Monday, June 8, 2015

Readers Mail: Should I Report My Boss? Please Help!!

Hi Ladun, please I want you to help me share this as many of my friends have called me naive and stupid. I recently joined a multinational as a graduate trainee. Few weeks into my resumption one of the top executives in my organisation (I don't directly report to him) told me I must come and greet him every morning. I did that for about three days and on the fourth day, he tried to kiss me! I was shocked and immediately stood up and took my leave. He has been threatening me saying I won't be absorbed into the organisation after my trainee period. I got infuriated and decided I would report him to more senior members of the organisation, but I have been clearly warned not to do that.

I am 26 and in all ways attractive and I also have a fiance and we are planning to get married once we are financially stable. I WANT and NEED the job but trust me my values stand against everything this my boss says.

Guys, should I go ahead and report him, since the organisation does not belong to him or what? I am angry and not any way considering his option but I can't afford to loose this chance, I graduated since 2011 and this is my first job. Phew!

34 comments:

  1. Damn! Since 2011? Long wait! I say report him. Cus if you don't sleep with him you'll still lose the job. So be the one to screw him over first. Fast & pray as well.

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    1. Young Lady, let me advice you. Having started out in a multinational, I know how things work there. The only person you can trust there is you and you alone. Everybody is trying one trick or two and trust me, you are going to suffer if you do. He would never, I repeat never be fired because of a trainee.
      The next thing you should realize is multinational staff are the best gossips there are. Kai. And it runs in all multinationals, trust me, yours wouldn't be different.

      Confide in your boyfriend first. You guys should be on the same page in this. I repeat, don't tell anyone, whether higher or lower than him. You don't know who is his best friend. Don't tell other trainees, they may be looking for favor. Kai, how naive I was.
      Tell only HR. A multinational company must have a real HR department. And not a girl who smiles back at you in HR but the director.
      If you need more guidance, please feel free to drop me a line. osujidjm@yahoo.com.
      Ps. I am a guy.

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  2. Sister.... Stop smiling with the Ekwensu..... tell him to go to hell... God is the one that put you there and no one can remove you. Report the nigga....

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  3. The earlier you report him, the better for you

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  4. The earlier you report him, the better for you

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  5. Bikonu report him or jejely take the matter to God

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  6. MR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.

    Please report the idiot jare.
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    ^™THAT EDO BOY.COM~

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  7. This man is a predator and God will deal with him after the demon within him destroys him. Pray for him and hold your dignity and your ground. The guilty will flee when none pursue. Don't fight this fire with fire I have a feeling that God's grace will be sufficient my sister.

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    1. LOL! Here we go. God also put relevant authorities in place so she can report in situations like this.

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  8. Since the company is multinational, they should have HR department.

    You have no choice but to report him to the manager in charge of HR department.
    The man sexually harassing you will definitely deny the accusation, therefore you have to get a recorded evidence.
    From now on, you should using your phone to record whatever he says.

    He is definitely going to make more attempts on you and so you must be ready to start recording him at any given time.
    Any time you are going to his office, your phone must always be recording mode.

    After you have gathered enough voice evidence and other evidence you can get, then make copies while you store the original somewhere safe.

    You should then go to HR to complain about this man and you should give HR a copy of whatever you have as evidence.

    You should also discuss this case with your boyfriend. Let him know what is going on.
    If possible too, try and be on the look out for another job. Some men are just terrible people.

    Never, ever give in and accept this man' s advances. He just want to use you and drop you.
    He must have been doing this for a long time without ever being challenged.

    If you need more help, don't hesitate to come back here and ask.

    Don't ever report him without any physical evidence. You got to have something to nail his sorry ass or else it becomes "he says, she says" and the people in HR may find it difficult to deal with the man.

    -olu@atlanta-

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  9. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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    Yu dont knw if both the head and him are working head to head. I suggest yu keep posting him untill he gets tired since he is not the head and can never sack yu.....
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  10. You speak as if you are a virgin or only that your guy has ever got down with you.....the choice is yours, report and loss your chance, and what makes you think the guy you protecting sees only you and would marry, why not get a job and first secure your future.

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    1. if she was ur fiance would u say that to her? if u were a girl I would av advised that since u dont mind playing ball she whould introduce you to the guy.

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    2. You are just an Idiot for this your stupid response. Go and advice your sister to spread her legs to every foolish idiot so she can secure her own future.

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    3. U just a stupid guy,it is pipu like u dat she's talkin abt, so wat if she's not a virgin must she sleep wit her boss to get a job? Weather her guy is faithful or not it dos not matter. Wat matters is protecting her own dignity.

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    4. This Christopher Donalld is the definition of a fool. Maybe he encourages is wife/sister/girlfriend to spread their legs every

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    5. Charles de Gaulle10 June, 2015 10:00

      Pls u guys should take it easy with him na. He was just born an idiot, and he cant help acting like one....

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  11. No, don't report him but rather turn the tables around. Get concrete and undeniable proof of his sexual advances/harassment towards you like a voice or video recording. The next time he threatens you, kindly return the favor and tell him you have made extra copies in case anything happens to you.

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  12. U had better report his stinking ass else he will keep disturb u

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  13. Report him to God the best and absolute revenge

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  14. Choice have consequences and in this case, whatever decision you take would come wit one. I suggest you sit the boss down and let him know your stand. If he is adamant and I suppose he will be, damn the consequences and report to an even more senior boss that is trustworthy as you may not be sure if some of them aren't even worse. It's either he is fired, warned to stay off or you are fired for false reporting (if u dont hv concrete evidence). It's pretty difficult since u've been without job for 4 years but hey, that's life for you.Welcome to the world of reality.

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  15. REPORT him! If the other senior managers are as useless as he is and decide to kick you out, don't worry, God will make you their boss some other way soon enough.
    Meanwhile, prove your worth by working hard and if they are not as useless as he is, you'll get absorbed.

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  16. I must commend ur effort but instead of reporting him to man y dnt u report him to d one who created man (GOD) He alone has d final say, u will only make matters worse if u tell d other people cos they might want their share since u didn't give to someone lower than them. Shalom

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  17. It's a multinational coy, please, go straight to the head of human resources and report said individual, is he Nigerian by the way? My former boss tried to do the exact same thing, I spoke to a couple of colleagues about it and was informed ythat even Human resources was aware of his behaviour and have cautioned several times, every female that has passed to that office had been harassed one way or the other. I resigned from the job in Jan, the coy was an indigenous oil and gas coy, lacking in in structure so it was an anything goes place. I believe your coy will take such matters more seriously...you never know just maybe he has gotten away with it several times cause of his supposed threats, I too was threatened but I threatened the idiot right back! Old foolish mofo.

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  18. Don't report him yet. Set him up big time and make sure he falls for it. You can even let your fiance know about it to assist you in planning it. If he threatens you again or in any way makes sure you lose your job, tell him you will publicise the whole thing and make sure his wife gets to know. With his face splashed everywhere cos at times we women can be stupid as wives as that line of threat might not hold water. Infact his entire family will see the kain papa dem get. That's why I don't pity the ones wey badoo has wasted. Lol On the condition he lets you be. Two can play the game. Why you de panic? Are you a learner?

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  19. Please report the bastard. It also happened in my former organization until i left there

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  20. Please report the bastard. It also happened in my former organization until i left there

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  21. Please report the bastard. It also happened in my former organization until i left there

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  22. May God himself deliver us from Mumu advisers and the counsel of ahitophel. Quietly be smiling with him, respect him, tell him that people have started asking why you go to his office. Look for a senior mummy and tell her but don't mention his name. Focus on prayers. Pray heavily. Tell ur mother to pray for you. U can't afford to loose that job

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  23. Go to the HR dept and report him immediately to the HR Manager! I was once an HR manager in a multinational Company and I never took this kind of behaviour lying down. You will be surprised that he won't be surprised about this as the offender might have done it before and he is probably being watched by Management. Let your complaint be documented he will be warned and told to leave you alone unless they don't know what they are doing in that Company. Good luck.

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  24. My dear u will report him,but u need to get ur evidence 1st, try make a voice record of ur conversation, cos if u don't have a proof he will denie it n u will look stupid n matters will get wrong n u will sure lose the job. But if u hav his voice recorded n he denies u play it for d staffs to no the truth. And make sure u report to dos suprior to him that can't take up the mater or beter stil you report to the board.

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  25. Report him, but do it with enough evidence.

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  26. Sister! U need to b smart about this! Get a conversation going btw u two and record it. report. To your Hr Dept n try to get across to the union your organization is registered with. It is well

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  27. This is nkechi,u r a chorister in ur local chch n jst got a bank job. Follow ur heart!

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