Widow devastated as husband passes away and in-laws ‘keep asking for his sperm’
Being struck by grief is enough to make anyone absolutely devastated.
But for one woman, the process has been even more difficult thanks to her in-laws.
The widow shared a thread on Reddit about the issues she has been having with her husband’s parents ever since he died – as she claimed they “keep asking for his sperm”.
She recalled how her hubby had frozen some of his sperm before he tragically lost his battle with cancer.
The woman said he froze the sperm in the hope that they could have children after his chemotherapy.
Asking the Internet to advise her on what to do, she said ever since his death his parents have been gunning for his sperm.
In her thread, the unnamed woman said: “Am I the a***hole for not wanting to give my late husband’s sperm to his parents?
“I’m sorry, I really tried to think of a less silly title.
“When my husband was diagnosed with cancer, we froze his sperm so we could have children via insemination even after chemotherapy.
“His parents were very involved in his treatment and were aware that we were doing this…
“His treatment was unfortunately unsuccessful, and he passed away on July 19th.
The woman continued: “His parents asked me if I was considering being inseminated with his sperm, and I said no.
“Then they asked me if I could transfer ownership of the sperm to them, so they could use it to have grandchildren.
“I assume they’re planning on hiring a surrogate for this, but I’ll admit I was so surprised and confused I didn’t actually ask.”
The woman continued by saying she thinks it is “exploitative” and “wrong”.
She said: “We froze his sperm because we wanted to raise a family together and freezing his sperm seemed like a better option than adopting or using a sperm donor, not because he wanted to give his parents grandkids or just put his DNA out into the world for the sake of it.
“I’m also confused about who they expect to raise this child or children, as they’re both in their 60s.”
She added: “The surrogate? One of their nieces or nephews? My husband had no siblings, and I certainly wouldn’t feel comfortable doing it.
“It feels like they just want their bloodline to continue without any thought to the practicality of it.”
Her post gathered a lot of attention and many rushed to share their views.
One commented: “First, I’m so sorry you lost your husband. Second, I’m sorry these people are your in-laws.
“Your husband has been gone for less than two weeks, and they’re circling like vultures asking you to make major decisions. They are grieving, too, but there’s just no excuse.
“Tell them that everything you’ve read suggests that it’s important not to make any major decisions for a year after a spouse’s death.
Tell them you appreciate them telling you what they’re thinking, but you’re going to table that and all other major decisions until a year has passed. Please don’t ask again.”
“To be fair, they are also grieving. This could be some outlandish thing in their minds right now, but once they process their grief they may not feel the same way,” commented another.