Saturday, June 6, 2015

I Might Never Give Marriage A Shot Again, After My 3 Months Bitter Experience- Mandy

One of the first female comedians in Nigeria, Mandy, in a lengthy interview with ‘Nonye Ben-Nwankwo, spoke about the possibilities of not getting married again and the reason a man can never lure her into marriage because of money. She also revealed that the only man she married and divorced is not the father of her child, April. Speaking about April’s father, she said they were just friends and they decided to have a child. They were not lovers per say, she explained. She however says life has been good with her daughter, and because of her 3 months experience in marriage, it will be difficult for her to give marriage a shot again. I am just going to cull out the marriage part of the interview, so as not to bore you with the whole gist. Enjoy and learn…. Continue…


Talking about April, your daughter, when are you going to give her a ‘daddy’?

Chei! I believe you are a Christian and the Bible said something about sharing. I wouldn’t mind if you share your husband with me. But I know you wouldn’t want to do it. Many Nigerian women are so wicked. They can never share. But they would be the ones saying I don’t have a husband. If there can be a brave one that would just tell me to come and take her husband, I would just go. But seriously, I had a terrible experience in marriage, that is why I don’t want to go back to it. I didn’t enjoy it at all, not even for one day.

Are you for real?

Oh, maybe I enjoyed the traditional marriage day. After that, it wasn’t it again for me. I think that is why I am not in a hurry to get into marriage again. I would love to go into it. But then, I will not deceive you, my whole concentration is on my daughter.

Don’t you get lonely?

I have a fantastic friend, Yinka Davies. She is my closest friend. We hang out together all the time.

But Yinka is not always there; don’t you get so lonely in your bed?

I don’t feel lonely. Strangely, there are so many things I am thinking about. Maybe if I had a boyfriend or man friend that I would be worried about, then I would worry. I don’t think about it, it is not in my mind. Maybe I should start thinking of a man. I see so many men with huge six packs.

But do you get ‘toasters?’

Oh yes I do. But because of my faith, what they want is not what I want from them. One of my toasters was on my neck the other time and I told him if I didn’t see a ring, then he should forget me. What he wanted was just my body and I wasn’t ready to give him that.

But is it a big deal sleeping with your partner if you are in a relationship?

Some people might do it for money while others might do it for other reasons. I will not sleep with a man for money. God has blessed me. There are certain things I will not compromise any more. It is not because I am being proud. But I just want to be decent and respect myself and my daughter. I get so many toasters. Some want me to be their sugar mummy. Some are already married.

You may likely not regret your marriage because of your daughter…

He is not her father. I had her after I got divorced.

So why didn’t you marry the father of your daughter?

It was our decision. He is my friend. Ours wasn’t a lovey dovey kind of relationship.

Is he still your friend?

Sometimes. We are friends when it is not time to pay school fees. When it is time to pay school fees, we are not friends. My daughter tells me not to call her daddy when it is school fees time so that he wouldn’t run away again.

Does your mother pressurise you to get married?

No, not any more. She used to. She knows me. My marriage was very short. She was wondering how we would do it.

How long did the marriage last?

It lasted for just three months. It doesn’t upset me again.

Is he your friend?

Ha! No o

Was it your fault or his?

I wouldn’t know. I might be a funny person but I might have my bad side. He might tell you it was my fault and I would also sit down here and tell you that it was his fault. I really can’t say. It got to a point we couldn’t take it anymore.

21 comments:

  1. Lol @ he runs away when it is time to pay her school fees

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    1. What kind of dead interview is this? Everything marriage husband, man. Can't they ask about her bloody achievements or plans for her future?
      Is marriage the only thing that defines a woman in this country? Damn!

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  2. Lol@ he runs away when it is time to pay her school fees

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  3. Don’t ever let anybody tell you otherwise.You deserve to be happy and you deserve to have success. Keep that mindset and never give up until you reach your destination!

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  4. MR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.

    My dear Mandy I feel ur pain dear. The lord is ur strength
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    ^™THAT EDO BOY.COM~

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  5. MR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.

    My dear Mandy I feel ur pain dear. The lord is ur strength
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    ^™THAT EDO BOY.COM~

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  6. My dear Mandy I will be very honest with you. You got divorced at three months, you had a baby for a man you were never married to and you are still looking for a man who would love you and be there for you. History speaks a volume in Africa. I wish you luck

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    1. Are you saying she does not deserve love because she's divorced and has a baby? Are you God? We're all sinners. The fact that your sin is different from hers doesn't make you deserving of love while she's not. Infact it's this stupid mindset that make men love babymamas. The rest of you feel so holy and deserving. Meanwhile, the babymama doesn't take herself so seriously because of her bad experience. Goodluck with your holy nweje attitude you hear me? Goodluck. Ps: EVERY BODY deserves love.

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    2. Anon 13:16 well damn preachhh

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  7. Don' t allow a bitter experience you had with one person ruin future relationships. Instead learn from it. He would have shown you signs but you went ahead.learn from it. I hope you find someone that will make you change your mind.its different if it doesn't happen,not you pushing it away. All the best. Naijaflo.com

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  8. How can you marry and get divorced in three months. Don’t you have families, he never has one too? You had no marriage in the first lace

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  9. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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    I no dey reason interview of people wey i no too knw abeg.....
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  10. Humility is key in marriage

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  11. Wicked people, do not judge her at all. At least, she has a child. A married woman without a child is worse off in modern Africa. Maybe she chose the wrong men. Better luck
    Next time besides it was your destiny.

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  12. I feel your pain it is only a matter of time

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