When her hubby of ten years had to spend Christmas with his
relatives in Nigeria, Tracy Akingbogun hoped he’d return with a special gift to
make up for their time apart. David, 43, had sorted out a present for himself.
He had secretly Married another woman in Nigeria on Boxing Day.
the kids missing him at Christmas, his present to himself was a new bride. “I
still can’t believe he did that to us after more than ten years together. I did
some research and saw that the ceremony was a religious one and not a legal
one. So he hadn’t committed bigamy. His dad had five wives during his lifetime,
so I suppose David thought he could do that too. But not when he was living in
the UK and not when he was married to me.”
be just me and the children again, just like it was last year. But this time
I’ll be over the moon that David isn’t with us.”
when she met David in a nightclub while she was on a rare night out in March
but one of them wasn’t. He was just leaning against the bar enjoying himself.
He saw me watching him and came over to chat. His name was David and he was
really kind and gentle. He’d only arrived from Nigeria three months before.”
was delighted to discover she was pregnant. Their son Kayodo, now 11, was born
in December 2004 and they married two months later.
friends. David read out a poem and told me he really believed in me and our
future together. “From then on he called me ‘Wifey,’ his pet name for me.”
David’s relatives. Tracy says: “They were lovely to us and even went through
the traditional ceremony of washing our feet when we arrived.”
turned his hand to various businesses from buying and selling cars to running a
market-stall. He also tried to set up an internet cafe. But two years later she
found messages between David and a Nigerian woman.
kissed you.’ I shouted at him, and wanted him to explain himself.
the UK. He said it was nothing, they were just friends. I told David it was her
or me. He said it was me, I was his wifey and that was that. Over the next few
months he tried hard to show he meant it and we got back to normal.”
2014 festive period. Tracy says: “I was furious. I told him he should be here
for his sons for our family. He kept insisting he had important family
upset the family would be apart.
let the children know that. It was Christmas so I was going to make it a good
earful but let him speak to the children. I was so angry with him.
and his family the next day and they were all friendly and normal.”
He was hardly speaking to me or the boys. I would encourage him to spend time
with them, but he’d snap at me and say he was busy.”
in May came a bolt out of the blue. She got a message on Facebook from the
partner of one of David’s friends in Nigeria, a woman Tracy had met when she
woman on Boxing Day, everyone knew apart
from me. She didn’t think that was right.
Tears streamed down my face. I’d known something was up.
calm. So I messaged her and said there must be a mistake.”
the wedding ceremony via WhatsApp and confirmed it to me. There was no denying
logged in. There, she read messages between him and his new wife, the woman
she’d caught him messaging two years before, who was also his ex-girlfriend.
get married, he was my husband!
time I told him I’d seen the photos and read the messages. I told him to pack
his bags and get out.
and went to his wedding last Boxing Day while lying to me.
woman. He’s made his choice and now he’s stuck with it.”
What do you want me to do?”, she concluded.