Reality TV star, Khafi Kareem- Ekpata has said a word of prayer for a critic who called her son ‘ugly’, saying that such a comment will not be used on the latter’s child.
The mother-of-one shared a screenshot of the comment on her Instagram post where a user said, “But why are you hiding your baby’s face? Is he ugly too?”
In response, Khafi decried the plight of women in the society, stating that females are labelled as ‘attention seekers’ when they speak up about their pains.
She shared the post as part of a challenge pioneered by Nigerian singer, Simi, where women share derogatory comments that they have received in the past.
For everyone who said I was lying or making up my previous post…
Women endure many unspeakable things and most times do so in silence. When they do share they get hit with labels like “attention seeker, liar” etc. We are so programmed to internalise hurt that when it is shared the hearer is more offended by the sharing than what actually happened. Regardless, I normally block and delete comments like this and keep it moving. But I’m guessing that is why @symplysimi started this challenge, because we shouldn’t have to. And if you feel offended by others sharing their truth, ask yourself why.
For Sharron who felt the need to say this, I pray no one says such about your children, born or unborn. My son is beautiful just like his Daddy and I hope my husband and I are able to raise our child in a way that he is so fortified in who he is in God that mean things like this don’t affect him, but not everyone is that fortunate. Wouldn’t it be easier if we were just nicer to each other? Every word shapes us, so I hope you’ll pick yours better in the future.