boyfriend. Be careful and God will see you throught

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  8. You don't need to tell him everything. If he can't handle it, maybe you should not be in the relationship. He will never believe you are not keeping something back.

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  9. Goodness! NO!!!

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  10. As a woman I don't think we should tell all cos if in the end we don't get married, that's my past with the man and u know some men, that's the story they'll love to tell to their friends to tarnish ur image. Let the past remain in the past. If we settle down then I'll tell you all. This is assuming the "tell all" isn't anything criminal o. If u're a murderer or been to jail or used to be a man and now u're a woman, then u should share that info :-)

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  11. Hell No! Your past is your past. Leave it there. He has no business knowing what you did or had with your EX.
    Men cant handle these things. Pls leave your past where it is. Where it should be.

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  12. Its none of his business! Ignore him till he comes to his senses cos he'll use it against u later trust me. Has he told u everything abt his past? No try am oh

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  13. What's his business? Or did you ask him about his past? And no, he's got no right to know and you have every right to not tell him.
    www.queenspicey.blogspot.com

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  14. Open up to him now. Think about this, what if he founds out later and throws you out of his house. It is better you tell him now than finding out himself. The outcome is always bad. Ignore what others have said in the comment section here

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  15. pls.......HE IS A SIN PARTNER AND NOT A HUSBAND SO PLS KEEP YOUR SECRET TO YOURSELF.

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  16. better tell him so if he eventually hears from outside he knows how to defend you both..... hearing it from an outsider is devastating

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  17. Don't tell him anything. U will regret it, bcs I have been there befor.

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  18. Don't tell him diddly squat!
    Next thing you know all he would end up doing is comparing how you are with your ex and himself

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  19. Hear it from where? if he likes, he can hear it directly fro your ex, but DO NOT TELL HIM JACK. You are not married to him yet, so what is he on about? Oh please.........

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  20. My dear do not tell him shit...... All those commenting abt opening up so he can defend you when ur gist comes abeg dont listen o, i have been in both situations, my ex opened up to him and i learned a big lesson, now im happily married when some dude wanted to bring up my matter to my husband he told the guy to mind hes business and that was all in the past, my dear if your man loves you he will put the past in the past and try and build a beautiful future with you.

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