Thursday, April 2, 2015

How I Have Been Able To Sustain My Marriage For 4 Years- Mercy Johnson Reveals

In this new interview with Leadership Newspaper, actress Mercy Johnson has explained how she has been able to manage her marriage for four years without crisis. She also spoke about her first day at her husband’s house and how he asked her to cook to her greatest surprise and how she had to remind him she was MECRY JOHNSON. It’s an interesting interview, enjoy;

There is a general notion that actresses do not make good wives. Do you agree with this submission?

Well, I can only speak from my own perspective and when I say my perspective, I mean from my personal experiences, marriage and relationship with my husband. One of the biggest lies anyone can tell himself/herself is using one or more random experiences to judge and stereotype others. We all have our different stories to tell.

I have two children for my husband today and he has not stopped talking about how down-to-earth I was yet I am an actress; not just any actresses. I had a large following at that time yet I did not go around pouting my lips or playing the snub. My husband later confessed to me that for him, it was love at first sight but that did not stop him from asking me to cook for him the first day I set foot in his house.


At first, I was stunned that a Nigerian man was asking me to enter his kitchen to cook him a meal. A part of me whispered to me that perhaps, he was not aware of who I was and when I said to him: ‘You must be joking. My name is Mercy Johnson’. What shocked me even more was his response when he said: ‘I know’. Rather than take offence, I was drawn closer to him.

We have been married since 2011 and we love each other to bits till date and have consciously decided to spend the rest of our lives together. As I said earlier, I am an actress who is correcting the rigid stand that actresses cannot have happy homes when they get married. Also, bear in mind that there are several Nigerian actresses like me who are happily married. Having a happy marriage is a choice a woman has to make. When you decide to have a happy marriage, you focus your thoughts, actions, words, work and everything else around protecting that happiness.

On the high divorce rate among celebrities, she replied

In marriage, you must have trust and you must also have love. The moment you lose these two, then it is just a matter of time before you embark on a calamitous countdown towards the end of your marriage. My relationship with my husband has been very special. He is not just my husband or father of my children. He is my friend.

She also spoke about  the secrets  to the stability of her marriage;

I don’t even have to think about it. It is honesty. I remember the words of my pastor to me even before we got married. He advised me never to have a marriage built on lies and I listened. I don’t lie to my husband. We have agreed to tell the truth to each other regardless of how painful or scary it might be. I remember one instance when I found myself crying when I had to tell him the truth. That day, I had attended an event wearing a lovely dress that had a slit but unfortunately, at that event, the paparazzi captured a wrong image of me. I picked up my phone and I don’t think I have to tell you who I called first. My husband, of course, and guess what? I was crying and sobbing even before I started talking to him because I felt really bad about it. Rather than lie to him, I told him the complete truth and it helped in no small measure. I remember him asking how bad it was and I remember telling him that it was really bad. I sent him the photo and he consoled me. That is what a husband who is also a friend does. He did not rub it in my face, insult me, make me feel bad or dent my self-esteem. He was there for me when I needed him and he has not stopped till date. This is one of the reasons I do not hide anything from him. He loves me just as passionately and as fiercely as I love him and I have no doubt in my mind that our marriage was ordained. God had a hand in it and that is why everything just works out between us. That is the only thing I can consider the secret of our love story, which continues to blossom. I have two children, an amazing husband and millions of fans who have held my back over the years and of course, God who has watched over my affairs from the very first day I arrived in this world till this moment.


33 comments:

  1. More of God's blessings in her home.

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  2. I know everyone Is gonna say I'm negative , but mercy is foolish for this interview , it seems she is preparing for her marriage to pack up, when they start talking/ bragging about their marriages like this it normally tends to run into a brick wall

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    1. Don't be so pessimistic. It may not to your amazement

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  3. The media has not really been her friend. She tried

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    1. Yes i agree with you. She has weathered the storm

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  4. She remains my favourite actress

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  5. If a marriage is based on truth, honesty and love, it would stand the test of time. Good luck to you dear

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  6. May God continue to bless your union

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  7. God would not give you another woman's husband....end of story

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    1. Stop hating. The fact remains that their marriage is intact. It shows that what surely belongs to you will get to you no matter the distance. True love never vanish

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    2. Popssy Aaliyah im not hating, im saying the truth, that her marriage is intact does not mean its right...ur comment is not what the Bible tells us and im sure she knows it

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    3. True word. God will NOT ve anyone someone else's spouse. The foundation of this marriage is wrong bcos of this..and she will still face the consequences of being with someone else's spouse and putting her own desires above living right We will all see it when it happens.

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  8. Her husband must be the understanding type. The movie industry is full of shit

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  9. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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    Yu married somebodies husband ok...
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  10. MJ, I love to bits. God protect ur home.

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  11. Interesting. May God continue to bless your home

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  12. You should celebrate when it is ten above not four. Anyway wish you well

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  13. It's true. Any relationship that lack love and trust will fail

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  14. You better don't celebrate yet

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  15. Just passing

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  16. Just 4years? Abeg, commot make I see road!

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  17. Great lesson for other actresses in nollywood especially the divorcees.

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  18. Your marriage will continue to blossom despite the plan of your enemies

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  19. Your marriage will continue to blossom despite the plan of your enemies

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  20. Interesting. Mercy is my favourite Nollywood actress. I love her like kilode

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  21. God continue to bless your marriage

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  22. IS THIS HOW OVER INFLATED THESE PEOPLE'S EGOS HAVE BECOME?? SAYING SHE WAS WONDERING IF HE KNEW SHE WAS MERCY JOHNSON? WHO IS MERCY JOHNSO?? A BLOODY CAMCORDER LOCAT ACTRESS..SHE REALLY THINKS SHE IS ALL THAT..SERIOUSLY!!!!

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