Monday, June 24, 2019

Student who turned to sugar daddy dating website after having issues with paying school fees, wants girls to know website isn’t that rosy

Jessica Hyer was studying at the University in Manchester and originally planned for it to be a short-term fix, but it ended up having damaging long-term consequences for the vulnerable student.

Becoming a ‘sugar baby’ on an established website was easy, but the ‘pay per dates’ arrangement soon became s3x work for Jess.

She became reliant on the large amounts of money she’d receive in exchange for dates and s3x with older men, she told the Manchester Evening News.

It was quick cash for the desperate 19-year-old, who had supported herself since leaving home aged 16.

For her, the reality of sugar daddy dating was far from glamorous.

In fact, it was dangerous and isolating for Jess, who has been left traumatised by some of the encounters she had with so-called ‘sugar daddies’.

Jess, who lives in south Manchester, now wants to lift the lid on 'sugar daddy dating' in a bid make young women and men aware of what it entails, and some of the risks.

The 24-year-old is also setting up a support network for so-called 'sugar babies', offering them safety advice, someone to talk to and advice on how to get back into regular work.

“The way sugar daddy dating has been glamorised is problematic,” says Jess.

“There are vulnerable girls and there are underrage girls who lie about their age on those websites.

“Don’t get me wrong, there are some girls who love it and have successful relationships with men on there. All the power to those.

“But the ones who need support, and have had awful experiences like myself, that’s what is important to me.

“People shouldn’t think it’s all rosy and glamorous because it’s not.”

Jess grew up on Stoops Estate in Burnley, one of the most impoverished postcodes in the UK, and left home when she was 16.

She went to college before gaining a place at the University of Manchester to study English and Drama.

A year into her studies, Jess was in what she describes as ‘financial ruin’.

She was £2,000 overdrawn - with an additional £800 on her credit card - and had to give £200 to her sister as well as £360 to friends.

Jess says she could not work because she was suffering from bipolar disorder and PTSD.

Claiming benefits was also out of the question because she was a university student.