Tuesday, March 31, 2015

What Can I Do About My Present Situation- Full House Wife

Some of you complain I no longer post readers mails. But when there no ‘interesting’ ones nko? Or atleast moving stories. Well a married LL reader who says she is a full house wife and her husband wouldn’t let her work sends a mail in and I thought I should post. Nobody should abuse me ho, it is what they send that I will post now.
  
My name is Caroline. I got married to the man I love and we are blessed with two kids. The problem is that my husband does not take good care of me. I am always staying at home – full house wife. I relied on my husband for everything but I don’t like it. My husband is always mad at me whenever I bring up the topic of me doing something. To make the matter worse I cannot afford to buy my undies without collecting money from him.


Lately, my husband has been acting strangely and refused to provide all my needs.  Should I start having an extra marital affair because I know some guys who are wealthy and are ready to date me but I was told by my pastor not to leave my husband. I am getting frustrated now. No money on me, not even money to buy fuel in the house for me to watch television. What should I do?

32 comments:

  1. Pray until something happen my dear

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    1. Continue being a liability wife

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    2. Some women can be funny,u know.How can u depend on a man for everything .That shows u're lazy,woman and u think ur husband will respect u,huh?Get ursef hooked up with petty jobs, pls.Men can never be trusted,think about ur children and their future.

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  2. Hmmm. You are on your own

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  3. I believe there is no hard a man would be that he will not have a weak point. You are a woman, use trick to get want. It is in your hand.

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  4. It is always good to shine your eyes wella before you get married

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  5. You seem not to know what your problem is, please get back to us when you do.

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  6. Leave the bloody man mate.

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  7. Don't try dating men. Leads to more trouble for you. Just persevere, try to talk to him in a gentle manner and leave everything to God. In time he will change

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  8. I must be sincere with you, I have been in this situation before until I lied and broke loose.

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  9. I don't support a woman to be a full time housewife because i,as a man, get bored sitting at home all day.He should open a supermarket for her so that she should be making her own money.

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  10. Date the wealthy guys to make him jealous. He'll also be shocked that you are not demanding anything from him again. With this he'll be forced to set you up but don't abuse it

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  11. Pls have an affair. And do it FAST!

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  12. madam its called for better for worse. your pastor said it all, dont leave your husband. sit him down and talk to him or better ask your pastor to talk to him for you so as to give you allowance every money. and madam you dont have to cheat to get money. you have kids you can extort from your husby thru that means if he doesnt want to give you money..... DONT LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND.

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  13. If he says you should not walk, then he should provide all you need

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  14. Hello Caroline,

    I think the best thing i can advise you is to look for something doing on your own.Look for any job at all or if you can't score any you should start with a hand trade or a hubby. Just take a little time to concentrate a little and figure out what you will be able to do that will bring in at least a little money.

    Even though your husband isn't treating you well, i don't think it's okay for you to start cheating on him. Instead i will advise that the both of you have a little heart to heart if it's possible. I don't know how the communication and understanding between the both of you is but if you haven't tried it then I suggest you do. However make sure that you speak to him in the correct manner to avoid any misinterpretation that will lead to a situation worse than what you are in already. I advise against the extra marital affair simply because it would be better if you are able to maintain your morals through this difficult period. The idea is quite tempting but I need you to sit down and think about this well especially now that you have children already. Sometimes you just have to think of the kids. By that I don't mean you should sit and swallow anything that is done to you, instead it would be better if you handle the matter in a calm and mature way that would set an example for the children.

    I really hope that picture with the scar on the chest isn't you or that it doesn't mean your relationship is physically abusive. Either ways just take it easy and get something doing. If he isn't holding you back then try and start up something. I also believe that it would make your man have a little more respect towards you. Remember, work on your communication and learn to express yourself politely to your man.

    You can always email me at aksralphblog@gmail.com or visit my blog www.askralphblog.com for more help or topics that you could relate to. I have helped a whole lot of people through that medium.

    Hello LadunLiadi bv's you all are also welcome to join the askralphfamily, we served cold drinks. Lol. see you all soon.

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  15. I never knew dating wealthy guys is now a job. Is that all there is to do madam?? She did not even talk about finding a job or going into a small scale business. Direct to ashawo work, only God knows how many of these so called married women are really faithful in their marriages.

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  16. You be correct asewo and a lazy woman. I think what you are supposed to do is insists to your husband that you want to work. stand on that and stop thinking about how to cheat on him

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  17. You be correct asewo and a lazy woman. I think what you are supposed to do is insists to your husband that you want to work. stand on that and stop thinking about how to cheat on him

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    1. It is not really her fault, Some husband are not that understanding

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  18. *insist* please na because i dey vex

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  19. Walk away. Don't be fooled by this end time prophets

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  20. Pls play mumu character for him,it works for me and u wil see u get everything without asking. DON'T EVER CHEAT its a sin before God .

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  21. Please give her good advice

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  22. Stand on it that you want to work. Tell him to open a small shop for you if he does not want you to work in any organization

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  23. Are you a learner? In this century, can't believe you choose to be a full house wife. Ask him to be paying you monthly or he should get a shop for you. No dulling in this computerized village

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  24. Cheat on him if you want. It is a huge sin for a man not to carter for his family

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  25. Look unto God for help. He is the Alpha and Omega

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  26. Pls dnt cheat on him. Call him just tel him wat u'hv just told us. Gist us later

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  27. My dear, u ar on top of a sea not knowing where to turn to, if u turn either way u sink bcos you don't have faith. Is dat d only scar to show up to say ur husband is wicked or wateva. I know you never expected things to turn out like this but u are not doing anything reasonable about ur present situation. U said ur pastor said u shouldn't leave. And d only option u have is to cheat on him wit men in flashing cars. Have u eva thought Wat dat man may be going tru at his place of work? Thank God u didn't say he was cheating on u wateva dat man has done to u, don't eva compare him wit mr A bcos u cannot compare urself to madam B. If ur hubby is d hot type, dnt talk when he's angrily talking to u, if at all u want to talk ur words shud be peaceful, all men always want to be authoritative over thier wife and maybe d man does not trust u or has not seen any good qualities in u dat will persuade him to yield to ur demands. Imagine u saying cheating as d only option, perhaps if you start working dat will be ur weak point. If u really want a better future for your kids and urself as well. Give dis thought a try. Be submissive to ur hubby. Don't be a nagging wife or don't yell at him. Support him with midnight prayers. Trace ur family root whether there are similar cases like urs and dat of ur hubby's family so as to know hw to tackle it in prayers. Dnt speak to people again about ur marital problem bcos afta hearing the touching story dey may not giv u good advice instead go to ur kneel in prayers let God alone knw ur predicament. Obey ur hobby. Pamper him, pet him, make him hungry for u. Whether he gives u money or not take care of ur home with d little he is given. Men are stylish in character especially wen dey ar married nd always want to be on top. Ur husband is ur husbd, thank God u said u two loved each other b4 getting married. Dnt relent in prayers, be a prayerful Christian to win ur man's heart and to have a peaceful home. Am speaking out of experience bcos I was once a victim. Thanks to Almighty God, I can say I hav d most peaceful home nd a caring and loving husband to boost off with. Patiently try this at home and see wat will happen, and always be optimistic about ur home nd not being pessimistic. Remember all men ar the same. Dey can entice u wit everything inthis world but lata reveals thier tru colours. Be warned.

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