Tuesday, November 13, 2018
Husband Takes Wife's Surname After Marriage To Fight Toxic Masculinity & Wants Other Men To Do So
After tying the knot with the love of his life in June 2014, 50-year-old Cam Middleton-Else decided to go against tradition, a move that often attracts 'weird stares' from others, who Cam said seem ‘baffled’ by his decision.
Cam, from Wodonga, Victoria, Australia said that although wife Ros Else, 50, was a little hesitant when first presented with the idea, she was more than happy to keep her own surname while her husband took on hers.
Primary school teacher Cam insists that it ‘shouldn’t be a big deal’ and believes it should happen more in the fight against toxic masculinity and ingrained sexism, which in his view is prevalent in Australian society.
He said: “When it came to the wedding, we didn’t do anything super traditional. We had our honeymoon first and then got married in the school where we first met.
“I guess I’m not your typical blokey-bloke. I’ve got a very open mind and have always been open to anything.
“I’ve always been one to challenge the toxic masculinity and ingrained sexism whenever I’ve come across it.
“I never understood why my wife should have to take on my surname. To me, it just never made sense.
“Instead of her having to change her name, I was more than happy to take on her surname. It felt natural to me.
“For whatever reason, it is hard for some people to get their heads around. It has certainly got us a few weird looks and curious questions.
After we got married, we had to go get a few documents changed over like my car registration and things like that.
“During that process, I remember that were some workers who felt the need to ask me three or four times if that was really my surname before they believed me.