Friday, December 6, 2019

Pregnant 20 year -old woman in a polyamorous relationship will raise baby girl with four dads

A 20-year-old woman in a polyamorous relationship with four men is pregnant and plans to raise the baby with all her lovers as the daddy.

Tory Ojeda lives with three of her partners in Jacksonville, Florida, and despite being in an open relationship she's the only one who has multiple partners.

Seven months ago, Tory found out that she was pregnant with a baby girl who they will welcome into their unconventional family in February.

She met one of her partners Marc, 18, in high school and then got into a relationship with Travis, 23, two months later.


Their love story began three years ago and she has since announced her engagement to Travis in July.

Then she also found love in their long-term mutual friend Ethan, 22, and Christopher, 22, who is the baby's father.

She said: “Chris is the biological father. We just know that because of timing and when the approximate conception date was.

“Based off of the approximate conception day, we had been on vacation. So it was only us.

“But as far as I guess, socially goes, we're all raising the baby together, so everyone's dad.

“We’re all very, very excited to be raising a baby together.”

Tory says that her boyfriends are “welcome” to pursue other people if they wish to - she even encourages the idea.

She told Barcroft TV: “Honestly, I would love it if somebody found a second partner.

“Dividing time and figuring out schedules between all five people and making sure everyone feels included, it’s kind of difficult.

“I’d like to not be the only woman in the relationship. That would definitely be nice.”

They all have their own bedrooms but her partners “swap in and out” of her bed each night, making sure each of them gets an “equal turn” in spending the night with Tory.

On the issue of jealousy, Ethan said: “There are a couple of healthy ways to deal with it. Primarily just talking to each other.”

She added: “There's always going to be like little moments of jealousy, it does take a certain amount of restraint and just getting relaxed. I will say it helps if you know the person.”

Despite their enthusiasm to raise a child as a five, some members of their respective families are yet to come around to their relationship and to the pregnancy news.

Tory said: “Most of my friends know all my partners and they love us and think that we’re cute and such. My family is kind of quiet about their disapproval.

“Polyamory is definitely an uncommon thing.
“A lot of people have grown up in monogamy culture of, you don't really love someone if you have eyes for somebody else.”

Christopher added: “My family is slowly coming around to the idea. The pregnancy has helped with that. But at the very beginning, I know my mother and father were hesitant about it.

“Her main concern was that she didn't like the idea of me having a partner who was not fulfilled with me alone.”

However Ethan’s family are “very active” in their support, along with Tory’s older brother, Alistair.

After having to overcome judgement in public spaces, Tory hopes that she will eventually see more acceptance of polyamory in wider society.


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