Saturday, January 23, 2016

My Neighbor’s Wife Is Sleeping With Another Man Right In Their Matrimonial Home

Morning Ladun,

A year ago a newly-wed young couple moved into the same compound where I stay. It was quite relieving considering i was staying there all alone and the other house had been vacant for a long while.  The couple were quite nice and as such getting along wasn’t that difficult.

The husband is a young officer in the Nigerian Army, atimes he could be away for 2-3months on missions, leaving the wife all to herself. Whenever he gets back, we get to talk a lot and hangout, Fun times were never lacking during those period.

Three months ago, I noticed a young guy that usually comes around, atimes could spend days at my neighbors’ home. The strangest part is he never shows up whenever Niyi is around. I hear loud laughter, giggles, sexual sounds (don’t want to be all explicit) whenever he comes around from my apartment.



Niyi is a very good friend of mine, the marriage is still relatively young and they are just growing in it as well. But do I just keep quiet knowing his wife is probably sleeping with another dude in their matrimonial home? Or should I just mind my business? What if he realizes and also knows I have been aware, what picture would he have about me? These are things that have been bothering me. Please I want to remain anonymous.

37 comments:

  1. Gerroouttt jare. Mind your own business pls and let Niyi catch his wife himself. Niyi is a uniform man, he cheats on her too... so there you go.. bussy body

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    1. U said d right thing by telling d writer to mind his biz but are u saying since d lady's hubby is a uniform man it is right for him to cheat? How are u so sure day all uniform men cheat? anonymous u no try o Haba

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    2. @ Sarah... well i apologies for generalising.. am a wife of a general and trust me our stories with our hubbys are alarming. May God help us all. In my hay days i wish i cheated and moved on with my life really.

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  2. Discuss the with the wife first and if she doesn't bulge threaten u will discuss with the husband but th negative abouit this is that they will look for another meeting point.

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    1. I strongly disagree. Do not discourse with the wife! She will most likely 'double cross' you b4 her husband as envious and evil in order to neutralise your potential leakages/gossip to her husband. It's better you play your lane. If you can't hold yourself then make sure you have hard facts or intelligently lead the man to the scene.

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    2. Afi discourse na. Ode

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  3. This thing happens all the time

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  4. Its ràther unforgunate dat d woman wants to destroy her young matrimonial home. I don' t think minding ur busness is d best option here; u can prayerfully advice them 2 stop it or better still arrange with d husband to see things for himself.

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  5. When her husband finds out and panel beat her some people will say he is abusing her. Is she not the one abusing the man and their home now?

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    1. You make zero sense. Cheating doesn't give him or anyone a right to beat you. There is never a reason to beat your spouse. He doesn't like her cheating fine he should leave the marriage or they work it out. But beating her put him at fault too. Stop trying to justify domestic abuse

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  6. Dear poster, secretly video the wife what she is in the act then send it to her in a brown envelope.write that she either stops or U will send it to the husband.

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  7. You want to remain anonymous, but you've said his name, where he works and also that they are a new couple who just moved into your compound. SMH

    Niyi's friends in the army, please I hope he gets this memo

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  8. that is bullshit, tell the guy

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  9. Please mind your own business .....who are you to judge ? I used to bring in guys too when my spouse go on night shifts. But now I stopped because it's rubbish

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  10. You better keep it to yourself b4 she sends people to silence you, see no evil and hear no evil my dear sister

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  11. Mind ur business!!!! Who made u d jury and judge over someone's marriage????

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  12. Mind ur business!!!! Who made u d jury and judge over someone's marriage????

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  13. Women thier own worst enemy since BC so u think ur friend Niyi isn't cheating? Na u know wetin u want with thier marriage. Husband snatcher mind ur business!!!! If it was ur so called Niyivdat is cheating on his wife wud u report??? Idiat

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  14. Women thier own worst enemy since BC so u think ur friend Niyi isn't cheating? Na u know wetin u want with thier marriage. Husband snatcher mind ur business!!!! If it was ur so called Niyivdat is cheating on his wife wud u report??? Idiat

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  15. The way women cheat these days is alarming

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  16. I AM ASHAMED OF MOST WOMEN WHO HAVE DROPPED COMMENTS ON THIS POST. NO WONDER HIV IS SPREAD LIKE FIRE. IF YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T BE FAITHFUL TO A MAN WHY DID YOU GET MARRIED? THE ONES THAT ASKED HIM TO MIND HIS BUSINESS ARE OLOSHI OLORIBURUKU OMO. AWON OMO ONIDOKUDO. AWON OMO TO TU ILE KA. IF YOUR MOTHER HAD DONE THAT TO YOUR FATHER WHERE DO YOU THINK YOU WILL BE NOW

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  17. Hehehehehehe can't stop laughing @ pipu's comments on dis blog

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  18. She wants Niyi for herself... lol...

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  19. If YOu can Swear and Vouch for Niyi that he Does not Cheat when he is away AND You also Can attest That He is Not impotent and satisfies his wife then you can interfere But if you can't.... then Mind Your Business What if after Telling Him as A military man He pulls a Gun and murders Her can You live With your conscience

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  20. Poster I will I advise u apply wisdom bcos either way it is not a win win, if u tell the man, he may either not believe u, then making u the enemy or he may even kill his wife in rage. Then if u confront the woman first, if she her conscience is dead, she can turn it against u and tell the Niyi guy that u have been trying to have something with her (I don't even know if u are male or female but all join).

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  21. In as much as knowing ur friends wife is a cheat,i will advice u that,if u must expose the woman,do it with wisdom that it doesnt involve u but If u cant then mind ur business make u no go turn to greatest enemy o. Women na wa for us o, y cant the army's wife do stuffs to keep her busy instead of cheating. Oga just follow ur heart for the matter,if u no ur heart go burst for keeping quiet,then use wisdom do something cos it Isnt fair

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  22. Anon 13.57 u are everything u caused to only u. A trillion folds! I maintain mind ur business.. It's not ur business!!!! The best u can do if u are tooooo bothered is talk to her, and advise her. But reporting her to her hubby is NO. R u d one who wedded them???

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  23. Cursed I meant.

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  24. Poster. You have already let the cat out of the bag. But if Niyi doesn't read this blog, that is a different matter. Something tells me he knows by now.

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  25. Send Niyi an anonymous text about the situation and leave him to use his initiative on his next line of action!!

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  26. All you can do to be neutral and anonymous is send your friend their meeting time and place anonymously. Let him pretend he is going on assignment as usual. Let him catch her himself while you pretend like you knew nothing about it.

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